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Month: December 2015
I went to the Eroticism Show in Lyon
Last weekend, I went to the Eroticism Show in Lyon.
I was aghast: first of all in this stuff, they make you pay the entrance. But you pay for what? They make you pay to access the stands where you can buy things (sextoys, fluorescent condoms, accessories, clothing, lingerie).
Frankly, isn’t it a big joke? Anyway, whatever, I’m not a sucker. Basically, I went there (not by curiosity as would say a girl who does not assume) but to approach libertine girls. There were actually not much to approach: only couples and men. There was all the same two or three groups of girls that I have approached but they were lesbians.
Then there were free shows : strippers dancing, playing with fire, undressing. Downside: most are smashing but not handsome. By the way, strippers are still often prettier than porn actresses anyway. That’s what I noticed.
There was a guy stripper too, who made his show, he wanted to warm the ladies: a guy, a fucking bodybuilder (too muscular for an ordinary mortal). Not beautiful, not tall, just very muscular. He pretended to undress but we never saw his cock. It’s a little bit ridiculous, I think. Does he have a small cock or what? In any case, to warm a woman through photos on Snapchat or anything: you have understood, never show your gun unless you can use it. This is how the professionals do. For the girls who want to strip, it is based on slow and anticipation. Like, before removing their string, they make a break then take it down completely!
For the modest sum of € 10, you could attend a filming of a porn movie scene. So I was pretty “curious” to see that. There was the actress Kelly Pix (apparently she is famous in the world of porn but I know no one except Jacquie and Michel). At least she has not fake boobs, that’s something!
In this show: she arrives on stage disguised as a policewoman and begins to touch roughly her pussy with her baton. Then comes a prisoner, Tony Caliano. She made him sit down and abruptly pulls out his big cock (something huge it’s really excessive) and begins to suck it greedily (he was hard yet does it take drugs?). Then he fucks her (still without hug, kiss, nothing) in several positions and she cums (not him). Frankly boring. Zero. A waste of time. A purely mechanical sex. Not what I like! It was impersonal. I have not even felt the beginning of an erection, rather a vague sense of unease.
The funniest was the leader: a real cartoon of a guy who works in porn (porn producer). A guy with no hair, short, fat, vulgar loudmouth. His punchline “ass, it is not only useful to sit down.” Lol! I was wondering if these guys really fuck the hotties from the world of the X (like in the cliché) or not.
In the alleys, I have been approached several times by girls. In fact, the concept is that fucking sex-bombs smile you. They do like sluts. And if you smile back, they approach you “do you want a lapdance?
– Fuck yeah, what’s the price?
– €60 for two dances ie 7mn, €100 for a sextoy show. ”
Damn !!! She must be very hot so it worth it. I’m talking about the sexy dancing, because the show with dildos, it’s not my cup of tea. Chicks try to make you feel guilty when you say no, “I am not to your taste, right?” Frankly, they all are not beautiful. And when you propose them to meet up outside or give to give you their number “it’s forbidden by my boss.”
I toured all the stands, sometimes it was the pimp who approached me “you seem timid
– Yes very.
– Do you want a young novice in the world of porn? a future star? for € 80 she give you a show and then because you’re young and not aggressive who knows what can happen…” Seriously! The guy hopes I’ll believe that. Like if the girl was going to shake you and suck you. He sells dreams. There’s not written pigeon on my forehead! I’m not a guy missing in lack of sex led by the end of his dick!
The guys who bought a strip then waited that the girl is done with her previous customers. I remember the usual prices of prostitutes: €30 a blowjob, € 50 sex. So, for that matter, I’d rather buy a pure hottie prostitute at the Spanish border for fun.
Finally, there was a Jacquie et Michel stand that had put an ad like what they were looking for actors/actresses. I asked how much it was paid €200 for guys and €300 for women for a scene which lasts on average between 1 and 2 hours. By cons, they take only single women or couples … how surprising . Bis repetita, I wonder if these guys do fuck the hottie we can see in the movies while they are old and ugly.
A thought for the girl of the body painting who, since she tasted the joys of striptease in Australia, continues to practice in Paris. Despite her psychology degree, she has a strong character! At least, I can say that I banged a stripper.
Why denigrating online pickup?
Is online dating effective ?
I do often read crap like these:
* “Real pickup is much better (street, work, sport, college etc.) than on the Internet …”
* “If there are so many people on the applications/dating sites it’s because they do not have the motivation/balls/skills to go SPU/NPU and meet people. ”
* “This is for the guys who do not have the courage to step out of their comfort zone and confront reality.”
* “In terms of results and personal satisfaction, the OD and the NPU/SPU have nothing to do.”
* “It requires less balls, and it is less euphoric.”
* “Seduce is a SOCIAL and HUMAN skill that is learned by confronting to the REALITY of gender relationships.”
* “When you pickup online, you cannot say you know the entire seduction process, so you cannot claim you’re a real seducer.”
* “The OD brings me much disillusionment and reinforce my behavior of supporter of the least effort, the more time passes the less I am good IRL.”
* “The virtual is a waste of time.”
* “Girls are easier online”; “There’s online ugly chicks online.”
* “These companies are capitalizing on the desperation of people shamelessly, and it disgusts me. So I refuse to give them my money and my time and contribute to make them live, just a question of ethic…”
* “I would not look for a serious relationship there. But for a FC if the 2 are OK…”
SPU = street pickup
NPU = night pickup
OD = online dating
IRL = in real life
FC = fuckclose (sleeping for the first time with a chick)
There’s a little intellectually limited guys who think the chicks they are fucking thanks to online dating are not real in real life. If I meet a girl on a dating site, she also meets me on a dating site. Now, I have a full life next door so she does too. QED.
