Men and women under 30 love SMS. Many people would like to master the art of turning someone on with messages (it works for your target or your girlfriend). So I here will give you some examples of ready to use sextos !
Definition and origin
According to Wikipedia, “sexting” (also known as “textopornography” or “sextage”) is the act of sending sexually explicit texts or photographs… in French, we call it “sextos”. But, by extension, it can be said that one sends sextos when one warms someone on the dating apps.
The term appeared in 2005 in Australia in an article in The Daily Telegraph (Sunday magazine issue).
Interest
The phone call can sometimes be perceived as intrusive, while the e-mail is something more “professional”. The SMS, meanwhile, is a perfect compromise to discreetly excite a person.
Kinky texting is a good way to create and feed sexual tension. They are very useful: in the past, we used the letters of love… it is in fact an adaptation of a human need (writing is an awesome weapon of seduction) to new technologies.
The objectives of sextos
The goals of a sexto are to talk about your desires, to seduce, to arouse sexual arousal, to play and to strengthen the bond with the other. The point is to sexualize the conversation and create some intimacy, a sexual complicity, between you two.
Another objective is to make the other person visualize the act. Indeed, know that if you have already slept on the phone with a girl, you will sleep more easily with her in real life.
How to write and send good sextos
It’s not always easy to send a good sexto. What to start with ? How do we know if we’re going too hard, too dirty? I will now give you tips to put all the odds on your side. Nevertheless, you must keep in mind that, this kind of thing, it happens or breaks (fortunately it happens more often than it breaks)…
Avoid nevertheless sending photos of your cock (let a certain mystery and frustrate a little bit the other one). But if you decide to do it anyway, make sure one cannot see your face and your cock on the same picture.
First, let it go, forget your inhibitions, feel the ground, be bold and go further and further. Do not send anything to a girl you hardly know… go ahead and see how she answers. Depending on her open-mindedness and responsiveness to your advances, you need to move a gear or take a little more time. Above all, avoid being too vulgar before knowing if she likes it: some prefer erotic sextos while others adore when it is downright pornographic… here is a perfect opportunity to disinhibit and test your sexual compatibility with the other!
Timing is also very important: try sending your messages at times when both of you are available to answer quickly. In fact, it is often necessary to “sextotate”, that is to say sending a series of sextos, to achieve a good degree of excitement.
Then, keep in mind that there is a huge difference between “writing sextos” and “sending sweet words”. I do not advise you to play it mushy (the goal is to turn her on) nor to be too salacious too fast (you don’t want to scare her). Nevertheless, you must be believed, sincere, frank, direct, etc. In short, do not try to make complicated innuendo… be explicit!
Finally, remember that even if the goal is to be direct and confident, you must always consider the desires, fantasies and preferences of your partner. It is useless to try to excite her by telling her that you would like to sodomize her on the coffee table of her living room if she does not like anal…
Examples of sextos
“I want you. Do you know what I would do if you were next to me?”
“I imagine your caresses and your tongue on my body… I am becoming very hard.”
“I’ll take my shower, wanna come?”
“I’m very hungry, I could devour you entirely.”
“Think of something kinky and I’ll do it to you tonight. You have my word.”
“What color are your underwear?”
“I want to put a good spanking on you. You excite me.”
“I’m naked in my bed… thinking about you and it makes me feel good.”
“Did you know I love to massage?”
“Do you remember when I licked you up to orgasm the other night?”
They love subjects that relate to gender relations. If so many women look at The Young And The Restless, it’s for a reason.
Women also love subjects that concern mystery, magic, witchcraft, and so on.
Topics about fashion, clothing, perfumes… are also quite effective with women!
Topics to avoid :
Politics is a delicate subject in which everyone seeks to defend his point of view. Keep this topic aside to discuss it with your parents’ friends on Sunday afternoon.
Religion is a subject that does not create a link, it is a subject that is likely to lead you constantly to dead ends and does not bring anything in seduction.
Avoid at all costs talking about the exs (yours or hers), it is a subject that she normally reserves for her friends or her best friend. If she starts talking about her exs, cut off the conversation and show her signs of disinterest.
