Is a 9 / 10 more difficult to seduce than a 7 ? That would make sense : like in a video game, the difficulty increases with the level. It is absolutely not applicable in seduction. Video games are not real life, real life in which psychology plays a role.7 and 8 are approached often, and often by big suckers, by the way. It is then necessary to fight against the competition and try to stand out at all costs.
7 and 8 get big-headed, exactly because they feel more powerful than the 10. Indeed, because they less intimidate guys, they can fuck quality guys more easily. But, they realize at the bottom of themselves that they are not THAT HOT (I’m mean when I write such a thing) then they do not really respect those guys. A little bit like if they had the impression that they came towards them by ease.
When the girl embodies what turn us on in the magazines, it is easy to imagine a wild competition with all other men of the city. Complexes and limiting faiths will appear and you will be tempted to auto-refrain yourself from success. Weirdoes, perverts, shy persons… she meets a lot of them. Including guys who are perfectly normal the rest of the time, but who become a little stupid in front of her.
The average guy does not dare to approach a 9 or a 10… even less maintaining her eye contact. Furthermore, the techniques of the Game are made to be applied to this kind of girls. Beautiful women are thus more pleasant to try to pick up, but also easier to bang and in case of failure it is less humiliating. Unfortunately, they are rare.
An important thing here : be convinced that, you too, you deserve to touch girls like that in your life. It will help…
To conclude, seduction is not a competition nor a war against the other sex (it is not the reason why Sun Tzu is quoted on the forums or in The Game). Considering women as enemies is a mistake : it’s not surprising in such a case that guys develop some approach anxiety (who would go gladly in the front line during a war?). Moreover, when soldiers were sent to fight, they were supposed to drink some alcohol before, and when I see guys getting drunk before finding the courage to try to pick up a girl, it reminds me this fact. Such a state of mind would damage your capacity of empathy, your nonverbal communication and your sensibility concerning the real needs of your darling. It is so much easier to converse with someone when we adopt a cooperative mode… Last advice, if you succeed in making out with the HB10 (I wish you to succeed) avoid falling into the trap of jealousy. You would lose her…
In brief, I’m not saying that this reasoning is universally true. But it deserves that we think about it during a few minutes. What do you think ?
According to Mystery, a girl :
– 6/10 = fuckable ;
– 7/10 = cute ;
– 8/10 = beautiful ;
– 9/10 = handsome ;
– 10/10 = perfect.
I don’t really like this rating system because it is more a statistical exercise than the expression of a personal taste. Seduction being a subjective science, it’s a problem. I develop.
From a purely “artistic” point of view, there should be 1 girl on 200 who deserves her mention 10/10 (skin, eyes, lips, eyebrows, beautiful face, tall, thin, with proportioned forms). Most of the time, they are moreover very young. Why is it a problem in the daily life ?
When I go out, just like every realistic human being I suppose, I am interested in the kind of girl that excites ME… or at least who charms me. Sarah Jessica Parker for example, has a big nose, but I don’t really know why: I find it cute on her. I find her sexy while others would certainly next her without noticing her or even would find her downright ugly. The personal history enormously comes into play in the sexual tastes (just like in the gustative tastes).
What is necessary to understand, it is that the girls in the magazines (that our society set up us as models) corresponds to an average of the individual preferences. The famous statistics. A kind of compromise with the personal stories of everybody. Roughly, if more people find Bar Refaeli more beautiful than my neighbor of landing (who is beautiful too): it doesn’t mean that she is intrinsically more attractive than her. Especially that these images that society set up to us in model are photoshoped : the models in magazines themselves do not look like their own image. Then YES, I love girls with a perfect body&face. But it’s not a end in itself, and I shall not be less demanding with a 10 than with a 7.
« The bottle does not matter as much as the drunkenness » some would say… I don’t really agree, and I hate the girls who behave like if men owed them everything because they have a vagina and a little bit of charm. Especially that most should learn modesty… because being a mindless idiot spoils everything.