There’s guys who think the online pickup is a brake on the development of the seducer. I do not agree. Indeed, a dating site removes a lot of barriers and allows direct access to the first date (but you still have to get it). But precisely, it helps to learn to be good on the first dates. Moreover, if we fuck the chicks after, it enable you to become more confident and thus to shine more in all other types of pickup. Finally, the first date or the sex are IRL therefore we must also like each other: BL and communication aspects come into play. These are not date in which we throw each one on the other when we meet: it happened to me a few times and it was not the coolest dates of my life.
Dating sites are only a tool to put two people in touch. Just like, the nightclubs. But, a month on a dating site is often as expensive as only ONE good night in a club. We can criticize companies that capitalize on singles but we can also criticize the mafia of the night that does exactly the same thing. The trick is to don’t fall in commercial drifts like offering virtual flowers to babes for the modest sum of $ 5, pff (they don’t care about virtual gifts lol)…
We have taken a number in the street, in a bar or on a dating site : then, phone game. Then we get, if all goes well, a first date. And finally, the rest happens IRL. Period. We also confronts the reality if we pickup on the internet, keep it in mind.
Why online dating would require less effort? To make a profile, etc. Granted: it’s easier to click on a mouse than finding HB in a particular place and a particular time. However, isn’t it a return on time and effort? And is it not therefore a form of intelligence? “Pragmatism”.
I also grant you that there are many girls (and guys) who are very unattractive, on dating sites, but neither more nor less than IRL. For those who are just looking for a sexfriend, and found a partner on the same wave length: this is perfect and the net can sometimes allow to be frank where there might be some misunderstandings IRL and therefore a heart broken in the end. For those looking for something else, a girl to carry their child, people with conversation, there is also stuff in stock. I have not only met chicks for a one night stand online.
The danger of online, it is losing touch with reality. Congratulations to those who draw their game with the online pickup but I give a yellow card to those who do only it by default. My opinion is you should include it to your whole game: we will always need a sms/chat game, but we must not forget reality because it inevitably comes back… and a few rakes in a bar allow to keep your feet on the ground. It must be used in addition to the real pickup! But “real” = ? the only not real pickup it’s the fake FC, right ?
But it is no different from SPU, or NPU, in the sense that if a player practices only it, he has not a complete game. It is not miraculous either, the OD, if you just come up and say “do you want to fuck?” You will not go far.
Picking up on the Internet, it is neither an act of cowardice or weakness, or even ease. This is the opinion of those who are not in and observe from afar those for who it works. The girls are not easier, but some of assume more online than in front of a stranger in the street. Why a solution nof ease? Because it generally works better than SPU? This is common sense, especially seen the climate with the attacks, terrorists and everything. Why weakness, because the legend says that girls are fat, ugly, full of problems? Stereotype, idea received, a red card.
Then, never believe the legends (my blog can be confusing): the net does not allow to get laid as soon as a girl visit our profile. There’s not on one side chicks of the bars/clubs and on the other side chicks who are registered on a dating site.
Seriously, can’t I smell a slight whiff of jealousy ? Those who succeed online and fuck a lot are just efficient. At one time, I read “yeah but in the night it’s easy it is cheating, the SPU is the only real thing.” This was already the exact same problem. These people do not assume so denigrate. It’s always a little bit a shame to be on a dating site, but a PUA must be better than that and assume.
Let’s keep in mind that the point of the pickup is still to meet and fuck beautiful women. Not to stir the air for the sake of art. However, the time invested for dates got from the OD cannot be carried over the SPU/NPU and if in addition we fuck the chicks: envy when we go out on the field has inevitably diminished.
There’s also people for whom it is a matter of common sense to practice on the Internet:
– Those who have a job and no time (or a good schedule) to do SPU nor too much NPU except on Saturday night;
– They can pickup at the same time they do something else on the computer or on their phone;
– They like to write, it is their strong point;
– To screw the married women;
– If they are suffering from school phobia or agoraphobia (this was my case);
– Etc.
There’s plenty of chicks that will connect online because do not like bars/clubs (do not drink alcohol/do not use drugs) are practicing chicks sports, studies where there are only girls and gays, have a taking work. So, remains the street and the internet to fuck them… what is the probability to cross them in the street? Low. But are they worse than women met IRL ? No. Clearly not.
Furthermore, I see no reason why the percentage of fuckable chicks would be higher in the street or the subway than on the Internet? I observed around me the other day and my conclusion is: there’s not much fuckable woman if you take away the old, ugly, fat, chicks in a relationship and faithful, etc. I like to venture outside the circle (which I always find too small) but between fucking a 6 met in the subway and a 9 met on the Internet, the choice is quickly made!
Communicating by networks, virtual message and conveying emotions, communicating in writing, it is a part of the social dynamics that is playing an increasingly important role in today’s society. It would be stupid to don’t use it. It’s easier to develop an idea by writing than to repeat it all the time if you want to use it in a big scale. Additional argument: all times, humanity has written kinky letters. Although this written communication is different from the rest of the game and still a minority, do not denigrate it because it basically communicates the same messages than the other Game schools. Rather denigrate those who took refuge in a particular segment of these dynamics but who claim to know everything (which is right of course for the online, but also for the NPU and SPU).
I know here in Lyon people who practice only SPU (you do not know why they do not even come to NPU). They have no job and do that all day. The guy I know has done it since September and has just got 1FC (in 4 months). Yeah, he’s good in the street… so what? During this time they are out of breath in the street, I have FC 18 girls and have been good at work.
I’d say these guys criticize opportunistic guy like me because they are jealous (just like the guy who says a HB8 is a 6 if she doesn’t want him but is she wants him she is a 10 it is bad faith). They want to play and the cocky men but they do alone a dick contest: I’m the strongest even if I fuck less because I approach “for real” (because me, of course, I approach “for wrong”). That’s their problem if they want to find shitty excuses for their failure.
There’s chicks that make a profile on the Internet only to feel desired. OK, but they are people in the street that will take your number with kindness too. And you’ll never meet them again! There’s not only fakes and sluts. There’s it’s true a lot of sites where there are hostesses (fake profiles) but hey need to sort before registering, it’s like when you go to a bar where there’s only balls.
