Month: April 2016

The learning curve is a concept that comes from the world of business. I will try to explain it simply and then to connect it to the game.

Industrial Definition: At the start of the production of a new product, it is the graph showing the rate of increase in productivity, that is to say, non-linear decrease of labor time per unit as is increasing the number of units produced, labor mastering better and better the job.

What has this got to do with the game?

During the first year of pickup, we do not yet master our subject, we do not know everything (far from it) but we start having results (normally).

The problem is, that even after one year, we usually still have no idea of ​​our true potential. We do not understand all the ins and outs of the game theories. We can also go through phases of stagnation that make us believe that we have reached our maximum.

That said, we must be active to improve our game. It does not just happen miraculously. We have to, for example, find new authors that we like to inspire us and give us new perspectives. I have repeatedly stagnated and it is every time a new author who revived me. I tested without judgment what he proposed and I saw what it could do for my game style. This may be abused to say this but I think that even if something does not help us, knowing that it is not done for us brings us forward since we all the same realize that this is not the direction that you want to take (do not buy things that are obviously shit all the same). When you discover something new (and credible), ask yourself where it comes from, how it works, why it works and if it can give you something new. Try to find something that suits you and listen with humility those who are officers in pickup.

Unfortunately, I’ve seen guys selling out themselves and starting a “serious” story with chicks they certainly would never have touched before the game (they were virgins) but who do not happen to their ankle.

In other words, given their past, they still have low requirements. While their potential yet allows them to get much better. There’s a difference in the value of men and women, so it’s very easy for a girl to make a profit like that. Well, after all, that’s their problem and good for the girls… but I am a guy so I help my fellowmen. Personally, there are a few girls that I fucked at the beginning but that I  would not fuck if I met them today.

Sometimes guys have low requirements because their friends do not bang chicks either: they are in a sexless environment so any girl drives them crazy. I advise you to do not to rely on what people in general do, but on what you want to do. And give yourself the means! Average people have average requirements. Not you, I hope.

The solution ?

The idea here is to firmly decide that we will not make a serious couple during our first year of apprenticeship (at least). We need a strong will and a lot of discipline to stick to it because temptations are many. The biggest risk is the one itis, the couple by default and the misalliance. But remember that it is better to be alone than in bad company (if you fuck chicks anyway) and that keeping cool will ensure you avoid a lot of crap. For example, do not leave your friends, your job, your country or I-don’t-know-what for a girl you barely know especially if she does not meet ALL your criteria (if you have some). Keeping people away from their roots weakens psychologically so they can better be manipulated. Having a girlfriend at any cost is not an end in itself if we are an alpha male !!!

So much the better if your goal was to have a girl… but isn’t it frustrating to say that you could have done MUCH better with A LITTLE more effort? This is where the concept of learning curve comes in. The hardest part is the beginning, a little bit like musculation. After, it we are still improving, but more slowly. Except that we have behind us a solid background now. If we simply practice a little, we may think we know what the game is while not at all. And especially we may not improve as much as we could have if we had stayed in the community a little longer. Giving up is a shame especially if you have invested time and energy in the beginning! The game, it works. Provided you accept to forget what you think you know. Agree to change in everything (refuse your ego protects you). And finally, Provided you enter a process built by taking yourself as an internal reference. Be happy with your progress but continue to ask yourself for results more objectively “very satisfactory”.

The only downside is if you cross miraculously a truly extraordinary woman at the beginning of your journey in the seduction community and that you are able to seduce her. Should you continue to improve your game or rather should you seize this chance and make your life with? Knowing that in general, we just improve our game to get extraordinary chicks. It is a choice to make: multiple experiences or very good quality ? Fortunately, the chances that this happens to you are low anyway… because chances increase when you increase the number of meetings you do. Ideally, I recommend to experiment a little (at least a dozen FC) before getting a couple because you should stay alpha in your couple. This is again the concept: adventure or comfort zone?

So keep some flexibility (better for the girl if she manages to make us change our minds) but the line should be: no couple during the first year of pickup. We must give ourselves the time to change. Because one could too easily be blinded by a girl and miss others that are better. In fact, if you make a couple with a girl, there are inevitably girls you’ll not pickup. What if the woman of your life was just one of those? It would stupid… Finally we could too easily believe that we know what a real hot babe is when in fact we would have never fucked one.

After all, everyone’s objectives. And all the better if you reach them. But I speak for those who have ambitious goals and for those who want to become PUA. Not for those who want fuck ugly chicks all their life nor for those who just want to settle down quietly.

