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Flirt, sexual humour and ready-for-use lines

Flirt, sexual humour and ready-for-use lines

flirt sexualThe humor is another characteristic (like the body language) that you can acquire before totally having the good state of mind. Well, you know it, seduction is a game: thus we are going to have fun!

 

The sexual humour :

I think that the objective of any interaction man/woman is to psychologically rape the position. So, the idea is to do as if SHE tried to pick you up! From now, use the humor as a weapon to invert the roles, then I will teach you later even more powerful techniques to get what you want. In the meantime, you dare and you have fun!!! Do not lose sight that it is a game!

Being a pain in the neck or an agitator is effective because she will not know if you are serious… and it is exactly this uncertainty which is going to turn her on. Being a “funny and sexual guy”, IE using the sexual humor, show that you do not need to please her by your words because you are desirable for what you deeply are. But don’t be mean at her for nothing. What happens implicitly must not be explicitly mentioned. Be “cool” !

Not talking about sex or avoiding the subject will let her think that you are afraid of this subject and thus that you will not be up to her expectations during the act. Also show that the contact does not make you feel uncomfortable. Be open! You are confident!

In other words, You are TEASING but you are not MEAN. You are sexual but you are not VULGAR and you are FUN but you are not a KID (you avoid speaking about wee-wee, poo, fart). Avoid THE BLACK OR NASTY HUMOR as long as you did not establish a real complicity because until that moment you do not really know how she is going to react. You can also be a LITTLE BIT CYNICAL guy, just like Doctor House.

 

The flirtation :

To flirt, it is to light the fire and to keep it alive… And it is your responsibility because the woman is conditioned, at least in our countries, to don’t start flirting before you.

In this way, you can :
– make fun of something ;
– say that you are not sure that the “relationship” can work (before any relationship) ;
– complaining excessively;
– acting like if you could take her or leave her (and in fact you can);
– tell her that she is a good friend or like a great sister (just a friend);
– tease her, annoy her ;
– be sarcastic;
– be too serious with regard to given a situation (create a gap) ;
– cross the acceptable social limits of the physical space, by being a player;
– interpret her sexual allusions : dare, enjoy yourself!

Maintain then the fire, for example by pulling away and by annoying her. Alternate the signals of interest and indifference. Make her live feelings thanks to your humor, dare things and especially, enjoy yourself… It is the main part ! Persons who can inspire you:
– Chuck Bass uses a sexual humor women often like ;
– Damon Salvatore proposes an interesting humor of confident male.
Because it is some TV shows, it is good, because there are more situations and quotes than in a movie.

Be original, use:
– Dry wit;
– Stoicism;
– Indifference ;
– Seriousness;
– Mystery ;
– Tension ;
– Provocation;
– Confidence and ease.
Stand firm, be arrogant and funny: you are part of the best men, and you know it.

It is YOU who provoke things. Be in a quiet and serene emotional state and the others will follow you. Beat her at her own game there: don’t be impressed by her qualities (even if it means bluffing) and give her funny nicknames.

Do not forget that you can go away at any moment because you master the game and because as an alpha, you have other numerous sexual options. So, she will not easily have the sensation that you can be tamed, acquired, possessed…

RULE: YOU HAVE FUN DURING AN INTERACTION.

If you do something that she likes, use the technique on/off/yes/no because the tension and the anticipation amplify the attraction. Indeed, the attraction develops in the imagination during the absence.

She has to try to amuse you: accuse her of making allusions or laugh at her small errors. Why not making fun of her… but always in a kind way ! Do not answer seriously her questions/tests so that she cannot have certainties about you. Always make underlying humor so that she wonders about your intentions. Think of a politically incorrect comment and make it funny. Be destabilizing but not a fucking asshole who lets stream off. Show a little too much confidence but make the other laugh. Do not stop if she says that she is upset but do not go too far. With experience, you will quickly learn to announce things!

RULE: YOU SHOW SOME CONFIDENCE, YOU ASSUME THE FACT THAT SHE LIKES YOU AND OF SPEAKING TO HER ABOUT SEX.

In fact, the women like that we play with their feelings (all their feelings). The humor is then one of the best ways to do so. If she has to go to the bathroom, tell her that she has your authorization. If she is lost in her thoughts, ask her if she thinking about you AGAIN. If she answers without developing (in a single word for example) “this is a very interesting answer”.

You understood that teasing a woman (being a player and dominant) informs that you are not boring unlinke the other dudes. Thus avoid giving to the girls direct positive answers. Surprise her! She has to say to herself that you are different. In fact, the women have no logic until proved otherwise (Sigmund Freud). The conclusion is : if you act in a logical way (or at least in a way which seems logical to YOU), she will drive you crazy by reacting in an insane way. On the other hand, if you act in an insane way, she will be more likely to act in a logical way. You have to know that, often, from the joke comes the light thus study with what people joke and you will learn a lot about what they really think.

Be inflexible and thus the first one to close a conversation. If she has no sense of humor: continue and explain every time. If she sets face: accuse her of not being funny. After all, there are always girls without humor, killjoys, etc.. Those are, generally, very bad in the bed. You will so make more quickly the sorting. Then there are also people who have such a moronic life that it pisses them off to meet somebody who appears to them feeling well in his skin, confident, etc. Those will try to pull you downward, to put you in their level.

If you meet a girl divested of humor, say “I’m kidding” or “I’m just teasing you”. Laugh when she is offended. Because the girls like playing the offended when we annoy them, you have to announce things to do not appear looking for approval there. Make breaks between the sentences or before a keyword to create suspense and contradict her from time to time but not on too sensitive subjects. When a girl secretly try to seduce you, play the “hard to get”. Amaze her, show her that she wants you, push her away. Don’t be too sarcastic either, that would push them away for good. Be a funny guy who conveys positive feelings. From a feminine point of view, a men with too much emotion and delicacy is synonymic of weakness… think about our friend James Bond!