Conclusion : beauty does not place above the rest of Humanity – hotties do number two like us. Furthermore, a model but who is a girl with problems should scare you off. That is not worth complicating things. On the other hand, it is sure that a girl at ease with herself, magnificent, intelligent, etc. it’s always better 😉
Well. On the other hand, a girl you find top : it does not mean that she is inaccessible. She can even find some you charm if you remind her her grandfather she loves so much for example. Lesson of life: always try your luck. No regrets. Furthermore, we are attracted by what looks like us, thus chances are she is attracted by you too. And finally, more she is desired, more guys don’t dare to try their luck, thus more you will stand out when doing it (and will score points).
The number after HB should thus serve to quantify the desire we feel for the target in term of physical appearance… and not being significant of the “imagined” difficulty of the Game. Every girl is different and an ugly one is not necessarily easier to pick up than a cute one. Even rarely. Roughly, I remember some girls I banged at the beginning of my career who were 8 to me and now I would give them no more than a 6 with hindsight. Nevertheless, when I picked them up, they excited me like a 8, it was thus a game for HB8… for a guy full of illusions but it is necessary to start somewhere then I do not want to kill your joy. She is a HB8 if she attracts me like a 8/10 not if I think that she would attract all other guys. Let’s try to pick up the girls we like, not those we are supposed to like because of the social pressure (or because of the fact that they were preset by other guys). We would be happier even if she does not seduce a lot of people. It is a world map that can make you happier (attention I am not advising you to fuck a ugly girl and to convince yourself that she is beautiful but to be happy with a cute girl even if she is not “perfect”). Period.
Last thing, seduction is a joke. You can be rejected by a 4 and go back home with a 8 just after. « Taste and colours are not always the same… » I talk a lot about this dark side of seduction in The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations. Ah yes, and do not listen to the guys who are going to give a bad note to your conquest because she did not choose them. Nor to the guys who give an extravagantly good note just because the girl chose them. These two attitudes are commonplace. Listen to yourself…
I still can remember the erotic movies I recorded discreetly, on Sundays evenings, on the video recorder of my parents.
Since the coming of Internet, pornography is so accessible that this industry was engaged in a real overbid to conquer a public more and more greedy for strong sensations. Some practices formerly considered as scandalous before were trivialized but it is especially the excesses of masturbation that worry the sex therapists : it is one of the big plagues of the modern sexuality.
Pornography (often abbreviated as “porn” or “porno” in informal usage) is the “accommodating representation – with sexual character – of subjects, obscene details, in an artistic, literary or film work”. The term becomes confused with its perception through the prism of the pornographic movies of today : a representation of sexual acts having for only purpose to sexually turn on the spectator. So, the actress Tiffany Hopkins defines it as “an object of entertainment which aim at masturbation”. An immense industry of pornography consumption appeared thanks to the use of video cassettes, DVD, and Internet. The amateur pornography also became very popular and distributes free of charge via internet.
Most of the guys are happy that their sexual life amounts to watch porns on the Internet. They are maybe not really excited, but they are satisfied. It justifies the fact that most of the men do not make the effort to go out to meet women in order to fuck them. Picking up women is very time-consuming and dangerous while masturbation is easy and without risk. Their sexual satisfaction is not any more their concern. But they miss something all the same… This connection with a woman. This feeling of being loved… affection! And you (fortunately) cannot download some feminine affection on the Internet. To get some affection, you have to learn how to get in touch with your animal side, your sexual side. If you really appreciate this feminine energy, you would do better to learn how to become a sexual threat.