Don’t be naive, the great paradox of the game is and will probably always be, “she said she would have preferred if I wasn’t a player (because it pisses her off I am a flirty) but if I was not a player we would probably haven’t met (because we had to make it happen) or she would not have kept me (I would not have been so good in bed).” The game is a personal development process so we therefore inevitably improves and it pays off. But we are not all equal as we face seduction improvement like we are not as we face weight gain.

If she does not totally satisfy you physically, if you do not see yourself with her in 10 years, if she is a pain in the ass a little bit too often : then she is probably not the one and it is perhaps better to break up now rather than waiting for years of decline knowing it would hurt even more (great upheaval in the habits).

Even if we leave aside the concept of “extraordinary woman”, know that will a little personal investment everyone deserves a feminine girl who takes care of her, who is not too much a pain in the ass, who do not treat us like shit, who is nice, not stupid, who takes us a little bit up and with whom we do not get bored.

Courage : the journey is as interesting as the end. I leave you with two great philosophers, Orelsan “All the better if the road is long
we will can make more detours” and his buddy Gringe “I have to flee my city and crannies
To know what tomorrow looks like
Nobody wishes me good luck
But I will not spend my life wondering when it starts.”

Shame on those who use their charm for sale !

Today I want to denounce a reality that bothers me for a long time! I speak of an inequality that hurts many men while some women enjoy it unscrupulously. I may be like an old bitter in the text but never mind…

Women do not want to be thought of as whores so they do not pick up guys. On the other hand, using their charm to push guys to consumption, often for other men, does not bother them. What does a whore again? Oh yes, she sells her charms…

I think of those who distribute flyers in the street for bars. They are often cute chicks, like most of the time are hostesses and barmaids. Why cuties? Because guys tend to consume more to “please” the girl or to “impress” her. And that’s it, the trap!

The owners of these institutions play on the fact that guys are usually sex-starved. So they send beautiful girls meeting them for the benefit of their bar or of their club. But if you’re a flirty and want to take the girl’s number, then in this case, no way!

A friend was handing out flyers for a bar in Aix, and her boss had told her to do not give her number to the guys hitting on her. Same thing for a waitress girlfriend: it was forbidden to make out with customers! So this is the hidden face of this practice.

Why forbidding them to enjoy with clients? Because if customers want to see again the girl who talked to them normally but has made eyes to them casually, they will have to come in the establishment and consume!

As a man, you tend to have more difficulty in refusing to take an extra glass when it is a cute girl who asks you if you want another drink than when it’s a fat bearded disgusting guy who asks the same thing.

I sometimes have fun when I am approached by this kind of girls, telling them, “do you want to give me your number and hang out with me?” There often, they use a crappy excuse like “I have no number” (it’s like : what’s your name ? I have no name.) And so I can tell them, “well then see you soon darling bye bye.” If you bypass its ambiguity with the charm, she is disarmed.

It’s like those who come for club parties, the so-called Public Relations… Often these are relatively hot dumb. When they try to charm me or anything so I buy them a pack with a bottle of whiskey (€150), I lean towards them and do like if I wanted to kiss them.

Basically I often do not take into account what they offer me and I act like if they approached me to pick me up. I can tell you that they feel stupid !!! Their strategy is basically to talk to you sensually to charm you but to say things that are not really compromising. For example, if you start trying to pick them up in a soft way, they often say something like “haha yes we surely meet up again at the party then”;)

Well, seriously, they must be reframed! Coming up and using charms on guys, counting on the fact they are a bit unlucky in love, and then letting them hope that it might perhaps happen something at the party so they come and pay their entry… I think it’s disgusting! Especially that they know very well that nothing will happen with the guys in question, I guess they do the same thing on 20 men per day!

The best way to do not be manipulated this way, is to always separate the proposal itself and the person making the proposal. Basically, study the plan as objectively as possible. And test the girl too: if you see that she knows there will never be anything with you but she does not want to tell you so you buy her stuff, do not buy it. Do not put an ultimatum to her or anything, just change the subject and try to determine if she is interested or if she dishonestly uses her charm (I am not speaking here of women who just do their saleswoman job and who do not overdo it). Do not be a cash cow !!! In case of doubt, do not spend money and in any case never buy something you don’t want to buy/you will never use…

Thus, in my reality, one can very well have sex with me even if I do not buy her product. Moreover, I am not a sucker who is easily manipulated by his dick. In fact it is really this: chicks see almost all of us as suckers. I cannot count the number of women I observed approaching guys to get free drinks. Then, once the free drink in hand, “bye bye I’ll go back with my friends.”