“Why this big bag, what are you hiding?”
“You are wearing high heels, were you afraid of not being for my height?”
Make sure you say a funny thing: if she does not smile, it is not good. Buy a book about the humor if necessary. Make funny comments with an innocent face. Do not answer seriously her questions, but make her dream :
“What do you do for a living ?
– I am a model for Calvin Klein”.

– Interrogate her about your look “With or without glasses?”
– Imitate her.
– Role playing.
– Contradict her.
– Speak about taboos. “Tonight, I am going to corrupt you”.

If she criticize you, say “thank you” or “OK, and then?”. Roughly, you control everything and remain unmoved in front of her tests.

Interpret badly what she says or look for doubtful insinuations there. Avoid having a good laugh or smiling to your own lines. Do things and accuse her of doing them. To flirt, it is to send mixed messages. If she takes your hand, say “oh really, already?!” or “I love the girls who take the initiatives”.

They like when you are serious and when you go on with a joke, when you are hard verbally and soft physically. Kiss her then bite her, a soft thing alternated with a violent thing. Give her a slap on her buttocks then say “bravo : you are a good kisser”. Be unpredictable… but not unstable as a madman. You got it now !

Ah btw, a girl who plays the child or who takes advantage of a game to excite you “innocently”, it is almost won. The only thing to do then is daring!

 

To better understand the concept, some ready for use quotes :

(She didn’t answer you text) Are you already playing the inaccessible girl? Talk to me.

(Gainsbourg with a model) It is the bra, I do not know how to draw it. Maybe you could take it off ?
(Still with the model) Lucien, kiss me on the mouth… with the tongue…
– Hmm OK, if you insist, then you pose, I don’t want to pay you for nothing!
(Gainsbourg) Corrupting the youth, I like it.
(To Jane Birken) Do you really think it is a little rosbeef like you who will teach me elegance?
(To Bambou) You correspond to my esthetic criteria.
(To Bambou) On the horizontal plan, nobody has ever had to complain about my services.

(To a girl who asks a question which we can interpret in an ambiguous way) So you’re making an advance or a proposal?

(She accuses you of lying) You know, I said many things, then I do not remember any more.

(Compliment her with a margin of improvement to motivate her) Beautiful legs, perfect buttocks, I give you my the highest note … 9/10!

(She too much looks for compliments) Be careful, love, if you are fishing compliments there, you risk to get wet.

(She tries to pick you up) I am wrong or there is a light smell of flirtation in the air?

(To date her) If are you interested, we can meet again? In any case, I am not against this idea.

(She asks “how are you?”) Very good, like always (except a cold.)

(Leaving each other) Cordial handshake or soft kiss?

(“Cigarette?”) I don’t smoke, I do sport.

(She proposes a date to see you again) I will find a way.

(She tries to excite you) Then, to what extent you are conscious of your effect on males?

What makes you think that I’m gonna try to pick you up?

It is too soon to say if I like you.

I like when you drink, that makes you seductive. And confident.

I want to have a drink with you! To begin with…

“Here is my number, but don’t take advantage of it to harass me” or “use it well”.

(She) When will you forgive me?
– Maybe later when I will be very very old.

(If you have to stay with a girl into the same room) Do you think you are going to be able to refrain from touching me?

(She makes a compliment) Seriously… you say I am “cute everything” ?! You will have to find better than that!

(Put the pressure on her) The only thing that I want is kissing you. And not here (mouth) rather here (cunnilingus).

(A girl says you are a pervert) Wooo, I like it when you talk dirty.

(“Thank you”) If you’re looking for a way to thank me I have a couple of ideas.

(She tries to turn you on, it is necessary to encourage her) You, you have a talent.

(Game) I suggest a bet, if he calls : I leave you alone for good… if he does not call: you spend the night with me. Are you a player ?

Elle : Do you like me?
Lui : Precise “like”.

(I know you want me) You say it like if it was a bad thing…

(To the swimming pool) A 0-piece swimsuit would much more suit you!

(“What do we do?”) Let’s take our clothes off, stare at each other!

(She waited) If you thought that it was long, then you have no idea what I can do.

You have my word, for what it is worth.

(You make an indecent proposal) It is exactly… what you think it is !

(She says the weather is hot) Oh, it is never too hot.

(She says she is angry) I will find a way to be forgiven.

(Text message by night) Kisses, good night, but don’t make a habit, I’m not kind like that all the time.

(She says you’re short) I don’t care, I already made out with girls taller than me… and than you… several times!

(Send her a text in the morning) Wake up, marmot !

We are going to perform a magic trick, I am going to try to guess what you are thinking about………………………. Oh, you know if you want to see me naked, all what you have to do is ask ! 😉

I am an easy boy.

(She compliments you) Oh, you want me to turn red ? Bitchy !

Well, you have to adapt it to your style!

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Body language and seduction

Body language and seductionI already wrote an ebook (How to sublimate your body language) which answers all the questions (or almost) about the body language. As a consequence, I am simply going to talk about the fundamental things here.

1) The eye contact :

when you speak, look at the others in the eyes. More the one who speaks looks at the other one in the eyes, more he is perceived as dominating (= alpha). When you listen : less you look in the eyes, more you appear as dominating. Here is thus the idea: establish your dominance by making her look away the first one, then maintain her eye contact when she says something particularly interesting… The rest of the time, concentrate on the landscape, people around, something on the table, her hair, etc. But especially not on the other girls: indeed, a man who is successful does not waste his time watching the ass of all the girls around him; and it is exactly the image which you try to give. There are chances, moreover, that they try to get noticed by wondering what is going on (basic rule: remove your attention, but not too much, and they will try to get it back). If however you choose to watch other women, in this case, assume!

RULE : AS AN ALPHA, YOU ARE NOT NEEDY.
COROLLARY: YOU HAVE “DESIRE” FOR HER BUT YOU DON’T “NEED” HER.