This should be beneficial to the moaners who practice in the street because they have less “competitors” on the field. So I do not see where is the problem for them …? Must explain to me … that’s where we understand that their reaction is irrational, like hatred is in general. They may be afraid that we fuck the chicks online and then in the street they don’t want them anymore? Must move with the times, too. I know guys who pride themselves to have no phone. It is ridiculous too.
It’s a bit like those who make their living on the net. Why criticizing? Good for them (they earn €, I fuck HB7/8/9/I never give 10). They may be smarter than us, we, the idiots employed by an asshole.
Snipe in the interview I recorded, talks about online dating. So if one of the best PUA of France says it’s good, it’s not lamdbas guys on a well known forum that will have the last word and that will make me change my mind. Cajun and David de Angelo agree too. Personally, I’ve until 6 FC in a month online, it’s good. Call me liar, if you want, we will good laugh during my third diary when I will publish the evidence! Meanwhile, here are my tips and routines to get laid online!
The bottom line. Denigrating the online pickup is in my view the same level of false beliefs than “ugly girls are easier to fuck than beautiful ones.” It would be logical but wrong because when you say so you think like if we could remove everything that is fear, complexes, principle of coherence, etc. Online, theoretically, we should be able to fuck more than we do but the fact is they are ashamed to be on a dating site too, they are afraid, etc. You need a high level of persuasion to bring a chick directly are your place. In terms of quality, you have to learn too, first of all the rule of the 10kg (always at least 10kg of difference between her size and weight – 1m70 60kg okay, 1m70 55kg she is very hot 1m70 70kg noooooooo), several photos are needed too or try to find her FB.
When sexual desire fades…
My father visited me last weekend in Lyon. We, as often, had philosophical talks about sex. Among them: “when we age, are we still warm?”
He was warm, my dad, in his time. I also still surprise him from time to time, starting at the ass of sexy chicks in the street. It’s only natural! It makes me laugh!
According to his testimony, one thinks less about sex for sex after 60, and more about the beauty of women. Where from the interest of having pretty wife (you must see how aged her mother) and daughter. (I’m not talking for Playboy’s boss).
It’s a bit the answer to the question I often get: “will you be a player all your life?” I hope not, honestly. I am already tired. I always said I would stop soon to start a strong family and have balanced children.
Sex for sex with hot babes we like, it’s awesome at the beginning. So I do it now in order to don’t feel the desire to cheat on my wife during a fucking midlife crisis.
But above all, I learn many things through the Game. About me, about communication, about how to be respected and how to use my charm on women. Among others.
I do a lot of experience that I would have regretted having not made, I think, if I had a youth of tight-ass. I do not like living in frustration or in ignorance. This is especially why I love the game : I am more motivated by the understanding of how seduction works than sex-addict (sex is not only useful to pie).
However, it’s not because fucking chicks in a mess (and not all the women I want) thanks to psychological communication tools has become a second skin that I can never get rid of it. I am not Neil Strauss!
Indeed, in his book The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships, Neil tells the crisis which followed his life of Pickup Artist. He wrote what happens when a guy wants a LTR but cannot control his superpower of seducer (or when he fails to properly lock his Efficience belt).
I recognize myself in him a little, when he speaks of his mother, in this book. He said she was a little stuffy. Like mine (and my father too). He had a rather boring childhood, without realizing it at the time, just like me.
After his life of PUA, he went in sexual detox (or rehab). They identified him emotional incest. Seriously, I hope it’s not my case.
In my fantasies, I want to live with two women who would love each other as they would love me and who would bear my children. But this is just a dream and I will content myself with a pretty, healthy, slim, sweet, intelligent, courageous, not too much a pain in the ass girl.
I want a healthy relationship. I want to be really transparent and honest with my wife and my children. I do not necessarily want them to be players, what I want is that they are good in communication to understand the world, protect themselves, dominate others and succeed in life!
To the question: would I enjoy an open relationship until my penis is no longer able to get hard? On one side, I like the moment between the opener and penetration: I love the Game for the game. On the other hand, it would piss me off, I guess, that someone else fucks MY WIFE. The fantasy of purity and all that shit, when it applies to your wife, is not necessarily the same thing that when it applies to a fuckfriend. With that said, if I’m the only one with who she fucks without a condom, it may be enough… maybe. To be tested ! What I want is to have special privileges.
That said, I do not know if it would be very healthy for my children that their parents are libertines.
In his book, Neil discusses the delicate issue “once I’m in a serious relationships, how can I make it work?”
It’s a good question. So far, almost every relationship I’ve built fell apart. In The Truth, the author wonders whether we would not be the victim of a former trauma, maybe we repeat the same things again and again? It’s a bit like what plays in our mind when we always want to get our ex we idealize back or when repeated endlessly the same patterns that leads to nothing good and we are emotionally desperate!
I do not want to be, in my turn, an ignoring or stuffy a parent. I do not want my children to suffer, to devalue constantly, to feel depressed, anxious, etc. I do not want that, like me, my children need affection, but quickly feel stifling and therefore never attach themselves to people for too long.
The conclusion of the book is that the marriage of love is not what corresponds to our wild bodies! Wedding is a cultural thing, we must make sacrifices for it to work. The greatest biologists and psychologists agree to tell so. Our body says “why looking for our soul sister ? I don’t like incest.”
“Do not trade long-term happiness for short-term pleasure.” Rick Rubin
“Masturbate once and you will feel better!” Fabrice Julien
How to guess if she has a hairy pussy?
I was talking with a friend the other day: we were looking for a girl for a threesome, so I showed her my conquests so she chooses one. She guessed almost every time which ones were shaved/shaven and which ones had hair between their legs. I was impressed! She explained her technique. I will teach it to you in my turn.
It’s a bit of a trick mentalism. In fact, it is based on the fact that she is a girl… and therefore she understands the other chicks.