But the “wankers” version 2.0 show a loss of appetite for real sex, insomnias, losses of motivation, irritability, depression. Masturbation is thus a kind of drug. Then yes it is something common (especially for young people), just like alcoholism, but it is not deprived of any risk. When the brain does not produce enough dopamine because of an excessive practice of this sport that does not make people become deaf, we thus observe anxiety, a reduced sexual drive, apathy… Furthermore, the excessive ejaculation acts as a brake in your enthusiasm: body regulates otherwise you would never stop to eat, drink or sleep… and would die. Nature being well made, when we do it too much, we lose the relaxing effects of sex and we find ourselves with a kind of hangover.
Dopamine is nevertheless an essential element of human well-being, it plays a role in the circuit of the reward, by encouraging:
– The risk-taking;
– The motivation;
– The concentration;
– The gaiety;
– The pleasure;
– The anticipation.
Stopping (and not just decreasing) sometimes would allow to observe if yes or not you are addict. If withdrawal symptoms appeared, it would reveal the gravity of the problem and should encourage you to stop it for good.
That was the theory, now: practice. The only rational way of getting out of the habit of masturbation and of having quick results: it is fast seduction. As soon as you will understand that it is possible to seduce a woman quickly and to sleep with her that same night/day, masturbation will not be any more your only option to satisfy yourself immediately. You will be excited at the idea of going out to meet women because you will know that it is possible to get your pleasure quickly. Every day of the week, day and night.
Profits will be worth it : when they stop, subjects feel more energetic, sociable, joyful : it will strongly contribute to boost your REAL sexual life. It is all the same better than a VIRTUAL sexual life! Brain will relaunch little by little its normal production of dopamine but it will be necessary to wait longer to get rid of the habit itself. If it can make you feel better, there will be no effect on your production of testosterone. Slow down (not you girls :p) !
Physical masturbation, just like intellectual masturbation, thus leads straight ahead to inactivity with the women. Fucking vicious circle!
Top Gun is a 1986 American action drama film directed by Tony Scott, and produced by Don Simpson and Jerry Bruckheimer, in association with Paramount Pictures. The screenplay was written by Jim Cash and Jack Epps, Jr., and was inspired by the article “Top Guns” written by Ehud Yonay for California magazine.
The film stars Tom Cruise, Kelly McGillis, Val Kilmer, Anthony Edwards, and Tom Skerritt. Cruise plays Lieutenant Pete “Maverick” Mitchell, a young Naval aviator aboard the aircraft carrier USS Enterprise. He and his Radar Intercept Officer (RIO) Nick “Goose” Bradshaw (Edwards) are given the chance to train at the Navy’s Fighter Weapons School at Miramar in San Diego.
It lasts 110 minutes.
Top gun & séduction
Tom Cruise’s body language in this movie became cult within the community of the seduction. It even became the prototype. In The Game, Neil Strauss tells that he watched this movie again and again to adopt the body language of pure alpha of the actor. Btw, I talk about it in my ebook “How to sublimate your body language” (like Tom Cruise).
In the literature of the seduction, another reference to Top Gun inspired me. It is about what wrote David de Angelo in The attraction is not a choice :
We don’t realize how much we want the things we have… until we lose them, that is. How about making someone want something new, by giving it to them and then taking it away?
Sometimes a woman will be open and warm and other times, she’ll be closed and cold. This can be because of all kinds of different factors… how you’re acting, how she’s feeling, the setting you’re in, what’s on her mind, or what kinds of hormones are running through her body.
I want to talk about a technique that I’ve found works in almost ALL of these situations. A natural extension of my ideas about teasing and playing hard to get is what I call, “TAKING TWO STEPS FORWARD AND ONE STEP BACK.”
Now, when most people hear this phrase, they think of problems arising that cause a loss of ground that has to be reclaimed before moving on, or a setback that has to be overcome before proceeding further. What I’m talking about is DELIBERATELY stopping when things are WORKING in order to ACCELERATE the process.
What? Did I just say to stop something that’s working in order to be successful? I sure did. And if you pay attention to what I’m about to share with you, you’ll learn one of the most profound and important lessons about how to be more successful with women and dating.