Do not look at your feet, raise the head: you are confident, you know that nobody will cut your throat (nobody will dare to attack you because you are an alpha who inspires the respect). Naturally wink and keep your eyes half-closed, it will deliver the message that you are relaxed. Indeed, having the eyes wide open is a “not confident” attitude (afraid of everything because of the danger which is everywhere at any time). On the contrary, a girl has to feel SERENE with you, and if you want to make it happen, you have to feel like it the first one. The feelings are communicative…

Do not look down before answering a question: if you have to look somewhere else, it is at first in the air then on sides. Do not go either too far with this game of look, do not detail her from top to bottom: it would be a slightly too aggressive game! Furthermore, if you are perceived as too much dominating, you will lose in kindness. We are going to develop this subject a little later but male seduction is a kind of compromise between kindness and dominance! Look somewhere else from time to time when you speak to her or look at her in the eyes when she says something! Your eyes must be relaxed and at the same time confident (very sexual).

The best compromise:
– When she speaks: you look at her 10 % of the time.
– When you speak: you look at her 90 % of the time.
– Before looking away, especially the first time, she must have looked away the first one.

NB : We don’t care about the color of the eyes. The clear eyes tend to be insipid, but are classy. The dark eyes are classy too. The shape and the intensity are more important. Thus, if you have green lagoon or chestnut poo eyes, if they are big or hidden by hair, know that they contain your power of seduction… Thus don’t lose your time with lenses of color or I don’t know what. Some people see the reflection of the soul there, I see the first and easiest way to penetrate into a girl.

2) The touch :

When you touch a woman, do not hesitate. If she feels the doubt in you, she will feel the doubt in her. It is still this damned principle of association that comes into play! Furthermore, being confident is very virile and is a pure attitude of alpha male. Take her hand, lead her, put your arm at the bottom of her back. Do not especially wait for her authorization (either explicit or tacit)! It is easier to act as long as she does not say “no” than waiting that she says yes before acting.

Be soft because if you are abrupt, it demonstrates a lack of confidence. When you speak, it is normal to touch the others. It creates some rapport and people will better remember what you said. Only a confident guy can freely touch a woman. Furthermore, it has to look natural (we do not look at her hand while doing it – rather look at her in the eyes). Touch her fingers while she shows you her new ring, etc.

Fighting for a woman is an attitude of male who feels insecurity. However, if a poor guy really looks for you, then it will unfortunately be necessary to go there and to kick his ass. But showing some cold and not answering a stupid and free provocation is another attitude of alpha dominating male.

RULE: YOU DO NOT SHOW INSECURITY: YOU DO NOT HESITATE, CONFIDENT MOVEMENTS, YOU ARE NOT HYPERSENSITIVE, ETC.

Trick : do something that would do the boyfriend of the girl and, by association in her mind, you will become her lover during a short moment: you thus will score points. For example, when we are in love, we can do yucky things just like removing her crusts in the corner of her eyes… and the girls can find that cute! Otherwise, feign: tell her to close her eyes and remove an imaginary crumb of the corner of her lower lips. Furthermore, it is an erogenous zone which will produce sex hormones if you stimulate it. It is the technique said “of the lover”!

3) The voice :

The scholars discovered that approximately 60 % of the women could be seduced by a man who would have just a beautiful voice, and that approximately 40 % of the women would agree to have a sexual relation with a man who has a sensual voice rather than with a macho man who would have an unpleasant voice but who would be more handsome. The girls would even maybe not be conscious of it, thus it becomes even more interesting to take advantage of their primitive instinct during a conversation. Knowing how to place your voice is one of the factors which will allow you to sublimate your physical appearance.

Using a soft and low voice shows that you are a dominated who tries to please the other one: yet, looking for approval = weakling. Let yourselves go, express your opinions, send to hell the women who do not respect you (they will not be used to see this kind of reaction because most of the guys are deaths of hunger who would satisfy all the whims of the girls just to keep a small chance to sleep with them…) But especially, do not hesitate … The hesitation testifies of a lack of self-confidence. Having a break before an importing point will make you, on the other hand, appear more competent and will leave a better track in the memory of people. The dominant control the conversation, speak with a frank voice and interrupt if it is necessary. Be precise and concise… Especially when you lead the conversation.

RULE: YOU DO NOT LOOK FOR NOR WAIT FOR THE APPROVAL OF THE OTHERS.

Avoid the « euuuh », the incomplete words, do not speak too fast, either monotonously, or too long breaks, and do not finish by “right?” it would reveal once again a search for approval. On the contrary, you have to have convictions and assume your opinions. If she interrupts you and thus what you’re saying becomes incomprehensible, start again your sentence calmly from the beginning. Always do like if you slept with the girl for several months (adopt a deep, soft, sexual and relaxed voice…)

A study aimed at determining which tone of voice allowed to “successfully approach a girl and obtain a second date” (thus “being successful” or not). Roughly, it emerges from it that :
– It is necessary to vary the tone: you can use at the beginning a high and colored tone and from time to time a low and monotonous tone;
– It is also necessary to vary the articulation: speed and rhythm;
– It is also necessary to vary the intensity: use a strong and variable volume and suddenly a decrease (confidence, enthusiasm, heat, tenderness…)

Indeed, people who have not much success use, on the contrary, a middle tone all the time, a low and stable volume, their speed and rhythm of articulation do not vary.

Conclusion: it is necessary to know how to adapt to circumstances (be flexible) because going away from characteristics of the shy and introvert people allows to influence the emotional state of the interlocutors by making them feel comfortable more easily.

In France, Serge Gainsbourg is known for having a sexy voice which pleases the women. And moreover, his provocative words turn them on. Listening to radio presenters can also inspire you… because they underwent a training aimed at helping them to sublimate the way they speak.