I am aware that girls use their charm in all the areas of life. And sometimes, there’s nothing to complain about. One woman who works with me now told me: “I play on the fact that I am a girl. I glance at them, I act like if I was very happy when I see my clients, and so I am more appreciated. Anyway, that’s how everything works.”

I do not put the blame on this girl, good for her if it works! Still, how idiot are the lambda men !!! And even then, for her, it should not be cool to be more appreciated for her legs and her ass than for her work.

I guess the girls are also more receptive when the guy who wants to sell them something is handsome… but still, I do not think they are as blinded as are most guys.

In conclusion, I advise you to never do anything you do not want to do, even if it’s a pretty girl who proposes it. If you do not want to go clubbing, nor to drink alcohol, do not let women force your hand. Impose your reality (but do not be totally rigid anyway – I hate people who spend their time giving lessons). I never pay drinks to unknown with the hope they kiss me or they go back home with me. I only do it if I decided to do this because they deserved it in a way or another.

Before finishing, it reminds me a final anecdote. A friend in Aix, a schoolgirl, went on the Cours Mirabeau and proposed to guys “€5 for kissing me”. “Damn, she made almost € 100 that night !!! It’s crazy… Especially that she chose the guys she asked to so she chose guy she liked then she really did not force herself. She was earning as much as the guy but the balance still was “THE GUY + MONEY = HER”. It’s really hard… accepting such an unbalanced frame just shows that the guy has a mindset of beta male. I would have told her : we can kiss for free if you want!

In short, if I managed to get you thinking about some stuff, I’m happy. My goal through this article is to help you to never be bamboozled by a tease. Never pay for love… unless you’re old and ugly… and even in this case, it’s hardcore!

A friend asked me this question: “damn, why don’t they answer to my text after the first date ?”

I dug a little bit more the issue and he said: “No, I’m did not try to kiss them nor anything, I’m a gentleman, I let time take its course.”

You should know that the fact that you have not tried anything may disappoint some girls and get them to stop talking to you, without giving you any explanation. It must be understood that it is better to try it all out when the girl is in front of you rather than hoping a hypothetic future date.

Waiting probably reassures you and everything, and you justify it to yourself by saying that you want to look like a gentleman. But from their point of view they may very well think (and this is often the case), “but he is a non-testicled guy who do not even dare to kiss me I’m wasting my time with a guy who has lost his balls”.

Of course, they can also not answer you because you did something they did not like it during the appointment. But that, in general, you will feel during it the date anyway.

There are too many guys who hope that girls do not respond because they have read in a book they must make the boy struggle even if he is liked. But frankly, if it’s a twisted girl like that, it’s better to give up right now.

Regarding the delay, let’s say after 24 hours without response, we can consider that it’s dead. Some respond directly and immediately, others reply once or twice a day, that, that does not mean anything… it depends on personalities. Better analyze the content of the answers: if you are the last wheel of the cart or if she blocks when you sexualize a little, it starts badly, and it seems to me more profitable to focus on other targets.

Granted, they have some good light. As long as they are hot, they just have to sit down and be seduced without saying too much shit (and the sponge is passed over some stuff anyway). So it’s easier for a sexy girl to decide she’ll next a guy than for a guy to decide he’ll next a girl. And of course, to top it all, they often do it without giving you any explanation: perhaps because they are not sure themselves, perhaps to do not offend you, perhaps because you said a wrong word and they are super rigid but do not want to recognize and prefer dreaming, maybe something let them think it is you who do not like them enough and they do not want to take any risk of a refusal or that you do not answer, maybe they next 10 guys a week so it would take them too long to justify every time (even if it would help us and make us improve – the polished girls, it’s something rare).

However, we at least better control our sex life than them : because by moving his ass, one can find plenty of new targets. They, on their side, can only choose among those who flirt with her. Granted again, a beautiful woman who would assume to pick up and approach would be the queen of cum oil… but it’s not yet returned in manners in France.

I then looked at the texts of my buddy. By trying to do too much to seduce, his texting was finally just weird. He went too far in his jokes, was doing too much, etc. When in doubt, keep it simple. I have often sent “well then, I said something that shocked you or what?” Quite simply. And it sometimes revived the conversation.