Never talk about your problems with girls. Talking about your problems with girls will devalue you and diminish your attraction capital… As a future PUA, you are supposed to have no problems with girls!
Avoid this kind of phrases: « it’s cool here don’t you find? ; Are okay ? ; How long have you been here? ; There’s a lot of people, huh? » This type of lambda phrases reflects a lack of confidence, as if you felt compelled to fill the silence so your target doesn’t escape.
What is interesting about a conversation with you is not the subject in itself but the way you approach it, the way you treat it. This is called originality. Paradoxically, to be original, start by being yourself. That is to say, talk about the things you like without headache. It is in the expression of your passions and interests that will emerge your natural freshness.
You’re not there to interview her so avoid all the questions like, « What are you doing in life? Where do you study ? Do you come here often ? Etc. » This is the kind of boring questions whose answer does not bring anything because basically you do not give a fuck. Moreover, all the men who have been here before you have surely asked her exactly the same questions. Instead of these unnecessary and boring questions, ask her questions that stimulate her imagination and make it possible to set up a kind of challenge.
To make her speak, imagine that each new encounter must give rise to a little story. The woman to whom you speak must always tell you her own. “Who ? When? What? Where ? How?”
You too have yours to tell. But you will have to listen to her story if you want to be listened to. Especially since her story will condition yours: one answers often to an anecdote by another one of the same type.
The next time you talk with someone, a colleague, a friend or a girl you meet, do not think about what you want to say, but focus on what he or she has say. Try and you’ll see that it will be fine!
Basic rules:
– Do not swear like a wagoner. In any case not, not before well knowing her;
– Be self-mocking about your body fat. It will make her laugh;
– Do not spend your time comparing her to your ex (or worse to your mother);
– Do not talk about yourself in the third person, except for humor;
– Do not put yourself at the center of all subjects as if everything was related to you;
– Show yourself interested when the woman speaks, offer her your active listening.
In your narratives and descriptions, always add emotion and sensory elements: describe what you see, feel, hear, etc. Never say anything to try to impress. Do not boast about your job, your money, your knowledge, your exs (!) or any other qualities (example: “I am a very protective man, I am super attentive and faithful, etc.”).
On the other hand, try to demonstrate your value via stories, storytelling. Tell an anecdote about yourself, which implies that you possess such and such quality, but remain implicit. If she feels that you are trying to impress her, your value will diminish in her eyes.
Always be cool, playful and fun. Seduction is a game, not something really important. The ideal of a conversation would be to mix up humor, teases and questions about something she likes. Bad taste is not necessarily to be proscribed, it is necessary to establish communication with the animal that is in both of you.
One of the best ways to seduce a woman is to talk like her. But the expression “speaking like her” does not mean adopting her facial mimics, nervous laughter, or shrill voice. Because I want to preserve your manhood, I propose a much less dangerous exercise. During your appointment, you will discuss many topics, but before giving your opinion on some of them, wait until she expresses herself and then resume her opinion on your account. This is a great way for a woman to feel understood. And who says woman understood, says woman conquered. A “I understand you so much” or a “I totally agree” would obviously not do the job : it is necessary to paraphrase.
Of course, it is not a question of stifling your personality, nor of silencing your opinions and of acquiescing to all that the lady says in front of you. “Talking like her” is a technique to use from time to time in conversation to create a real connection between you two.
When you wait a little before re-starting a subject and rephrase yherour words with your words, the woman in front of you will generally not understand that you are repeating her ideas solely in order to seduce her. She will even come to believe most of the time that she has found the rare pearl: a man who thinks like her and understands her…
There are many alarmist articles on the Internet that will tell you that it is impossible to get out of the friendzone. Others will tell you that the friendzone is an illusion. Because in fact everything is always possible. Sometimes not right away. Sometimes, of course, not at all.
Diagnosis:
Are you, in her eyes, a non-lover? If your lovely lady is asking you to serve her, confides in you, is consoled by you, asking you to carry her bags when you go shopping it’s that she sees you as her boyfriend… but WITHOUT the sexual side. I’m not saying that there is no unconsciously romantic aspect to all this, but it’s still completely platonic. It can last a century without ever moving on.
No doubt you have never let her the time nor the opportunity to consider you as a straight man, endowed with libido and potentially interested.