Concretely : In the situations when we are put under stress, we feel our voice modifying. The reference voice in seduction is the voice without stress. For example, the morning in the awakening : deeper, more relaxed, slower and more natural. To look in confidence when we speak, it is necessary to avoid: to stutter or to be afraid, to leave in treble, to have a hesitating speech…

In the nature : an animal does not understand the words we say, on the other hand, it understands the tone and sometimes the intonation which it associates with actions. Did you know ? The shout of the lion is paralyzing: the sound influences the reactions of its targets. Yet, isn’t it the purpose, influencing the girls in the sense which arranges you ?

You understood it, the attitude is a whole thing… the tone of the voice contributes to create attraction:
– You are virile (deep voice, testosterone) ;
– You are confident (calm, slow, clear, articulated voice) ;
– You are mysterious (breaks (silences), suspense, prolonging a word);
– You have a sense of humor (not monotonous, rhythmical, melodic voice which plays on the increase and the decrease of the volume, by playing on more or less high sounds) ;
– You are the prize (you speak from time to time with a certain indifference);
– You are sexy (speak on the same tones than the sounds emitted during the sexual act).

In brief, you can work on your voice. On the other hand, you should not too much change your voice at the risk of being depersonalized. For that purpose, it is necessary to find YOUR deep voice of virile man (and not creating a new one). Fortunately, when you will find it, you will know it… simply because you will be in accordance with what you will show to world.

Illustration : Somebody who is shy will probably have an abdominal contraction which will make him show a lot of restraint and a lack of confidence. Somebody who wants to hide something, on the contrary, will overplay like the politics sometimes do it. And the malaise will be tangible. Below, five aspects on which you can work to create more interest:
– The confidence (you are confident, do not seem to lie, do not look for your words);
– The sensualism (your voice is hot, deep – but pay attention to do not do it too much to don’t be ridiculous) ;
– The control (articulate, slow down the flow, have breaks, silences) ;
– The contents (be quick on the draw, be cultivated, why not to making nice plays on words) ;
– Bonus (pay attention to your intonation, your laughter, your rhythm, your accent, etc.)

Conclusion: the tone of your deep voice is attractive because is in accordance with your personality. It has character, depth and is pleasant. Train in front of a mirror and/or you record yourself to really hear : work the intonations which displease you, reproduce those who please you, etc. For it:
– Choose a sentence and say it in several ways
– Then, contract your muscles and repeat it ten times
– Finally, loosen and relax more and more and repeat it more slowly
– Bravo, you normally found your deep voice in the last repetition. Memorize it!

4) The posture :

Basic rule: you are an open guy (you do not cross either your arms or your legs).

Up, you can put your thumbs in your belt. The idea, roughly, is that you make yourself vulnerable simply because you are afraid of nothing. Hold your joint hands limp in front of your breast or your face to communicate some confidence. Otherwise, hands on hips, it works too. To better understand the idea: you have to have some volume, class, even when you are in a club and when neither you dance nor drink, nor speak to a buddy, etc. You never look lost nor bored…

Seated, rest your forearm on the table by leaving your arms open (arms outspread, palms face each other and fingers are a little bent towards the sky). The open palms show that we feel at ease and honest. If they returned that means that you hide something … What would mean, that at an unconscious level, the communication would not be made in quite sincerity. Making a girl whom we court wary is one of the worse things to do. Last point, do not put obstacle between you and her (for example a drink held or put in front of your breast).

If you are not in a hurry to go somewhere, walk by being relaxed and by communicating some confidence as if you were the king of the world: you move your arms and your shoulders in an elegant way, your step is more hopping, etc.

Watch out, below the classic errors: read what you have to avoid to don’t break the sexual tension.
– Not having hands nor fingers which tremble;
– Don’t touch your own face when you speak;
– Don’t fiddle with things on the table, neither the table itself, nor knocking with the fingers;
– Don’t cross arms in a general way (you are open);
– Don’t stiff or bent posture (you are relaxed) ;
– Don’t show nervous tricks of the face (to wrinkle the forehead, to touch your nose, to pinch lips) ;
– Not too many smiles (only when the situation lends itself to it);
– Don’t be slumped on something, either stiff but shoulders at their place;
– Don’t turn the head as soon as one calls you because you are not at the disposal of people… remember that you want to seem independent, busy and a little bit detached ;
– Walk more as a model than as a duck (look at a fashion show).

Before going farther, I have to underline something FUNDEMENTAL: having in the head the good attitudes is a good thing but is not enough ! Then, train in front of a mirror or record yourself to realize what you really looks like… You could have surprises and avoid being ridiculous while thinking you have class ! For example, a right way to stand up straight is to learn what we feel when we actually stand up straight. For it: stick, up, back to a wall. Your heels have to touch the wall, your back must be straight against the wall, your head has to touch the wall and your look to be horizontal. Fold knees and keep the same contact against the wall with your back, your shoulders and the back of your skull. Hold the position at least 30 seconds and get up then walk by keeping the break down from your body. Here is how you have to feel when you are very straight ahead. Repeat the exercise every day until that becomes a second nature ! Well, if you really want to improve your game, of course. There is also an exercise to stand up straight by walking on the heels.

Study for example the body language of James Bond who is obviously a major reference …

5) Kindness and dominance :

It is necessary to keep the image of a nice guy, but not “too nice” : it would not be exciting enough for them. It is thus necessary to balance these two parameters that are the dominance and the kindness.

For example : When we speak to you, bending over communicates interest and thus kindness. However, it is necessary to be sure that the girl is interested before showing too much interest for her. Did you get it ? At first, you lean back, then, you can give the impression that it is easy to speak to you. Establish your dominance THEN be nice. This sequence is the key.

In the same vein:
– Direct your body to the target, only when the domination is established;
– Smiling also increases your capital kindness;
– Adopt an open and especially relaxed posture;
– Get dressed like people that you see frequently but just a little better;
– Dressing in clear colors and in relaxed clothes limits a little the dominance and increases the “nice” side, the dark colors and suits have the opposite effect;
– Speak with a pleasant, meaning, relaxed voice and look awakened (interested) ;
– Avoid having unpleasant expressions of the face;
– Do not look too much somewhere else when she speaks;
– Don’t be too much next to her for nothing;
– Avoid the uncomfortable positions (remember that you feel at ease everywhere).