It is based on the makeup of the girl. If she wears very few makeup, botched or old-fashion, she must have the tuft. If, however, she is very feminine, dolled, well made up, (scented,) then chances are she has a hairless pubis.
Basically, there are 6 possible configurations:
– Either she has the tuft, so hairs that even protrude from her swimsuit.
– Either she tamed the tuft, so she it is not visible in her underwear.
– Either she has a metro ticket more or less thick : this is the part that hurts the most to pull off.
– Either she is completely shaved.
– Either she is completely waxed, which removes entierely the hair opposed to shaving.
– Either she is shaved or waxed but it has grown back. I call it the carpet.
There even are girls who don’t want to have sex if they are not perfectly waxed, in this case it’s too bad, because we prefer a woman who has sex than a women perfectly waxed but who’s a pain in the ass. Just my opinion, btw.
When I talked about it to my mother, she told me that it was a shame to not have hair, that only sluts and other porn actresses have no hair… like a little girl. In her time, maybe, this might be the case. But the truth is that for aesthetic reasons, the coquettish Greek and Roman women already waxed. In Aristophanes’ comedy Thesmophoriazusae, played in Athens in 411 BC, a group of women proposed to remove the intimate hair of a guy disguised as a girl to teach him how to become a true Greek woman. “No waxing, no hair removal!” he cried once. It must be said that at the time they practiced it with burning ashes…
Today, most chicks below 25 years are shaved or depilated with wax (8000 hair on average that’s too much for the tweezers). Maybe not those who have not yet begun their sexual lives but others generally are. Nearing thirty, I’ve seen more girls with the metro ticket on their pussies. Is it already composted? This is the question.
As notorious fucker, as a libertine who is not fucking libertine chicks, I must say that I took a liking to any all clean, hairless pussy. Sometimes it’s funny: she has got no hair on her pussy, but has on her ass. Well, sweetie are you kidding me ?! In this case, the best idea is definitely fuck from the front! 😉
The hairs on the body just like the pubis serve to limit areas of friction. Pubic hair is useful especially during sex because they create an interface between the skin and promote a shift to a different skin.
A study showed higher scores of sexual satisfaction for fans of completely naked pubis, without the possibility of saying if the women who feel the more comfortable with their bodies and their private parts revealed are the ones who likes showing them or if the pubic deprivation promotes sexual fulfillment.
Social pressure and fashion phenomena also influence the girls about their intimate hygiene (although some hairs, it’s not dirty).
The full shaving is more common than full hair waxing. Certainly for practical or pain reasons.
For men, shaving or clipping the hair makes the penis look bigger. In any case, it’s better to avoid the Amazon forest at this place if you like blowjobs.
PS : To go further, do not hesitate to read my ebook “The awesome lover’s manual“.
Problems with the TOO direct game
The good side of the direct game
I like using sexualization early in the interaction. I find it really fun and honest. And, strangely, that reassure some because it confirms them that they are about to be picked up. By a guy who assumes in addition, characteristic quite rare.
Indeed, people whose intentions are not clear often inspire fear. And there are a lot of guys who do not assume they try to pick up : they want to be regarded as “good guys” or I do not know what… in order to fuck the girl. I’m sorry but you can fuck chicks, enjoy it, and yet being a good guy.
Other interesting features of the direct game is, in my opinion, its powerful and surprising aspects … sometimes destabilizing. It can hit the mark and differentiate us from the masses! Thus, when we approach, for a greater impact we do not often say hello and directly go straight to the opener.
It can excite the chicks, but sometimes precisely: the fact to remove this ambiguity can cool those who do not assume they want to orgasm. So they apprehend (being naked in front of you, not being up to you the bed, feeling dirty after, what do I know …)
That’s why it works especially on adventurous girls, those who have strength of will, those that are not really lobotomized, those who are hot (no complex), those with experience in the bed or who assume the fact of not having experience and want to learn from you.
The direct game removes a lot of headaches from the game. I do not know many guys who practiced with me and who made a step back after. It’s quite liberating, it pays, and it allows to have fun. In addition, it highlights the weaknesses of some women, so we can laugh when we understand that if she did not sleep with us it is not necessarily that we have done something wrong or are not handsome enough for her. It is very comfortable to fuck hotties, most of the time without headache, sometimes even without leaving home …
The dangerous side of the direct game
The direct game, it has the reputation of being somewhat the “old-school” pickup. The one with the big balls. However, when we like it, we (me included) sometimes skip steps yet crucial to a clean game. And we eat a lot of rakes and flakes.
Let’s make no mistake: there are plenty of chicks that this particularly virile pushy pickup, turn on. But they are so conditioned that it intimidates them, and some would feel “dirty” “give up so easily,” even if they want it in fact. Where from an internal conflict, and some will even be mad at you for not having stayed in your soft dick role.
Basically, this kind of approach or man, it’s been the dream in movies but in reality they are not going to try their luck. Some will say that they do not assume their sexuality. Further they are well conditioned to a boring life. The gossips say they are frustrated and pain in the ass. I do not think we are here to judge, too bad for them, after all. Me, the only things that annoy me is when they warm us, but after get cold feet and then blame it on us like, “you’re not enough this or that / finally I have no more desire.” This way, they streamline their own cowardice (me, I always do what I say and say what I do I call it respect). They are afraid of leaving their comfort zone (where the magic happens), but will not admit it (they are maybe not even conscious of this). This is normal, it would call into question their belief system. Go on and tell a jihadist it is impossible that there are70 virgins waiting for him after his death, or that if it’s a woman or a guy who kill you it’s the same thing : you’ll see his reaction. Sometimes, by texts, they will use shitty excuses just one hour before the date like “finally I cannot come over I’ll go get vaccinated.” The most hypocritical even say stuff they do not measure the scope “I’m not a girl like that me but in the party you will find easily”: it’s like “look, all the girls are sluts but not me “. What a ridiculous vilification … “Me I can resist my urges, but it’s hard, so I’m sure others cannot do so !!! I am sooo proud!” When in fact, these are all the chicks in the mold who use crap like that and I can tell you that those who think for themselves have a different speech. It does not take me long to recognize them!