Here it is in a nutshell:
If you’re doing something that you can tell she likes, stop doing it, then wait a while and start doing it again. This on/off/on/off sequence is ULTRA powerful in creating a magnetic ATTRACTION inside of her.
I personally believe that two factors that AMPLIFY a woman’s ATTRACTING to a man are the concepts of TENSION and ANTICIPATION.
Tension is that feeling in your chest that you get when you know something exciting could happen at any minute.
If you can learn how to take control of these feelings and help her experience them as a result of being around you, then you will DRAMATICALLY improve your success with women. If you want to see a great example of this principle at work, go rent the movie TOP GUN.
Watch how Tom Cruise handles the situations with Kelly McGillis… they’re PERFECT examples of how to do what I’m teaching.
Here are two of my favorites:
1) They’ve just finished eating dinner, and they’re talking. She looks at him and says, “This is going to be complicated”, implying that she’s falling for him. What would most guys do if they were getting a green light like this one? They’d probably make a pass at her and kiss her.
Not Tom. He looks at her, then gets up and says, “I’m going to take a shower.” At first, it would seem that he was going to walk into HER shower and take it, but no… he walks out, gets on his motorcycle and rides off.
2) In the elevator scene… Tom stops the elevator and leans in close to her. You can see that she’s feeling shy and anxious… but does he kiss her? No. He leans back after that moment, makes a cute remark and leaves. What’s going on here? The first time I saw these scenes many years ago, I just thought that he was too shy to make a move.
Now I understand what’s going on here. He is VERY DELIBERATELY creating TENSION and ANTICIPATION inside of her. He is, in effect, saying to her, “I know that I could make a move right now, but I CHOOSE not. I’m going to keep you guessing… make no mistake about it, I’M IN CONTROL OF MYSELF here.” By the way, when you watch these scenes, watch his body language and facial expressions. Notice that he doesn’t smile too much, and he plays the part perfectly. Watch and learn.
So how can you use this if you don’t happen to be one of the top movie stars of all time and have a $40 million aircraft to enhance your image? Simple. Just notice when she likes something that you’re doing, and then stop. Lean back. Tease a little bit.
If you’ve started holding her hand and you can tell that she likes it, STOP. Take your hand away for a few minutes, then talk about something else. Just when she doesn’t know if you’re going to do it again, take her hand again.
If you’ve started kissing, STOP. Lean back. Look at her with a “I know you want to kiss me” look and give her a slight, sly smile. If you learn how to take two steps forward and one step back, it will ACCELERATE your success with women.
Last but not least, I advise you to watch this movie for the cocky&funny lines that Tom Cruise practises in this movie.
A lot of people criticizes Tom Cruise saying that he is short and has a big nose, but we have to face the facts: He succeed in life and he slept with magnificent women (Penelope Cruz, Nicole Kidman, Katie Holmes…) Moreover, in the movie, he gang-bangs on his own a girl older than him and far from being ugly (his instructor).
So, jealousy is useless, let’s be humble and let’s learn what we can learn from him.
Masters of Sex is an American period drama television series. It is based on Thomas Maier’s biography Masters of Sex: The Life and Times of William Masters and Virginia Johnson, the Couple Who Taught America How to Love. Set in the 1950s and 1960s, the series tells the true story of Dr. William Masters and Virginia Johnson. The series has received critical acclaim, including a Golden Globe Award nomination for Best Drama Series in 2013.
Set in the 1950s through the early 1960s, the series explores the research and the relationship between two pioneering researchers of human sexuality at Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri.
Why should you watch this show (and not only because the actresses are hot) ?
I find this show very relevant on the themes of the sexuality in itself, of gender relations and of the way people react when one talks about sex.
Below, 5 reasons why you should watch this show and what you will learn about our contemporaries.
#1 : You will see that people generally knew nothing about sexuality, but did not want to speak about it.