Basic rules : A “seduced” girl will be more eccentric. To achieve this outcome :
– Push her friendly by walking;
– Push her slowly with your buttocks;
– Give her a small collusive blow in her ribs;
– Squeeze her knees with a player face.

RULE: YOU ARE A PLAYER.

Also show that you are capable of protecting her :
– Walk on the side of the road on the pavement;
– Open the doors… and especially, lead her;
– Cross your arms around her;
– Put yourselves between her and a possible threat.

RULE: WE FEEL SAFE WITH YOU, WE ALSO FEEL THAT WE ARE IN GOOD HANDS, THAT YOU KNOW WHERE YOU GO, ETC..

Show that you will be capable of leading her (in particular up to your bed):
– By going somewhere, you allow her to go first (secure place);
– When you go out, you lead her outside;
– You lead her where you want to take her.

RULE: YOU ARE A LEADER, IT IS YOU WHO DECIDE.

– Breathe with the belly rather than with the breast;
– Take more space with your body;
– Do not: look worried, raise shoulders, wrinkle the forehead, move non-stop arms / legs, have the muscles of the face contracted (tension);
– When we ask for your attention, turn around slowly;
– Relax muscles. Slow down your movements like if you walked in the water (slow, fluid). You will so create a charismatic aura.
– Occupy the space with your arms / legs / trunk;
– Be persuaded that you are the boss, that the others are there to follow you;
– Keep the neck and the back aligned;
– You must be convinced that you can ask anything to the others, in a polite way, without needing to order them nor to be unpleasant.

RULE : YOU ARE RELAXED, YOU SEEM COMFORTABLE AND YOU BEHAVE IN A GOOD WAY IN ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.

You have to pay attention on details:
– Remove the hands of your pockets;
– Have shoulders behind;
– Do not hide your hands;
– Raise your breast;
– Do not smile too much;
– Widen non-stop the width occupied by your body;
– Establish a steady eye contact;
– Have a posture and an approach of dominating, in confidence, have an upright position;
– Make slower movements;
– Look dead-ahead, or at the sky, but especially at not your feet.

RULE: YOU ARE OPEN.

Observe Chuck Bass’s body language, certainly studied and worked by professional coaches. What fascinates me with him it is that thanks to his attitude, he often comes before the fair-haired boy Nate (who is an absolute handsome boy) in the heart of the teenagers… Other: Tom Cruise in Top Gun, Damon Salvatore, etc.

6) Dominance in a group :

The theory wants that you are in the presence of the friends of the girl only after having fucked her… but well, it can happen (anything can happen.) then, anyway, to be AN alpha in a group, it is necessary:
– To be relaxed (nobody has influence on you);
– Let nobody affect your reality (if one tries to irritate you, do not fall into the trap);
– Don’t give a damn of what the other guys think (you look at them only when you speak to them);
– Respect the rules seen previously for the individual dominance.

You will maybe not be THE boss, but you will be close to the head… and, frankly, it is what matters. I see too often guys becoming intolerable because they had understood nothing: they tried to dominate everybody at all costs (too much egocentric persons). Being an alpha dominant male means, on the contrary, not crushing the others.

And what if there is the President at your table? This story of male alpha should not turn into a battle of ego in your head. Be realistic with this story of dominance! Concentrate on the fact of sending some male energy! On the other hand, being a good communicator has to be part of your seducer’s arsenal. And it is true in any circumstances.

RULE : KNOW HOW TO MAKE CONCESSIONS WITH THE MEN (AND WITH THE WOMEN) ACCORDING TO THE SITUATIONS.

A little precision to finish, prefer attracting away from her group a girl to whom you speak. The social pressure will be less strong for her, and she will more able to go as far as satisfying her lowest instincts !

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What we need to communicate to seduce

The narrow link between evolutionary psychology and the community of the seduction could be the object of a whole blog. But it is underlying in all the articles of this site. I thus will, for now, content with summarizing, with putting bases, what we necessarily need to understand the game.

The genes are selfish: they try to survive (reproduce) and it is them who act directly on what attracts us or not. The men as the women look for “good breeders” but the rules of selection are different according to the individuals. These rules dating the Stone Age, are always in action, but are thus not adapted anymore very well to the current civilized world. There are bugs : It is what makes that we sometimes end in aberrations like these hot nighters who would cut themselves an arm to bang the waiter stupid, ugly and full of drugs in the trendy club.

Psychology and communication > Physical appearance

The studies showed that approximately only 7% of what we communicate is communicated by our words. The rest of the message is passed on at an unconscious level by our physical language (55 %) and the intonation of our voice (38 %). By working on our physical language, we can thus act on the primitive instinct of the girl… and we can excite her sexually in spite of a physical appearance which would not necessarily have interested her at first sight.

As animals, human beings use primitive languages which seem imperceptible at first sight, at least for non-initiated. If the reflection farther grows, that is why there are customs appropriate to certain social classes: they are signs of recognition… and everybody can imitate them by putting willingness in it.

Of course, what we are going to try to communicate, it is the fact of being a “good breeder”. That we have “good genes”. One of the keys of the game is learning to do that.

The message

Biologically and unconsciously, the women try to couple with a male who has the best genes for them (and/or the best resources). They thus sort out as quickly as possible among the weaklings, those with whom they will have a purely friendly relation and the serious candidates for a sexual relation. It is natural : so it is useless to be mad at them for that… A man who has the good attitudes becomes as attractive for them as a girl who is a pure hottie would be attractive for us.

Thanks to a study of the evolutionary psychology, we can learn how to reproduce the attractive attitudes and how to avoid those which inform that we are not an interesting candidate.