Beautiful women use more sexual avoidance strategies than men because they need to make less effort to get fucking opportunities.
Sorry but all the chicks are not worth investing time and energy in them (much less money or sperm). When they start bullshiting me, I see them as chicks that have failed the test. It is true, I admit, I am not very tolerant, I ask them a lot and make fewer concessions but … we both lose. Her orgasms, and me a hot girl. All that complemented by a memorable adventure that will be remembered (because of the adrenaline that is precisely what prevents many from taking action – it pisses me off because of my anxiety attacks I had to learn how to manage imaginary fears so much that now I laugh when I see what stresses some girls and I really wonder how they would have done if they had gone through what I went through).
Anyway, back to the point: if we really want to increase our chances, it is advisable to put an intro before the pushy direct game. When I say an intro, I speak of a rapid exchange or a story-telling including DHV.
The temerity of the direct game too often dessert even if it allows banging hot babes, without many complications. But you have to be strong in your head because sometimes the flames back hurts a lot. Some bitches want to put you back in place, we do not know why, it looks like it is their mission on Earth to spoil the joy of others. Some you’ll fuck them, but only once, they will be too good for you, and you’ll think of them your whole life being jealous of the guy who married them (OI).
There’s chicks who believe we use very direct game because we are afraid of a conversation… or we cannot handle a conversation! That we are so anxious, we prefer jumping into the water, closing our eyes. It is true that it is logical if we see evil everywhere. However, for me, it is rather a test, the proof: a girl who laughs to my cocky-funny opener, I would be happy to have a conversation with her after. More willingly than a frustrated bitch who rebelled because you have not offered her a drink. I prefer to break the ice like that, I cannot help it…
Sometimes I abuse. I’m not focused. For example: “Hi, would you like to kiss me?” Here, I zap a little the comfort phase by practicing like that. I play double or quits. The opener is also VERY generic. Chicks (like us) like feeling a bit special. Some do not take us seriously, think that we are making fun of them. It does not mean that it doesn’t work sometimes… but it’s nice to add a little calibration. With that said, this kind of approach is very funny when we see the face of the girls when they hear this: they often do not believe their ears. Moreover, it helps to desensitize, because when we approached like that, we can do soft approaches more easily after! Ashamed of anything now, we are free… you can do it in a huge scale : and playing on the number, it pays. It is statistically better to make 20 generic cold approaches than two highly targeted approaches. Especially, if it is to learn after 2 hours of conversation that the girl is sleeping with her friend or has a boyfriend to whom she will remain faithful… well thank you but no thank you! You can have more targets with this kind of game !
By making pushy direct game, be ready to sometimes suffer from strong returns. So a beginner who is still seeking his self-confidence may be destroyed with this little game. They can be very arrogant and hurtful ESPECIALLY if they are people around (cf. social pressure, feels uncomfortable because believe you just call whore since that is her biggest fears seen how she is sexy dressed, is in trouble because torn between temptation and education). I know that this logic is quite disconcerting because besides that they will say that a confident guy who knows what he wants excites them. Finding a balance is delicate. But do not forget the saying “a good fisherman must learn how to think like a fish.”
My conclusion
An alpha guy who has the choice of women likes to know in what he sailed before spending two hours with a green plant. Where from the point of the test before taking her seriously and investing in her. Well, in my opinion. Be ready to date any girl is a kind of DLV. It’s a good thing that she proves her value before. That she makes efforts. It shows that she is a bit more clever than average. But the cute girls are not really used to it, usually 15 guys flock to them as soon as they walk into a bar. Inevitably, it distort men/women relationships and makes them lose touch with reality. And since you do not do like others, he average stupid girl is going to think you’re the idiot.
Finally, note that sometimes there’s times when the most daring game will work and times when whatever you do it’s not working. I guess that there are cycles then I do not know where it comes from if it’s the moon, the seasons, or our state of mind … Well, I have often noticed that phenomenon. There are times when all my buddies FuckClose and others when we all feel bad because luck does not smile us. In this case, my advice is to apply a basic game to return to success and so making a fresh start.
I like putting my foot in it!
How to positively handle the AMOG
The AMOG, what is it?
This term refers to “alpha male other guy”. So, he is by definition an alpha male. If you consider all the guys on Earth as credible AMOG, you will bit your nails all your life!
Well, sometimes it is really a serious contender for the pickup. But you’re far less likely to meet one than to fall on an AFC. Keep that in mind before ejecting yourself whenever a guy tries to hit on your target! (This is for shy guys).
Most of the time, I let him crash, I observe him even encourages him, then I resume to where I was and I’m thought of as a fairplay guy by the girl. I even often seize this opportunity to tease the girl “well then, you didn’t like him?”
Amog or friend? Cooperation or confrontation?
In the case of a true AMOG, there’s a number of possible configurations. Basically, is he hateful or not ? If he is hateful to you, he’s likely to lost points in the eyes of his/your target. You just have to push him to fault! Only biatches like hate and violent rude assholes.
On the other hand, if the guys is friendly AND alpha: why not make an ally to pickup chicks? I’m serious. Being two alphas together, your value increases. You will be chicks magnets!
Imagine you’re hitting on a girl at a bar then a guy shows up, he knows her, and kisses her on the cheek. Why sulking and immediately constructing a strategy to get rid of the intruder? It just would communicate some insecurity…
Why not shaking his hand warmly instead? If he’s a cool guy, you’re maybe going to make a friend. Then maybe fucking your target + her girlfriend in a foursome with this guy !!! It’s maybe a little like swearing in a church but it’s to make you understand that it can be a win-win scenario! Warning: I’m not saying that this is possible every time, far from it.