Do not blam her (note that a person feeling guilty would probably send you to Hell, even if that person is wrong – it’s easier). No tears or hangdog look (you’d spoil all your future chances by being pathetic). Do not try to rationally convince her that you’re what’s best for her.
Tell her something like:
“I need to talk to you five minutes, just the two of us… I enjoy our friendship but I want more. I did not premeditated but I like you, I have feelings for you…
– Ah … I do not know what to say. I love you much, but as a friend. I am sorry.
– I understand, I do not blame you. I just had to tell you.”
The goal is not she fucks with you after confession. On the contrary, following this revelation, it is very likely that you will take distance from each other for a while. The aim is to cause her a first awareness: YOU’re not her asexual friend but a potential lover.
Warning: if she reacts badly, gives you unhealthy intentions, projetcs all her paranoia on you… if as soon as you speak to her of love, she accuses you of being a pig, a silly person, a weirdo… flee ! A girl who would react like that suffers from too much trauma to live a healthy romantic relationship.
Get out of her life:
You have every reason not to show yourself for a while. Let her digest the information. “This is a guy who can feel desire in my presence? That’s crazy !” On your side, you’ll reinvent yourself.
Take time to see your friends, your family, to do sports, to go out with other girls, etc. Invest yourself really in the game and you’ll metamorphose!
Have fun. To do not think of her, occupy your mind with lots of positive things, making plans. This phase can last a long while so, have a life, socialize and do not fuck up 6 long months for one single person who does not even want you.
The comeback:
When you’re a new man, continue to be nice to her, but nothing more. Everything in your attitude should suggest that you have turned the page and you see other girls. But do not verbalize it.
Stay mysterious, do not hesitate to say nonchalantly, “I gotta go, I’m in a rush, Lea’s waiting for me. Kisses, see you soon “. Then say a kindly “take care of yourself,” accompanied by a quick kiss on the cheek. If she asks you who is Lea, use a shitty excuse of pressed guy through which your target will imagine what you want her to imagine : “She’s a friend!”
With your target, NO date or anything looking like it in any way. The romantic dinners are over (keep it for when you’ll really be together as a couple), no long walks in the park, no hugs… and invite her when your friends are present.
Your hangs out must be shorter but more exciting, choose a party in a bar full of people over a head-to-head cinema with her. Subtly flirt with other girls under her nose (do not overdo it). Also flirt a tad with her, but let her know that it’s just politeness: “It suits you well, this haircut,” then go back to your conversation with Natacha. Or, come to her party with a pretty friend. The game will be subtle, I never repeat enough, the goal is to make her curious. “And if I was wrong to do not believe in him, to reject him?”
Dress up better :
Take care of your look so you appear less stupid.
Wear a sexy fragrance:
Have you come, gentlemen, for being hypnotized by a feminine scent that evokes the door open to all pleasures? Well for women, it’s the same. Smell is near the center of emotions (think of Proust’s madeleine). Many women admit that if a bad smell can kill any desire in them, a good toilet water evocative of softness and masculinity can work wonders. A friend told me that, in the subway, she sometimes felt guys who had the same perfume as me and that it reminded her of our sex sessions.
Here is a sentence for sexualizing about perfume, “You should stop using this perfume on you. It’s very sexy, and I’m afraid one day I’ll jump on you…”
Control your body language:
If your nervousness in front of the elected of your heart stirred you in every way… Learn to control your emotions and to adopt a more composed and affirmed body language.
Do not hesitate to talk about sex:
Of course, do not go into the details. But there is no question that you are thought of as a monk. If one day in a conversation, one of your friends made a comment about a practice, be worldly enough to don’t look surprised or close-minded. Do not look embarrassed : usually, it won’t be about revealing intimate details of your relationships or your partners.
Be touchy :
This is certainly not about groping her nor taking her hand like a little boy who found his mom after school. When you talk to her, touch her elbow or forearm briefly to emphasize a part of the conversation. Above all, do not pay attention to the fact that you touch… obviously if you sweat profusely, she will lose respect for you. Be serene, you are now a touch-type with women.