The message which it is necessary to transmit by the physical language and the intonation of the voice is “it is me the alpha male, it is me who order and who choose you or not”. No matter what we say verbally, we try to act on the instinct of the girl (but do not neglect for all that the choice of your words). It allows to create some attraction at an unconscious level.

This way, we all have a potential because pleasing the girls is more a matter of psychology than of physical appearance. The culture and the society blur their instinct (long life to Walt Disney…) so the girls maybe do not even know what consciously really pleases them in fact.

The main difference

The millions of years of evolution which made our ancestors reproduce are still anchored in us (genetic memory) : The men have to reproduce as much as possible to be sure to assure their descent. That’s why males often have an instinct of polygamist. However, the girls because of the long period of gestation have no right to make mistakes, otherwise they pay it during nine months. They thus have to accurately and instinctively choose a good breeder. It is one of reasons which make that it is not logically easier to try to pick up an ugly not frustrated one! Ugly or not, she works in instinct and will even more try to compensate her physical appearances complex by looking for a beautiful guy. Furthermore, admitting that we are ugly is always very difficult and they prefer to be in denial by pissing off the entire world …

You understood this simple principle: the weakling sub-informs that he has bad genes while it is necessary to show on the contrary good alpha male genes. We so try to act on their subconscious. Personally, to train the tone of my voice and some of my postures, I try to see what works best “to submit” my dog. And I noticed that there are actually tones of voice and posture of the body which make that it obeys more or less well, more or less fast, etc. Hell yeah, I think that it is necessary to get in touch with the animal side of the girls!

A different programming

The women are not programmed as we are him towards the beauty: what they look for is more buried in them. The beauty, the money, the power, the popularity are factors which make them feel good feelings towards us… but we can transmit differently the same feelings: by the attitude.

It is necessary to be a virile ALPHA. For that purpose, you must at first be capable of being a leader in your own life: you choose the girls who enter it and not the opposite (typical of the guy who dates a girl by default). You have to be a fighter, you fight to have what you dream about, and your dreams oblige you to aim always farther, always higher (ambition).

You will have understood it: for the girls, the attraction is a matter of a process and thus evolves (more or less) according to your actions. On the other hand, for us, it is rather an event: there is attraction or not, and then it is everything (she is beautiful or young or not)! You thus have to act differently from the other men while remaining desirable. You will observe that if a girl feels that you understand her, she will try to impress you. Indeed, she will see something that she did not see often in her life and will try to keep it : a “real guy”. For that purpose, you are not a “ass kisser”, IE you do not tolerate the whims of the attractive girls. Behave as if she was AN OLD FRIEND: you evoke her small manias, you tease her and you make fun of her insecurities (you are not impressed by her beauty because you communicate that you are used to be with attractive girls). You remain friendly and player, the seduction is a game in any case, it is even for that that we call it “the Game” (in the community of the seduction)! According to the same logic, she has to understand that you can satisfy her without taking out your wallet. Do not especially go into the logic of the equation YOU + MONEY = SHE. It is one of reasons which make that a good seducer does not offer a drink to any girl just to have her attention in return.

Realize all the same that all the situations are different. Each woman has her own hierarchy of the qualities she looks for (example: social position > confidence > beautiful physical appearance). And within this hierarchy, there are different hierarchies: The waiter of the trendy club will be an alpha for the nighters who give some value to clubbing. He will be absolutely nothing for the girl who does not go to the nightclub and who doesn’t care about people who drink. The drug-addict will like very much a dealer or a rich guy who can pay her some powder. The sportswoman will like very much her ski instructor or her Yoga instructor or I don’t know who else… etc. Most of people know from the adolescence where they are on the hierarchy of the reproduction.

On the other hand, the criteria will not be the same according to if the woman selects a lover or a husband. In the second case, she will try to keep him (for example by praising her purity) and his resources will become a more important factor. Let’s note that we live in a feminist society because a man making a child to a woman then leaving her to reproduce somewhere else will often have to pay a pension, what will decrease his resources, so making him less attractive for the following woman. But the woman will prefer (instinct) to keep her man thus she will want to select him “not way better than her all the same” so that he does not leave at the first opportunity. Let’s note finally that our instinct is not made to live in a city where the temptation is omnipresent, it is what created so many sexual confusions and frustrations.

RULE: WOMEN LIKE SEX (IT IS A BIOLOGICAL NECESSITY) BUT ARE AFRAID OF LABELS LIKE “THE WHORE” (IT IS AN EFFECT OF THE SOCIETY)…

Show that you are not a frustrated guy: be happy that the others have good things in their life and appreciate with them. A real guy helps the others to develop. There are enough women for everybody !

Understand to finish the importance of the Halo effect: attractive and powerful people look more intelligent and confident than those of middle class.

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3 keys to FINALLY understand seduction

The seduction, a human science

The human sciences, just like all the sciences, try to define general laws according to variables. The only problem is that, in our case, the variables are much more numerous than in the other disciplines and most are difficult to quantify or even to collect.

It is thus the inverse approach which was chosen in evolutionary psychology : Instead of trying to list all the variables, the researcher considers those whom he knows and declares to do as if all the others were invariable. It is the sense of the expression “other things being equal” that is used and implied frequently always and everywhere on this blog.

For example, when we say that being tall and having big muscles offer a reproductive advantage, we imply “other things being equal”. In the real life, the advantage will not necessarily be very obvious. First of all, it is possible that the carrier of this genetic code never dares to approach a girl or is impotent, what does not question the principle of the advantage but its realization for the guy. Then, it is possible that this genetic code has other consequences going against the reproduction of its carrier : for example if the girl is traumatized for a reason or another and is afraid of big people (don’t laugh, I know some). In this case, it is naturally no more an advantage: the principle is questioned.

The expression “other things being equal” which is always implied in seduction thus shows the limits of the knowledge and reminds the caution which it is necessary to keep concerning their interpretation.