It was nevertheless a taboo that wasn’t really taboo. Even today and for many people, being interested in sex, in pick up or in gender relations… it’s a shame… but knowing nothing about that, it’s a shame too. It is an enormous paradox that still exists today : people would like to know without having learned anything. Often I enjoy pushing the average women in their faults. When I speak about sex with them, often I hear that I am a monster. Then I ask them if they have very few experience to be so shocked, and they answer that it is me who am a virgin and that they know everything about the subject. Hum hum, looks like they’re hiding something !
#2 : The study of the doctor was censored and he was thought of as a pervert, just because he wanted to show scientifically what happens in the human body during a sexual intercourse.
Nevertheless his study was very interesting: how long is an average sexual intercourse? What are the differences between the feminine orgasm and the male orgasm? Who has most pleasure during love… the man or the woman ?
In spite of what the society try to persuade us, we are still very puritanical. It is maybe necessary to realize it right now. We are certainly less uptight compared with this period, but it is still not awesome : I see in this show so many reactions that I meet every day on the field or when I say something about my blog to people. It seems that I am a virgin, a jerk, a monster, a pervert, a sociopath. And then I ask why, they can’t explain it to me. The theme of my blog is apparently enough to raise their ire.
It is not because there is a little more sex suggested on TV than before that our society finally took its broom out of its ass. Nor because people declare they know everything about the subject: very often, when we dig a little, we notice that they know nothing. And that they feel like they have to lie. That they have reactions dictated and formated by social pressure.
#3 : Many men thought of being essential to the woman to have orgasms.
Some did not even suspect that women can feign. Oh fuck… it is still the case today. Often on the field, when I speak about my blog, I fall on frustrated silly bitches. Often, it takes place like “I am sure you have a small cock, you cannot make a girl come.
– Oh really ? You’re wrong, recently, on 10 girls I made 9 come… several times. The other had personal problems.
– Ahahah I am going to teach you something! You don’t know that girls we feign!!!
– Yeah I know it, in order to make the guy come faster because they are fed up with sex.
– Exactly.
– But I know the other symptoms of the orgasm, those you cannot feign: the contractions of the stomach, of the vagina, the breath that accelerates, etc..
– … (generally they shut up).
Wake up ! it means that most of the guys are worthless in the bed, they know nothing. But it is not a shame, it is just necessary to have the humility to recognize it and to learn! I was laughing out loud when I learnt that Freud considered the women who had no vaginal, but only clitoral, orgasm as immature kids. It is really a shitty explanation. Very easy for the man !
#4 : At all time, there were women more freed than others, and they were pointed by stupid people.
We attend in this show at the beginning of the practice of the blowjob and we see that the cunnilingus… was really degrading to men. Even today, a lot of women know more about sex than men and it frightens men. They prefer staying in their zone of comfort… very few know how to properly lick a pussy. Instead of trying to improve, they declare that these girls (those who masturbate for example) are whores who do not deserve them. Problem solved. Even the girls who have several “sex-friends” fall into this category today in the eyes of many men… and women (who so hinder their own freedom)… it’s sad. But I think that they scare people because they send people back to their own limits.
#5 : We notice the stinginess of people.
They want at all costs keeping in mind the image of the submitted woman… who has to be pure, innocent, weak, etc. So they get back at each other, etc. What about people who know only one sexual position : the missionary? What about the dean of the university, homosexual, who refuses to subsidize the sex study because he finds it not moral… then who bangs a gigolo in a dirty hotel while he is married?
In brief, I could write a lot more about this (true) story but I prefer to let you discover it by yourself. In any case, I always write the same conclusion : you should not listen to the politically correct people (the same people who leaves resentful comments on my blog). People like me have always been criticized, apparently. Maybe are we slightly too ahead of our time. In any case I hope I have tempted you to read my book The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations because I have not found yet anything to question it, even more than one and a half year after having written it.
The bottom line is : the open-mindedness, although all people think of being endowed with it, is really rare.