It is from this touch, which will increase according to her responsiveness, she will realize your potential. This may take time, but not too much. If the girl is absolutely not receptive, GIVE UP! If she touches you back, if her touch is more intimate, more erotic it means that you are on the good way. Gradually, an occasion of kissing her should appear. Do not miss this opportunity and score ! 😉
If you are young, shy and have never had the opportunity to analyze what happens when a woman wants to kiss : know that it is about a series of microscopic details that stuck together, form a puzzle about the size of an elephant in a china shop. Observe: she sits next to you or is approaching, lets you touch her or touches you, she throws you small eyes, lets you take her hand or takes your hand, she looks at you in the eyes but also toward your lips…
Yes, but why wouldn’t it be up to her to take action? It is a fair consideration. The answer: It IS THE WAY IT IS. So, courage!
If she refuses to kiss, well, too bad. You have already done too much, get up, take your leave. No hard feelings, but you must move on.
If you are successful, congratulations.
II – The friendzone with your ex
You want to get your ex back, the one who has firmly stowed you in her Friendzone? If you want my opinion, this is a bad idea, but…
First, you need to understand, at a moment in her life, she obviously liked you if she was in a relationship with you. It’s already a big advantage you have over the lambda friendzoned. She was (and potentially still is) attracted to you. Then the relationship ended (and it’s more what you should dig: why?) If your friendship is working and that your relationship went wrong, it is a shame: you need to find out what has sealed your relationship and destroy the thoughts that keep her away from you.
You have probably opted for the “friendship” in order to stay close to her… but deep within yourself, it’s a new relationship together you want if you crave this chapter.
Your strategy will not be much different than the normal friendzoned. You will avoid being too sticky, to be at her service, to comfort her too much. You will show you changed, you’re now more attractive, more coveted…
If that’s not enough, know when to give up. All vessels are not made to be glued. That does not necessarily mean that you are not good enough for her. Or that she is not good enough for you. It just means that together, it doesn’t work.
Cry a little bit if you want but realize that if you really are a winner, you have to get back in the saddle. If you’re in the hole, a personal development process can only make you feel better!
Stop spending time and energy for a girl who clearly doesn’t want you. Respect yourself! Isn’t it in fact an excuse for not having to go on the field and approach girls ? Come out of your comfort zone! It will change your mind…
Today we will see how to effectively getting ready for a rendez-vous, without overdoing it! I’ll tell you how I do, because it works most of the time. There are three aspects to the preparation: physical, mental and material!
Physically
– Mowing the beard (or shave it). Seriously, it is useless to take care of your beard for an hour, especially if it’s in order to look like a guy who does not care for his beard.
– Then: mowing pubic hair if they are too long. A tip: do it above your toilets.
– Cut your nails and remove any black dirt encrusted below, it’s important if you want to finger her in an hygienic way. Seriously, otherwise, a shame and does not make women want to see the rest (your sausage).
– It’s time to take a shower especially if you have transpired during the day, before the date.
– Wash your hair if necessary, if they are oily. Wash your teeth so you won’t stink.
– Wear a classy shirt or t-shit/polo, it’s not worth suiting up. It can be a ground to reject you, not sticking to the image that was given to the girl: if one plays the cool guy, do not come dressed up like a penguin. You have to value yourself but remain comfortable in your clothes. Avoid clothes that have the scriptures or big logos, especially in your back. And dirty underwear.
– I prefer eans unless I come directly from work (case of emergency) and I am wearing a suit, but in this case, I explain…
– It’s not worth testing 4 outfits especially if it is to finally go back to the first. This is the stress that you would make you do that… but, stress is your enemy in seduction. Be careful in choosing shoes (check that they are in good condition and not grimey) and belt. Never wear white socks with dark shoes.
– Then your hair: Again, like with the beard, do not spend three hours in front of the glass like a narcissist.
– Sprinkle A LITTLE perfume.
– No need to spend an hour in front of the mirror waring makeup if you are not a chick. See if you have no boogers, hair protruding from the nose and ears or your fly open…
– No need to do pushups in order to look muscular.
– No need to prepare 2 hours before the date, even if she has to wait 5 minutes, it’s not a problem. It’s happened to me to get completely drunk to a date in my youth and I fucked the girl so since I relativize. The purpose of a first date is not to be perfect but to have a good attitude, to be relaxed and to communicate it.