The pure model “man” and the pure model “woman”

All our senses and all our observations demonstrate us daily that men and women are extremely different. The most visible differences are found in the physical appearance : the primary and secondary sexual characters.

The intellectual differences are also obvious when we use the appropriate tests. For examples, the women have a verbal intelligence very superior to the one of the men : They will understand better the various senses of a sentence. They speak more and not with the same objectives: it is true in all the societies which were studied (universality of the influence of the genes). The feminine intuition allows her to understand better the relations between people, she will know very quickly who tries to seduce who, what is the emotional state of a couple, while the man will be strictly incapable of it most of the time. In contrast, the men are more capable in visuo-spatial intelligence: they dominate completely in the tests asking to reconstruct an image or in reading a road map.

It is necessary to understand, on the other hand, that these differences are not absolute. It is easy to find counter examples : Many women are taller than many men, even if ON AVERAGE, the women are smaller than the men. These differences correspond to a “archetype”, it is only about orientations. We are all situated somewhere on the scale going from pure “man” to pure “woman” but not to the extremities. For example, I think of having a “feminine” sensibility (without being homosexual) as regards the feminine psychology, what makes that I understand maybe better the women and more easily than the other men.

The reasoning to be held in seduction is much more subtle and complex than “to seduce THIS woman you have to do such thing and not such other thing no matter who you are and who you are dealing with” (what a nonsense) : it is about optimizations and about supposed predefined roles.

We ALL are governed by our genetic programming

We will thus work on what I call “the average girl”, the statistical girl. Of course, it is necessary to understand also that every person is different and can react differently (because of the expectations, the character of the subject, the education, the experience of life, the faiths, etc.)

However, the current studies show that the average figures for every behavior, expressed in percentage of the variance are, 50 % for the genetics, 40 % for the peers, and 10 % for the parental influence.

Every individual is thus determined at 50 % by his genes. It is true for the intelligence, his happiness, resistance in the diseases, stress, social success, etc. It seems more and more that the genes (and the prenatal life) define a maximum what will be reached unless the environment prevents it. In other words, the education and the fates of the life can destroy a potential, restrict it or on the contrary allowing to exploit it, possibly directing it but not developing it, and it is true in terms of sports, intellectual capacities, etc.

It is sad and amoral but it is TRUE. And it implies as consequence that what seduces every “pure model” woman is determined by her genetics. The game thus applied to understand it and used the evolutionary psychology to activate the levers which make the women “programmed” as women react.

If you want “to understand the women”, I recommend you to read works or blogs about evopsy because it is the basis of everything, in seduction.

I hope that you better understood why the seduction is a domain so delicate, and why the game works thanks to the logic of large numbers.

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10 characteristics to become an attractive man

The things which make the girls react :

You maybe wonder “how to make the girls like me ?” “how to become a womanizer” or in less soft version “how to turn women on” ? Being successful or not depends largely on your state of mind : what follows will help you to acquire “this little special thing” you maybe miss at the moment.

The women just have to look after their physical appearance to have more success. For us, men, it is different : our appearance is certainly important (“What is beautiful is good ” (Halo of beauty) but to a lesser extent. There are other ways to seduce the girls: Work above and it will be as if you were a big tuna who is transformed little by little into magnificent siren.

Imagine that you are in journey: It’s midnight, you are alone in a bar and you meet a girl… Not very beautiful, not yucky but not beautiful and a little bit fat. In brief, not terrible but fuckable “in secret”. You have nobody else in mind, then, what are you gonna do in the ideal? Going into your room and masturbate or sleeping with this average girl? Most of people will choose rationally the second option (and they would certainly be right). Well, it is the same thing for the average girl. I give some explanation: if you are “fuckable” IE the minimum criteria (not horrible nor deformed) and if you adopt a good attitude, then you will get your own way with the girls. What I want to say it is that, subject to not being eliminated by the physical appearance, there are other numerous manners to create the desire. Not with all the women of course, but with a sufficient number so that you can have more that you can humanely manage. 20-30% of your potential of attraction dependent on your physical appearance, it is not unimportant.

The button “physical attraction” turns or does not turn. That is thus of no use to compare with others to know if we are more or less hot than such or such competitor. However, more we are beautiful, more we activate the button on different girls … and we are not going to lie, that helps all the same strikingly because the girls are now brought up by seeing only Ian Somerhalder or Chace Crawford on the television or in magazines and think of being all princesses deserving a pure fantastically wealthy handsome boy (thank you, the new technologies!)

Except that, what is determining, it is not if she finds you beautiful but if she likes you or if you motivate her to sleep with you. Rather than by a body, they are excited by an attitude: There is only to see the number of girls who fell in love with the character of Serge Gainsbourg in 2009 when the movie Gainsbourg, vie héroïque came out. He was not beautiful but had class and emotionally stimulated women… what is the most important and we have a lot of problems with this understanding because as men (on average statistics of course) we use first and foremost the left part of our brain contrary to the women: they thus perceive the thing in a different way.

Three quick advice to improve your physical appearance anyway :
– Work out ;
– Eat healthily;
– Improve your look.

RULE: NEVER STOP TRYING TO IMPROVE YOUR PHYSICAL APPAREANCE.

Roughly, for men …
– The physical appearance represents 20 % of the power of attraction;
– The personality represents 80 % of this power of attraction.

It is the opposite for the women : Just like most of my readers would fuck a girl with objectively unacceptable behavior if she is hot… Most of the women would fuck a not beautiful guy if he has a stimulating attitude. Knowing how to make this change of view and accept that the women do not look at you exactly the same way you look at a woman is essential.

The seduction it is like a fishing trip. Imagine a fishing trip. It depends if you throw one bait or more. More you use and more numerous will be fishes which will bite. It is the same principle with the girls: a single bait can be enough for having touches but more you will throw and more you will have chances that girls rise to the bait (long life to the metaphors).