Patrick Jane is fucking good at observation and deduction, where from his nickname “the mentalist” (his help allows the CBI to find and stop killers). Very clever, he also practises hypnosis, NLP, suggestion, manipulation and cold reading (among others). He has an incredible memory too.
He has a cheerful, provocative nature, and has certain contempt for regulations. He has for habit to always do it his way. He always seems to find the answers before everybody, and finds some sort of sick pleasure in doubling people while repeating that mediums do not exist. Therefore, people consider him as a boaster… He likes lying but his frankness often attracts him the anger of his hierarchy during investigations involving important people. He sometimes shows a certain detachment and kept his childish side: for example, when he builds a sand castle on a crime scene.
He always wears an impeccable suit. On one hand because being trim is a trump card in communication and persuasion… and on the other hand because as a “magician”, he needs many pockets to hide things.
What can he teach us in seduction ?
In the episode 14 of the season 1, Patrick Jane comments on the game. I advise you of course to watch the episode (so you can also see his excellent body language although a bit phonehead – but he is charming and alpha thanks to his mastery of human interactions).
Here are the 10 teachings of the mentalist about seduction. To seduce…
#1 : it is enough to understand the evolutionary psychology of women and to apply its principles step by step. By knowing what buttons to press.
It is what we do on this blog, by being interested in the evolutionary psychology.
#2 : there are several methods of seduction that are equal, several ways to succeed.
We also speak about it on this blog : Mystery method, fast seduction, speed seduction, etc. Have a look at my translation of Game Acceleration for more information. However, we cannot really say that all the methods are equal.
#3 : women want independent guys who can live without them, they need to feel dominated and they dream about action, adventure and surprises.
It is more or less the principle of the alpha male.
#4 : the purpose is to make women have a good time. And if we leave them, to leave on good terms.
Actually, it is a good state of mind. We are not there to hurt women, neither to break their heart, nor to be misogynous. However, we have to have fun too.
#5 : even for the professionals of the techniques of seduction, it is far from working every time… but the secret is that you should never admit defeat. When you are good, an idea of order of magnitude is 1/10.
When I write that there is no magic formula, some people are sceptical. Like “he says so because he did not find it, this idiot “. Now that Mentalist told it to you, maybe will you believe it ?
#6 : why a guy sound in mind wouldn’t try to pick up an attractive girl?
It is a question I often ask myself. And it is a helpful mindset.
#7 : never depend on the goodwill of a single woman because you would be too often disappointed.
Not only the women can be broken-hearted or have their ego that suffers. Besides, with the social pressure and everything, we note an outbreak of the number of flakes. Thus, it is the principle of diversification that allows to don’t attach too much importance to the result. It is not here a question of tyrannizing her nor of letting her fall in love without feeling something for her… But rather to don’t have too much feelings for her before being sure that she is really interested and that the relationship can work.
#8 : the women who want that a guy comes talking to them look furtively but rarely assume.
It’s true ! With experiment, we can easily learn how to recognize a eye contact that means “I want to see you naked”.
#9 : the keys = alpha, strong, relaxed, confident face, the opener is finally not that important.
#10 : The principle: make them talk about themselves.
I speak about this technique in my other ebook. Indeed, people generally like talking about themselves. To seduce, speak to people about what they are interested in and be genuinely interested in them. Everybody has something to offer. It was the politically correct and optimistic minute!
Is a 9 / 10 more difficult to seduce than a 7 ? That would make sense : like in a video game, the difficulty increases with the level. It is absolutely not applicable in seduction. Video games are not real life, real life in which psychology plays a role.7 and 8 are approached often, and often by big suckers, by the way. It is then necessary to fight against the competition and try to stand out at all costs.
WHAT ABOUT THE SYSTEM OF NOTATION IN SEDUCTION ?
I still can remember the erotic movies I recorded discreetly, on Sundays evenings, on the video recorder of my parents.