Maybe, he’s a guy of the community who has a great social network and who’s looking for a wingman. Why not starting the conversation on women, pickup, parties, etc. You will perhaps mutually boost your modjos !!!
In addition, by being focused on the guy, you will make the girls think. I remember once in party of I showed disinterest to an American and so she started to shake her ass in front of me to get my attention back. It was pretty fun when you think about it. I had kissed her but the fact is that after I had kissed another girl on her bed and she was a little angry. Well, this is another story.
My conclusion: making friends with guys can bring you more chicks than crossing swords with all the dudes just to try to get a particular girl. I’m here talking about a rational approach rather than an emotional one (the instinct of the not educated and sex-starved man is rather often to “defend his territory” even if he has not yet planted seeds in the fertile soil).
My motto: I love women and some pay me off well.
The disturbing AMOG
There are basically three types of AMOG who can piss you off well:
– The drunk idiot;
– The cocky player;
– The sociable handsome and funny guy.
My advice :
– Stay close to the girl, implying that you are close, it will dissuade more than one;
– Kino : it creates attraction and the comfort;
– Push him but not aggressively rather like an alpha eg a little tap on the shoulder;
– If he starts to speak directly to the girl ignoring you, you can answer like “you have beautiful eyes you know (to the girl)
– Thank you (you answer). ”
– Isolate the target “it was a pleasure talking to you see you soon bro” and take her by the hand. Otherwise the conversation may become boring, the girl be pissed off and leave both of you together.
– It’s a bit naughty to use your body language, turning back and placing yourself between him and the girl, but hey, sometimes you have to.
– If he does as if you did not exist “honestly guy I respect you for having the balls to approach her but she is with me so … good night!“A little bit rude, but hey if he is… works rather he is weird or if the girl is attracted to you.
Do not fight for a girl, seriously. Fight only if he does something stupid against you or her.
If the guy who AMOG is a friend of you (jealous type) or a (bad) wingman, here is the best solution: dominate the conversation and extract the target at the right time. According to the rules of the wingman : normally the one who open is the one who has priority to try his luck. After if the girl doesn’t like him, the other can go… In any case, never attempt to discredit or whatever one of your wingmen. Ethics, damn it!
Better understanding our emotions
“A real man doesn’t cry.” Have you ever heard this phrase? What do you think about it?
Some say a too sensitive man is not really a man. It is a cliché to say this, but this image dies hard. Take the example of our dear friend James Bond: some think that a real man must do like him and not feeling (or showing) emotions.
This is wrong, of course. Emotions have an important role in the lives of women and men. Trying to turn off your feelings would generate many problems. Although the idea seems attractive, it is not necessarily a good one. And crying, except cleaning the eyes, it is also useful to set yourself free from negative emotions buried in you : some are liberating tears.
What are emotions?
The emotions we feel have an impact on our physiology. Emotions are, simply put, related to the levels of certain hormones. An emotion alone can speed up your heart beat even if the rest of your body doesn’t move! Via adrenaline, for example. Another example: breathing speed up under stress, some even hyper-breakdown in case of huge stress. Some even have dizziness or even vanish due to a strong emotion. More positive: pupils dilate when feels interest or pleasure, etc. These signals help us to survive. Fear, for example, puts us in a state of flight or fight. Emotions allow our bodies to get in condition to react to a given situation.
The big problem is that sometimes, just imagining, thinking again about, or dreaming of a situation is enough to trigger the corresponding emotions and sometimes the physiological responses. For example: my anxiety attacks. It’s mostly in preconscious I imagine a catastrophic situation. I start feeling bad without really understanding why, then I say to myself that I have a health problem, and here we go : anxiety attack.
Emotions also help making not obvious (or easy) decisions. E.g. they make you feel smothered in a toxic relationship. Even if you do not manage to put the words on why you “feel” there’s probably still something wrong. If you act against your values or your happiness, emotions sound in one way or another tje alarm to tell you it is time to redress the balance.
Whether we wanted it or not, verbally or not, we express things. You cannot not communicating. We communicate through our emotions. That’s why it is so difficult to bluff when we play poker. There are too many muscles on the face, some of them very difficult to control (you do not even know that most of them exist), which only serve to transcribe our emotional state. There are dozens of micro-expressions as, for example, those that The Mentalist tries to recognize to see if someone is lying or not (yet need to know what to look for).
We are all equipped with unaware sensors that allow us to understand if our partner is angry, happy, sad, scared, excited, etc. Sometimes even we react without consciously saying to ourselves “hey, he is scared him”… but we still adapt. We just adapt our behavior in the most profitable way to our interests. The communication of emotions is two-way, the control is very delicate, and we all react to emotions that are communicated. Where from the principle of contagion of emotions: being sexually aroused, being relaxed and confident, or simply being happy: it is unconsciously on your face. And it influences the chicks reactions ( more often positively).
How to manage our emotions?
Some emotions are repressed by the socio-cultural environment, or the fixed ideas of our parents or friends. It is often difficult, but it is most of the time useful to put into words our feelings to be able to act in the best way to feel good. Why keeping buried in us something that eats us from the inside? But on the other hand, how to get rid? Sometimes it’s repressed; too, we do not even know why it is like that. Sometimes we reproduce a diagram. Well, I am not a psychotherapist so I cannot tell you more about how to heal emotions that hurt us. Instead, I will tell you about how to use them constructively in your game.
I prefer using the “emotional contagion” to motivate, charm, excite, help and even make shameless people around me. When I give a fuck about people, I try to pay attention to the signals they send me and to my feelings during interactions. Exchange is always more beneficial to both parts. In addition, it is better calibrated and more sincere.