After a date, I usually do not write. I expect they send me a text to show me their interest and this way I will not appear needy. I do not remember that it has already bear fruits (for me) to revive a conversation with a girl who had not sent any text message after our first date. Nor even to insist too hardly to see a girl who induces you to pray her. Anyway, they know very well that it is their role to appear receptive and they’ll do it (often even the LSE – low self esteem – will do so and if not too bad for them). By doing this, at least, we can leave the interaction with the head high by not giving her the image of a guy sex-starved submitted crawling underfoot capricious bitches. We respect ourselves, us!

After a numclose, I am writing in general relatively quickly unless I really do not have time. I do not write immediately in the wake unless I have a really good thing to say, but I do it in the following 24 hours that’s for sure. In addition, it allows me to see if, by chance, I would not have met a chick who assumes to make the first call. I therefore also test her motivation. Anyway, the famous trick ie waiting two days before calling her back is really cliché! But, letting them wait between your responses (like they do with you or longer), it’s cool.

As for sexual initiatives, it is often better to go too fast rather than too slowly with the communication means. But be careful to do too much pressure them!

About what to do when they do not respond or not anymore: I try once with humor like “Orange cut your subscription and that’s why you do not answer me or what?” Or “My last message was so a shit that you do not reply ? ;)”

If they still do not answer and I’m motivated, I confronted like “well then, my message made you afraid or what? I did not think you were that shy…” or “so then you, as soon as one makes a joke you stop answering, yet you looked like a smart girl who understand the second degree humor…”

Finally, in case of despair, I send the message of the last chance.

In Secrets for seducing on the Internet, you will find examples of messages to revive your interactions and the message of the last chance that allowed me to get some blows that seemed dead and buried. About my way of reviving conversations and confronting girls there are practical examples in More than 1000 sexy alpha funny lines!

It must be understood that a girl may simply have forgotten to respond. For example, if you wrote her when she was falling asleep: the next morning, she will no longer be notified that she has received a message and if she did not respond at the moment, it can easily get lost in the bit-bucket. Especially if she does not really know you yet and is not yet fully on you!

Or she had a guy for when she nexted you but it did not work with him. Do not dream, they almost never come back to you by themselves. That’s why the stimulus messages can be helpful and save some pussies. It all depends on why they have not answered. But that, we cannot guess.

The confrontation messages allow to prick their egos and push them to say what’s wrong. Again, there’s those that submit to you (or willing to challenge themselves) and those who will get blocked (and will insult you by principle).

The message of the last chance is longer and quite argues, which can convince those who were not very motivated (or inspired) to meet you at the beginning. For example, if they had misinterpreted your text or if they did not understand your humor. Because yeah, there are people who next guys for nothing. In addition, this message of the last chance reveals things about you that they would not necessarily dare to ask you… but they are interested by the answer eg “I am not a premature ejaculator, I do not have a micro-penis … ;)”

I wish you good luck for your study of the functioning of the weaker sex fair sex!

Part 1: Last Minute Resistance

A/ Definition

A LMR is something rather difficult to define in absolute terms.

This is for example, when you’re both in underwear and the girl is in her string on the bed, that you kiss quietly… but she suddenly no more wants to make love.

Basically, it is when everything seems to go well for both of you… but that at the time of moving up a gear: the girl finally don’t want to. Like if she had suddenly changed her mind. But is that really the case? Except if you are a terribly bad kisser, there is no reason. If you suspect that this may be the case for you, please read The awesome lover’s manual.

I think it is most often a kind of anxiety that can also feel every human during a bedtime… especially when it’s with someone new. Girls are more victim of it and it is easily understandable when one knows how they are strong to take a headache and ruin their lives because of details (like the fact that their pubic is not shaven for the occasion).

The difference between a girl who makes a resistance and a girl who really does not want to fuck us is that: the girl who “just” resistant is hot like fire but cannot help to play it “fierce.” She is totally wet but doesn’t want to sleep. While the one who really does not want to fuck is really blocked, says “no” several times, etc.

B/ How to react

If you arrived at this point: first of all, congratulations! Let’s not forget that you’ve all the same met an unknown girl, you talked to her, and you made her want to be in a bed with you. But how can do you go through when she makes a LMR?

First, we have no choice. And even if it is frustrating, we must stop our attacks to open a dialogue. You have to see where she blocks and why. In any case, we must stay within a committed relationship, it’s not about raping anyone! PUAs are modern gentlemen !!!