Mentally
It is not worth repeating 150 times your openers in front of a mirror. It will not change your inner game, anyway. Do not internally replay the possible scenarios, especially if it is to imagine the worst!
It is not worth preparing a list of conversation topics to get into. You can quickly check her interests on her Facebook profile if it reassures you but remember that the goal is to make her speak of her and of what she likes. So finally you’ll just have to get comfortable, to tease her a little and show your interest. But, if she notices that you have stalked her, it will not be good…
You must go for a result at least a kiss on the mouth, in the best case a fuck. This winner mindset will make you sexualizing a little bit the conversation instead of staying in your abstinent comfort zone. If you really think it would not work, do not attempt the kiss. But make sure it’s not an excuse that you imagined on the moment (and will regret later) to reassure you by saying that if you try to kiss her, you would frighten her and not see her again. Do not be silly, chicks know very well why they accept a date. Only stupids and hypocrites say otherwise. This requires that your friend understands that this is a date and not an appointment to become best friends… never agree to go into that kind of frame! The forced Friendzone does not exist for sexual men! Besides, a guy who does not dare to take initiatives rarely see chicks again!
Materially
If she comes to your place directly or if you plan to take her home:
– Remove the paper towel from beside the bed. Do you love masturbation so much ?
– Prepare the bed (at least pull the sheet)
– Remove the affairs of another girl that could still be in your bed
– Do not leave too icky stuff lying around, do not let a mountain of dishes (at worst even if she ultimately does not come, it will be done)
– Always have something to drink at home. And a card game or another trick to get comfortable, if necessary
– Take two or three condoms in the back pocket of your trousers or then place them under the bed but do not let them prominently on the bedside table, in mode “YOU SEE, I KNEW THAT I WAS GOING TO SCREW YOU AHAHAH”
– Do not bring a bouquet of flowers
– Have some cash, but do not pay for everything or then say “you will pay the next time/next glass”
– Regarding the choice of the place, if you go to a neutral place before going home: avoid the restaurant, cinema, and these clichés stuff. I know you read a lot on the Internet that it is better to go to a place where you know many people because of social proof… but I prefer avoiding it, to do not be constantly interrupted and to be able to focus on my target. When I have to date a girl outside, I often choose places I know with a friendly atmosphere, pretty quiet places.
Good luck !
II – How to seduce during a date?
The date is a stage of seduction which consists of meeting up in a neutral place. Sure it’s better to know someone before taking him home, but hey, on the other hand, you are as likely to be attacked by someone you know than by someone who basically do not give a shit about you (statistics).
On your way to get to a date, try to think of something else to avoid stress. Once there, if you do not see the girl, call her. It is more suitable than texting in such moments!
When you say hello to her, put your hand on her shoulder, to make it a bit sensual. The gesture must be confident but not pressing or you take the risk of making yourself look like a weird guy. You can even try to guide her to go somewhere by putting your hand on her down back (not all the time but briefly).
I think it’s better to sit in front of each other than side by side: experience shows it works I better. Probably because it allows for a good eye contacts.
If there is a seat, be a gentleman and offer her to sit on. If you have a choice, you should prefer to be positioned against the wall. This will limit the her field at the rendezvous, and she will not be disturbed by by the comings and goings of other people behind you. It will help you to create “your bubble.”
Drink : order what you want. But even when I was still drinking alcohol, I did not get drunk during a date. In fact, this is not a good strategy to make her drink until she loses control nor to put some GHB in her drink.
If you make a date at home, ask if you need to bring something. If she comes, plan some wine or another thing like that to drink.
Getting along well
There are positions to be adopted to better succeed, I personally adopt a rather nonchalant body language but not slouching. Of course, do not stare at chicks’ ass all around you during a date.
Check the position of your friend and evaluate the signs of interest she gives. Make some mirroring sometimes if you remember. That is to say: create a subconscious connection by synchronizing your gestures asymmetrically.
Be the same than when you made her dream enough to accept the date. There is nothing worse than the loudmouth that become very shy when in front of a girl.
A date is not a job interview, do not prepare your discussion topics. This is not the time to cover her with compliments, that would make you lose value (needy mode).