The list of 10 alpha male characteristics :

Let’s now see how to become more “fuckable” or “sexy” :

1) YOU LOOK CONFIDENT

– It seems you are afraid of nobody;
– You are not afraid of the glance of the others;
– It seems you know you have a high value.

2) YOU ARE POPULAR (MEN AND WOMEN)

– You know a lot of people and a lot of people knows you;
– Other women are interested, there is competition thus your value increases.

3) YOU REPRESENT THE AUTHORITY IN A DOMAIN

– When you speak, people listen carefully;
– You are a reference for certain people.

4) YOU ARE ENOUGH FOR YOUR HAPPINESS

– You do not put the pressure to the girls, no stress, no possessiveness;
– You are not in demand, nor needy, you are independent from others to feel good.

5) YOU ARE DYNAMIC

– You have a lot of passions;
– You have ambition;
– You are not apathetic.

6) YOU ARE FUNNY

– If she laughs with you it means that she appreciates you;
– You are not a clown, you rather practice the arrogant humor.

7) YOU ARE BELLIGERENT

– You are capable of protecting people who follow you;
– You don’t let yourself give into despair;
– You do what you decided and keep your word.

8) YOU ARE INTERESTING, MYSTERIOUS

– You make her live feelings;
– You are exciting emotionally;
– You are a challenge and a source of surprises for her.

9) YOU ARE STRONG

– You have a beautiful body;
– You are in form ;
– It is obvious that you will be capable of making her rise on cloud nine, with no problem at all.

10) YOU ARE MANLY BEAUTIFUL

– Some women say that you are “handsome” and/or “sexy” ;
– You are complimented whether it is on your look or on any other part of your body.

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I kissed her and she said “thank you”

This field report is related to the field report of the 07/04/2013.

June 30th 2012,

Sandra is one of my friends of the high school of whom I had lost sight since a moment because she did up several times her first year of medicine and because she now lives in Marseille… But I set foot almost never in this yucky city!

My relation with this girl was always special, I thought for a long time that she would be the woman of my life and the mother of my children although her legs open faster than a Google page. I’m not saying that I didn’t think to other girls but when she was there, no other one existed. What a lot of bullshit I made because of her! It was irrational because I did not see her often either but well « Out of sight, out of mind » does not really apply any more since we have the social networks. I was trapped, she was my Odette de Proust. I guess that I idealized her because she was not apparently the one who lived in my spirit, but I took time to realize it. It is not that I doubted my capacity to create interest with another one, but I was persuaded well and truly that she was THE woman whom I needed. Then, I waited for her, for a long time… The irony is : I am sure that it is this one itis which handicaped me and prevented from possessing her. She probably contributed strongly to what I became, by breaking my heart (boo boo). That would have been able to be different my dear, so bad that we both are so stupid and proud.

In brief, further to an invitation, she came visiting me in Aix: « Hello, party at my place on Saturday, come that is going to cheer you up » ; « I am not depressed but your message pleases me, I am going to come with a friend. »

Once everybody arrive, we let people party in the Lounge and we went to my room with Sandra the brunette and her friend Laura the blonde. We flirted a little, we made eyes, we touched more or less innocently, we took photos in naughty positions any tongues outside then Sandra informed her friend and told her: « I dare you to kiss him! » Now Laura jumped at the opportunity for kissing me (not specially drunk in addition if I trust her breath), and then challenged Sandra : « Your turn now! » Wow, I like being a man AND a sexual object ! I gathered both as we alternate Advil and Doliprane when we are stupid and sick… We got along well all three, even if it is obvious that Laura has the IQ of a Barbie (as well as the physical appearance, fortunately for her) and that amuses Sandra a lot to make fun of her friend. Me too btw, but politely : you know my legendary tact…

I said to Laura, like that, just for fun : « when do we make love ?
– Right now if you want… » I skip some useless events. At about 2 am, Sandra decided to go back home because she was tired (supposedly: she had too much fucked the day before with her Regular Sex Friend) then I took her aside by putting the blonde away, and told her that I would like to have her for me alone. She answered me that, for that, I should go to see her in Marseille ! I kissed her again, but this time, there was no more the pretext of the game to kiss in a hot way (deep kisses) ! We spoke again on Skype this morning and I went to see her in Marseille to spend the night with her. But this euphoria and this vain joy had a price: by leaving, I ran a red light, lost 4 points and paid 90€ of fine … It was less good.

Back in the narrative of the party : Once my two favorite dolls left, I was feeling « full of confidence ». I remember that another friend had invited a girl called Aurélie who told me: « I have already seen you somewhere …
– We certainly already kissed in a club », I spontaneously answered (It was a joke obviously seen that I did not know her, but she was a floozy conceited inhabitant of Aix, needless to say that it excites me!) It turns out that I had sent her in fact a poke one year or two ago which she had never answered! I still wonder how she was able to remember it (she probably doesn’t have a lot of things to think of or then she is a crazy weird psycho)… Then, I photographed people, moreover one shall say what we want but the one who has the camera has the power in the party, And at the moment, I photographed an English who started speaking to me (drunk). She took her coat while informing me that she went to the nightclub with her friends. I told her : « No, I want you to stay.
– Me too I wanna stay but they want to leave… » And at that very moment, I kissed her ! I remember it well because her answer surprised me, she told me « thank you ». It is maybe a custom across the Channel. Thus, the party continued… and at 3:30 am, we went into town with the last people who had stayed at my home. There, I realized with bewilderment that half of the club was in my apartment a few hours before! It was me the boss YEAHHHHH!!!!!

I spotted the English, have kissed her again immediately without other shape of trial. I stuck her to a wall then continued… After a while I took more and more initiatives : I fiddled with her more and more. At about 5 am, while I was occupied with making comings and goings on her clit through her jeans, she told me with her adorable accent « in order to do this, we have to go to your place ! »

Besides, pleasant surprise, when I got up naked : my roommate and her bestah already were cleaning everything. A clean flat in the morning : it made my day.

Good job, ladies.

May the God of the Game be with you!