I sometimes encountered this kind of blocking, but fortunately it does not happen every time. So, sometimes it is surmountable but sometimes not. However, be aware that if you arrive at the preliminary stage, but that this anxiety is triggered and that nothing happens after with the woman, she may stay with a negative image associated with you, which could cut her any will to see you again. Once, I enjoyed making an LMR to a girl, just for fun. But she took it badly, she was upset and she never answered me on the phone after that.

Most often, the reasons that we can hear are in general:
“I think we’re going too fast.”
“I do not have enough time free time today.”
“I’m not a girl like that.”
“I do not know you well enough.”
“Not on the first night.”
“I have my periods.” (sometimes it’s true but it is also often a fake… with that said, you should know that sometimes they agree to do it anyway under the shower or with a towel under the buttocks)
“I am not shaved.”
“My place is a mess so I do not want you come over. ”
“I cannot, it’s complicated, I cannot tell you but it’s not you it’s me.”
“I’m still thinking about my ex, I’m not into it.”
“I want to remain a virgin until marriage.” (let’s respect that)
“Why me and not another girl?”
“What that tells me you’re going to call me back after? ”

At first I tried to argue, to demonstrate calmly and thoughtfully how this type of reaction is absurd. But they have rarely admitted.

In fact, you should know that they do not always give the real reasons that are blocking them. Because it is a reaction partly unconscious: they may not even understand what is happening in them. Evolutionary psychology also comes into play: their instinct warns them against the risks of STD, childbirth, etc.

Blocking can sometimes unblock if she is enough turned on, if her logic gives way to emotion. For this, as soon as she says stop : take a minute of rest, argue and work on her again. It can work if she really wants you and if that was really the fault of the principle “I don’t fuck on the first date”. However, in some people, the rational mind is stronger than the emotional mind and it is very difficult for them to let it go… especially with a stranger.

Another good solution is to reassure her and to try again later. If it is really because she is not shaved that she doesn’t want to have sex, we can tell her that we don’t give a shit of this detail and that it’s the whole of her we want. It could unlock her! Warning: women can balk and become cold during the dialogue.

The third good idea is my favorite, it’s a mix of the two first ones. It is the one I talk about in The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations : a verbal reassurance to help her control her blocks but we warm her with our hands, to see how she reacts.

Some coaches recommend trying a “naked man” in case of LMR, but I have never tried it in such a situation (I bet them either). The closest situation that happened to me: I was on my bed kissing the breasts of an American who did not want sleep with me under the pretext that she had a boyfriend in the United States. We both were in underwear and I removed my pants : as soon as I took her hand to put it on my cock : she gave me handjob. Then I convinced her to let me lick her ( “it is not binding, if you don’t like it please say stop and I will stop”. She then begged me “I so much want your dick into me” with her very cute accent.

There’s finally the solution that is to ignore the girl when she is too indecisive : it can work. It is called “the fridge.” So if it is more like a whim than anything else, that she is just playing to drive you crazy, play it like a bitch too. She could reflect on the fact that she is messing around and losing you and then she could very well change her mind. Or she can leave your place… she’s free! I draw your attention to the importance of wisely decipher what the girl communicates. If she said no, but she stays half-naked in front of you : it ss a game for her. If she rejects you clearly, this is not a code to say “I love you please still try to fuck me with strength.”

That said, I met one like that. I went to her, place we kissed and everything but I have not fucked her. She did not want. She texted me once I left, she said, “I would have liked that you force me.” Well yeah, but…

Last paragraph: what to do if nothing works and that “no means no”? Sulking or insulting her : bad ideas! It would definitely prevent you from seeing her again later. It is better to play the gentleman and to tell her the truth: that you are disappointed but hey, that’s life, and that if she changes her mind later, you will be very happy because you think you both have missed something. You should know that there are girls who purposely push us like that to see our true nature: it can be a test!

C/ Take precautions

To avoid such problems, I suggest you to talk upstream of the fact that you will fuck if you go home. Do not hide your intentions! Tell her how much she turns you on, that she is very sexy. Once home, if she is hesitant, ask if the desire is mutual. It can be just shyness, her little hesitation …

Also create some comfort during the date and make her not feel guilty. Explain the fact that you will not judge as a “slut” if she sleeps with you. Make her comfortable with that! It is for you to do this job because they have a social mask to take care of, which is not really our case.