It’s true that it’s better to avoid like plague some subjects, like : politics, religion or stances. Generally, I avoid too strong opinions, I do not make a speech in favour of a particular cause or at least I do not speak about it during the meeting, I wait to know her better, it avoids hitting her personal beliefs (and also that she hurts mine – it avoids headaches). About her ex? Sometimes it can be good to talk about him, one told me that he fucked her very badly and everything but it is generally recommended to avoid this subject sometimes too sensitive.
On the other hand, you must sexualize of course. It would be good to make a whole video about it and about how to avoid Friendzone (as well as body language)! Do not be afraid if she talks about sex, assume to get her comfortable with it. But do not talk only about sex either. The idea is just to put it in her mind, if she had not this idea already! You can tease her, about her nervousness due to having a date.
Making her talk about her is paramount. Although sometimes in the beginning you will have to launch her by making the most of the conversation. Knowing how to do that without giving her the impression of answering police questions is a major asset. Ask “and you? ” to turn her questions back to her is effective because chicks often ask about what they are interested in. Common interests are important for a girl.
If you talk to a girl you like about cinema, naturally propose to go watching a movie the next day, for example.
In any case, you must absolutely not let your hormones make you lose your mind and look like a douchebag. Each girl has her definition of a douchebag and her own criteria, that’s what’s hard! But hey, there’s universal things. For example, never say, “well, I’ll poop.”
Orient the conversation towards positive things, not too many factual, rather some emotional.
When you talk, make the distinction between bragging and marketing yourself. Telling your little piece of history or your stories without trying to brag, this is done subtly and not boastfully.
A little small talk, it’s also important to look normal. It’s sad but it’s like that… “But we do not care of what my father does for a living, will we fuck or not ?”
During the visit, it’s easy to make some kinos on her hands. That is to say, for example, asking to see more closely the ring or bracelet and taking this opportunity to fondle nonchalantly and sensually this sensitive area. It can even be a compliance test: will she play the game? How will she react? (For more informations, see my video about the cooperation test).
The end of the date
Should you pay the bill? Yes, why not, but tell her « you will pay next time. » Make it look like that’s not much. But if she insists, let her pay. Remember that in the savannah, the lioness goes hunting for the king of the jungle.
At the end of the date, propose to go home or try to kiss her (not in the bar but rather by leaving) even if you do not feel with this idea… 1% chance of success is better than 0 % and then… even if you never see her again after that, know that you would probably have not see her again anyway, so that’s something taken on life! And no regrets is my policy! And if she does not want, too bad for her! 😉
So it is better that the place of date allows her to come over fairly quickly, just so shet does not cool down on her way to seventh heaven.
You can use the excuse of showing her something you’ve talked about to take her home. Or assume and normally she will understand to what she is commited if she says yes. No smart girl would go alone in the room of a hetero-sexual guy if she wouldn’t want to fuck him.
If you did not fuck after the date, in this case, do not send the first message directly after the date. Wait she does first!
Some mistakes to avoid
Do not go on a date with a friend.
Do not join a girl who is with her friends.
Do not join her if she has something planned one hour later.
Do not wait if it is doing something before.
This is a very bad idea to wait, even if she looks very sure on the phone, very motivated and very excited to see you. If she is not completely available for you, it is better to postpone the date. This will prevent you from having date with the friends of the girl who will judge you, dates rushed because of a lack of time and it is not a good idea to wait because she has something planned before and desperately wait for her because she already has something planned, but does not know at what time it will end. Do not be a spare wheel on the condition that she has nothing better to do that day! Enjoy the time you have reached to see more available girls. Respect yourself !
If during the date, she says she has to leave because she has a headache. Or because one of her friends needs emergency assistance: it is an excuse, do not send texts to propose a second date after such an affront. Anyway, she will probably not answer. Time to go home, she will have already have deleted you on Facebook, Tinder and her repertoire! Women are usually not really honoest when they do not want to us (nor when they want us) it’s a shame but it can lead to humiliating misunderstandings! You have been warned!
If she is late, do not wait more than 20 minutes (unless she has a good excuse) and do not tolerate more than two bucks. Girls should respect you to desire you!