I remember when I started to conclude at most of my dates, I had a simple technique. I did not try to talk about me. Nor to sell myself. I was just trying to get them talking about them, get them talking about light stuff, without fuss. I was trying to avoid the nervous movements and all the stuff that breaks sexual tension. From time to time, I handed a sexual perch to see how they react. If it did not work, I told them they had a dirty mind. If it took, I did it again a little later to put their minds salacious ideas and dirty desires! They often reproached me for not talking enough about me, then: they asked me a question, just listened to the answer and started again talking about themselves. And in the end, they said they felt very comfortable with me and wanted to sleep with me.
Can we always feel “good”?
Well, finally, I’m going to destroy a myth (one more). Would you like to be happy every day? Know that this is impossible. And it would not be a good thing, anyway. We NEED negative emotions (of course not excessively but wisely). We need them because they warn us, warn us of danger and keep us alive as prepare us to react. People who do not feel pain, for example, can burn their hand without even noticing it. Those who do not experience fear (eg if the amygdala is removed) less enjoy security and will be tempted to take unnecessary risks. Thus, their life expectancy is shorter.
Imagine if you were watching the weather and they say that it will be fine tomorrow, when in fact there will be a hurricane: it would not be very useful. And even worse it does not allow you to prepare yourself. You might even be surprised and hurt by the storm.
What is true, on the other hand, is that it is interesting to shield a bit if we are very sensitive. Or working on your empathy if you have a heart of stone. It is important to have a balance. Not being too cold but not too weak either. I have always been a sensitive boy, even VERY sensitive. Like: I love animals, I even save ants in the pool, etc. I have also a lot of empathy, I sometimes suffer with the people for things that hardly affect me. At first the girls have continually disappointed me, hurt me, etc. But with time and experience, I shielded, and now it is them who often get addicted before me. Finally, I am far from being a rock either, a small heart beats under my PUA shield. And it’s not always easy, but I’m proud of it. Proud of keeping this human side, this romantic side, this fragile side. I guess that I will never become arrogant nor contemptuous jerk (some people think I am) I hope someone I’ll stay simple and accessible. All this to say that yes, it helps to shield a little, when one is too sensitive, it helps to regain control. But using the game (or any power) to make people suffer ways means a lot : people who do that are to be pitied because they feel pains and subconsciously want your to suffer and feel as bad as them. Or they are psychopaths. I react differently to my pain and I hope I’ll inspire some : why not rather doing our best making so that others have a little joy? Especially if it does not cost much to us. And then, who knows …? Karma you may pay you back.
The best time to kiss a girl
“When should I kiss the girl?”… Have you got others shitty questions like that?
A major problem when we want to kiss a girl, but we don’t dare, is that we let our inner monologue govern us. Do not cut off from your feelings because of doubts and other questions. Our feeling should be our guide.
Our emotions are indicators of what is happening inside of us BUT ALSO are the keys to understand the person in front of us. We must let ourselves go a minimum to feel a little desire (which is contagious). And to do not get eaten by the pressure that we often put on ourselves unnecessarily.
The challenge should not take precedence over the game … The light and playful aspect of seduction should not disappear. Never a romantic date should be as dull and tight-ass as a job interview (and a job interview is not a romantic date so there’s a different behavior to be adopted).
It is better to go there with a clear idea of what you expect from the interaction : a good time with one or more pretty chicks, and don’t forget to create conditions conducive to flirt intimacy. Everything else will flow from that.
FUNDAMENTAL POINT – Once isolated with a girl: did she made you want to kiss her? It matters, that, too. You’re not so desperate that kissing any girl is a goal in itself, right? Kissing, it’s nothing seriously. If you are still counting the number of chicks you have kissed, then you are far awayyyyyyyyyyyy in your game. (Desecrate the kissclose please). Seriously, it’s good to go on a date with the idea, the objective to make out with her, but if in the meantime she shows she doesn’t deserve you it’s better to abandon the mission (if you’re sure that you’re not inventing false excuses to duck). Just as one begins his day with what pisses him off the most, you end your date with what requires the greatest effort.
It is important to communicate with your target on an empathic mode too. Do not only communicate on the explicit mode (meaning of words) but also a lot on the implicit mode (gestures, cum facial expressions, posture, tone of voice). Why is it important too? Because you will unconsciously or consciously both send to each other nonverbal signs of invitation to carnal pleasure. I refer in particular to prolonged glances, delicious silences, touches, smiles … so focus your attention on those little things that tell so much…
Wonder for example :
Are you both in a bubble off of the world? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
Is the tone of her voice soft? Is it becoming even softer? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
How does she react to innuendo? Compliments? => OK? KISSCLOSE.
Instead, does she try to avoid proximity and why? Does she seems distracted or elsewhere? => Warning! (but it costs nothing to try anyway, but perhaps it is better calibrate and wait until later). Do not confuse speed with haste.
If you miss scoring chances, do not cut your veins. We all miss some. We all had a chance to initiate a first kiss but yet we did not. With or without having invented false excuses, either. However, let’s not kill ourselves and do not spend our time regretting the past. Let’s rather and seize the next opportune moment. Unfortunately, we remember more the negative than the positive, but if she gives a sign of disinterest interest for 10 signs it’s good nonetheless. It’s worth a try!
Do your eyes fall on the contour of her lips? Do you perceive in her a palpable disorder. A heat wave travels you. Damn: what is stopping you from taking a step toward her, moving a hand behind her neck and approaching your own lips? You are not even really listening to her now. The seconds pass, as long centuries.
If you did not kiss, you can have fun and recreate that magical moment. Or at least, the same conditions. Like “do you remember, earlier? We talked about […] and I felt […] I stopped listening to you, I do not know if you felt the same. I couldn’t take my eyes off of your bright eyes, your pretty lips and I wanted to”………………………… kissclose. Or, “earlier you maybe felt I really wanted to do that” ………………………………. kissclose.
Speak slowly and maintain her eye contact while doing that. Normally, if she wanted you 5 minutes before, she still wants. I say NORMALLY because they are people who are blocked by those guys “who did not have the balls to try”. But hey, in Top Gun, Tom Cruise purposely gets close of his target without trying to kiss her just to bring up sexual tension, and it works well, but he did it with a a playful and confident face. So never let her think you’re not in control nor confident.