Finally, it may help to make your apartment a not disgusting place, a place where you feel comfortable…

I think I have taken a feather out of my cap : if a woman feels anxious or unsure about the idea of ​​making love, how in this context, making love with her could be a good thing, and not a incentive for abuse? Simply because, in such a situation, this woman really want to make love with you. At this stage, she feels she wants to make love with you, but she wonders if she should do it. It is torture, she is afraid of regretting or feeling “dirty” after. Many men do not understand that today girls possess their own bodies and have as much than men the right to have fun. Many women have not understood it very well either, by the way.

Part 2: Rape

Under French law, rape is a sexual assault involving, according to article 222-23 of the Penal Code, “any act of sexual penetration, whatever its nature, committed against another person by violence, constraint, threat or surprise.”

So: clearly show your intentions (but no sexual harassment nor needy either: you have to work a little on your game and acquire tact). Do not force her in any way and be very careful: the goal is not to insist until she gives up, but to do not foolishly give up before she gave a clear answer.

To illustrate the shit it is to manage a LMR, I’ll tell you another story. A girl I had picked up in the street had come to a date. I spoke to her about sex for a while and, despite that, she was “OK” to come and eat at my house. We talked and played cards for hours before I kiss her on the neck. She said “stop” when my hand started to go down on her crotch. So: I stopped. And then she said, ” stop it because you are fucking making me want to have sex with you but I have not shaved my pussy and I’m not a girl like that so we’ll meet again next week to have sex.” Admit that the concept is stupid: she was dying but felt compelled to frustrate both of us… And nobody forced her to say that. So: I insisted, ready to stop if she asked me to one more time… but she finally agreed that I caress her breasts and fingers her. From there, we fucked several times in a row. By leaving, she thanked me for insisting (her blocking was an avoidance strategy because she had few experience in bed), congratulated me for the good fuck and we have met again the next week with great pleasure.

The confusion between rape and LMR is that women send a lot of mixed messages. Sorry, politically correct people, but “no” does not always mean “no.” It depends on how it’s said. If one does not speak the ‘girls’ language and never had any “feedback” after shots: indeed, one might think that they did not want and that we a little forced them. But the truth is that they had wanted us to do that, and they are most of the time grateful because we insisted because : relieved them of a weight.

Another example: some chicks when I lick them and they approach orgasm, tell me “stop”… but do not think for a second and would be disappointing if I did. I know it for sure because it is a fairly common event and they tell me “thank you” after. They admit to me on the pillow they were just afraid to let it go, at the time, that’s all. When they are in a situation which gives them strong emotions, women do not always say what they really think. We either, for that matter. But we do more, all the same!

However, be aware that in France, rape is a social phenomenon quite common: 75 000 cases per year, or 1 per 1000 inhabitants. It’s sad, but just around me, I know 4 or 5 cases. Some were raped by members of their families, others under GHB by several guys. And stay a big trauma. Some now make anxiety attacks, others are disgusted of sex, others still love sex but feel guilty, I also know some who by now have great difficulty in trusting someone, and some lucky girls for who fortunately nothing changed…

It is unacceptable to say that they unconsciously wanted it because they were dressed sexy, or because they were walking alone at night. Damn we are not savages !!! These damn rapists should more  read my blog, they would be less frustrated as they would be more successful and everyone would have fewer problems.

Some rapists claim that it does not count because she “loved it” but it is wrong to believe that :
– A woman who said “no” think “yes” (it depends on how it is said);
– Violence is sexually exciting for women (a little spanking during doggystyle why not but for the rest you have to ask permission for it to be respectful);
– The victim could have resisted if she really did not consent (bad faith).

It is there that stops the concept of LMR: if the girl firmly says “no”, we stop. And let’s discuss with her calmly. We will only penetrate into her if she finally says “yes” or if she starts jumping on our cock by herself (basically she has to come back to us by herself to show us that she still has desire for us even though it may seem obvious: it’s such a delicate position, we must be careful).

On the other hand, attention, sometimes women falsely accuse men of rape. I’m not saying that it is often, but it can happen. Some have made a lot of money like that through fraudulent trial. It’s disgusting to talk about this but be aware that it exists. So, prevention is better than cure, prevent this kind of situation!

In summary, to do well, she must feel that she can leave at any time; do not put her too much under pressure. The frame must be clear: she is free, she is not forced and we do not withdrawn “sex” to a woman, we are two when we do it !!

My conclusion

It’s better to miss a shot than being accused of rape, let’s be realistic. But women must also understand it and not call us “small dick” if we do not always insists when they yell their internal torture “but I feel like I’m not like that” or “I love that one forces me but I say it only when you’re gone.”