BUT IF she refuses my kiss? The fear of embarrassment that would follow a refusal petrifies most men. It is the phobia to end up helpless without knowing where to hide or what to do nor say to regain capacity and credibility that often prevents men from giving it a try. The guys start by thinking about consequences, fuck who saw us? And to who will she tell it, this whore? They will laugh at me (or other paranoid delusions).
Detach yourself from it, guys. It happens to everyone… at least to those who have the balls to take action. BE PROUD BECAUSE YOU’VE TRIED YOUR LUCK (AND HERS)! It’s really more exhilarating than having tried nothing and coming back home with regrets in the pockets!
Why not just smiling at rejection, after all? Why not asking her if it had already happened to her and why? Most girls would like to kiss the first one but are scared to get rejected. So: they say that it is the role of the man to do so. So why not challenging her, “Listen if you want later, it will be your turn to try to kiss me, and maybe you’ll see how you feel when you try to kiss someone who likes it… you feel like high ! It gives you a crazy energy! ”
(Take of course the ideas but change the words, I typed it as it came.)
The reaction to the rejection is paramount. Any PUA will tell you that. I speak well about it in The inconvenient truth about gender relations : for some women, rejecting you once is a test, and they will accept later if you do not get cold feet nor insult her, don’t call her “bitch”.
I think flirting is an act of cooperation. I do not like the girls who play the “man” and like confrontation. I prefer it to be played by the two of us and that we go together until the orgasm, each one making an effort. I understand the shit-tests and tolerate them if they are not excessive but after it pisses me off and I have the impression that the girl is trying to find excuses to avoid spending a good time. I think the bitches who are waiting for me to do all the work or play it like a princess while they are not Kate Middleton do not deserve me. I love the girls who have will and strength of character.
In a nutshell: let’s not forget to be present in the moment in order to pay attention to the little signs that reveal an invitation. Then, only remains to pick the ripe fruit (I speak of course of her apricot).
Let’s trust ourselves. Let’s abandon ourselves to our feelings rather than construct disaster-scenarios. I like kissing chicks anytime too, even when they expect it the least. I find it funny (game rather than issue). And there are people who cannot show their interest or are too shy/tight-ass to do so. I would say: the best time to kiss a girl is when you feel like it.
A good kiss with sexual tension can even make you hard. Especially if you fiddle her in the same time. If you’re hard, it’s okay, I think she will be flattered! I talk about how to kiss in the manual of the good lover, and in this article too.
Go now, and do not forget to tease her: that tough love.
XXX.
Understand this fucking procrastination
It’s been several weeks that I wanted to write about procrastination. But I always found an excuse to do something else: I procrastinated like a bastard. This tendency to postpone what we could do on the spot is one of the most serious obstacles to success.
In other words, whatever you wanna do, your tendency to procrastinate (or not) will help you succeed (or fail).
However, “wanting to do something” is not enough, there are deeper causes for procrastination. Lack of confidence in one of them. We often prefer to hope the problem goes away by itself rather than treating it. However, avoidance strategies always make you still a vague unease. While a saving efforts would help you improve your wellbeing. Otherwise, I would not piss you off with that.
If you are a beginner player and it pisses you off to never make out with chicks, you know you should go out and pick up, to train. However, if you do not, you will try to find excuses to keep internal consistency. The excuses will help you to don’t go for it, with consciousness more or less quiet.
There are three kinds of excuses:
– The lack of time and other non-renewable resources;
– The lack of money and other renewable resources;
-the lack of personnal talent, stuff like “I do not feel good enough to do that.”
Conclusion: “this is not the right time, too bad.” But does exist really a good time to start a better life? Or that the perfect time is… “now”?
If you think you suffer from a lack of personal talent, know that you’ll improve with practice and by eating theory. Yes, in socialization and seduction like in other areas! We all have things to learn and talents to develop! But never be discouraged: you are surely the most severe judge about yourself … so why not judging you able to do what you is think possible for one another guy? Be patient and sympathize with yourself!
I will now address the problem of the lack of money. I rarely spend more than €2 or €3 when I go out practicing pickup. Although now I have a job, I enjoy playing “broke” and construct limited money plans! I find it exhilarating, creative and rebellious. One of our most important resources in life is our resourcefulness! Survival instinct: ON. Seriously, I would surely fuck more chicks if I bought bottles, drink or fags. SHIT NOW ! I prefer the old barter: the girl does something for me and I reward her with lots of orgasms. In any area, offer your services to those who need it and dare to ask for the help of those who can lend you a hand.
Time is a real constraint, on the other hand. We must use it wisely. Select the most important things, those that would provide you the best welfare. Finding one hottie (or more) and having a regular sexual activity, is it important to you? At what point ? Up to you. Tackle what will make a real difference in your life, and go after things.
Make a decision, let’s say … tonight, not next year.
Anyway BRAVO for reading this article until the end. It proves that you feel that something is wrong and you want to change it. It is a very noble goal, wanting to move your ass. So you’re now faced with a choice:
1/ save my blog in your bookmark and take care of your game WHEN THE IDEAL TIME WILL COME. That is to say, probably never. Or come back in six months with a bitter taste in the mouth: you lost a lot of time and sex-opportunities. Or worse, you will lose the contact information of the blog and will try to find me but it will be too late. You will end up on a site full of politically correct advice that will not significantly help you. Remember the truth will piss you off at first, but it will also set you free. Why closing your eyes?
2 / NOW, take the decision to DRAMATICALLY change the course of your love life. For that, I advise you of course my collection of ebooks that is not bad. Give yourself the means to succeed, if you like my conception of the game!
For my part, I finally wrote this article so I am happy and I feel better (like after ejaculating when you’ve been hard all day long). And you, where are you with that?