If an interested girl cancels a date, SHE must make a counter-proposal. You do not have to beg for the “privilege” of seeing her (it’s a bad frame). You can watch my video about frames too !
Do not spend 1 hour on the phone during a date while she is waiting for you. Do not answer the phone unless you have real emergency, it is not polite.
I am no longer as scandalous as I used to be. Because of my work, my depression and the fact that I no longer drink alcohol, I have become “soft”… Some will say that it is a good thing, others that I get old. I do not know, it’s just the way it is. Nevertheless, I did a rather crazy thing last night.
I had picked up a chick on Adopte last week. After a few messages, she warned me she’s deaf. In fact, she was born like that because of a genetic disease (shitty mutation of a fucking gene). I had never slept with a handicapped person before and she was still cute, so I opened my mind and continued to seduce her.
Last night, she came to my house, we drank a tea, she sucked me like a hungry and we fucked doggy style standing against my desk. As she was small and light, I even took her in rather acrobatic positions. Finally, she asked me to squirt her face and said she loves it. It was nice: I put sperm in her hair too, just like in There’s Something About Mary.
Once we finished our business, we ate pasta together and that’s when she confessed to me that I’m only the third guy she had sex with in her whole life… but she precised that she loves sex. She revealed that she masturbates regularly.
Because of her disability, I had a hard time understanding what she was saying, and she could not understand me, but it was a rewarding experience. Her level of self-confidence was close to zero, I hope that having tested my cock will help her. I tried to be very positive, understanding, I insisted that she is sexy and that she should take advantage of life (many guys would be delighted to kiss a pretty girl like her… despite her deafness).
Finally, all this to say that even if you are handicapped, you can meet people and have fun.
I was thinking about stopping my diary because I thought all my meetings were all alike (and it’s a bit true) but this little slut showed me that I was wrong then I will continue a little.
Moreover, as if to encourage me to continue my fables of modern womanizer : I had this evening a date with a 27 year old girl who had approached me on Adopteaguy.
This is a pretty damn rider working at Starbucks. We shared a glass of red wine and the discussion was very interesting. This chick has a great frame of mind. She loves sex and assumes it. She hates the girls who play the princesses. She admits that sometimes she fucks a guy just to fuck a guy because she wants sex (but she needs to like him a minimum).
She explained to me how she selects the guys on Adopte: people who have no conversations and do not assume their intentions (or who are afraid of an enterprising chick) piss her off so she grants a great importance to description. She claims I’m the first she met on this site… is this the truth or did she just want to flatter my ego to make sure I fuck her?
She tried Once as well… but the guys she met did not want to fuck right away (they were playing their little girl who wants to know each other better before considering anything) so she left.
The majority of the naughty encounters that she does is apparently in the parties. She also realizes that a chick a little cute can easily have fun with almost the guys she wants (anyway even a girl just a bit pretty can easily fuck very hot guys by playing the enterprising slut). She thinks she would be wrong to deprive herself, and I think so too. Her father gave her the following advice: “my daughter, enjoy life, you do not care about the opinion of the others.” She also testifies that most of her friends who play “the saints” girls in front of the guys are actually as naughty as she is (they are just more hypocritical). I had already noticed that, but her speech confirms it.
According to her, we men, are big naive who believe more and more in the charming princess. I also noticed that. Some even prefer to remain in the illusion rather than open their eyes.
We talked about the friendzone too. She confirmed that “yes, there are categories: if a guy is a buddy, I do not plan to sleep with him at all”. After talking almost an hour, we kissed each other. That’s when she warned me that she hated the pussy-licking because it makes her feel bad when one touches her clit. Then she became very wild. She undressed, put me naked rather violently before kneeling in front of me and sucking me. She pumped me in a very powerful way, shaking very fast and squeezing me hard. She also made sucking movements on my cock: I had not often experimented with this method. On the other hand, she absolutely did not want me to guide her head with my hand.
Seeing her playing the domineering bitch like that transcended me. We intertwined, we played to tackle the other against the other, it was horny. Fortunately, moreover, she had less physical strength than me. At one point, I pressed her against my window and fingered her as she tried to turn around to jerk me. Then I took her doggy standing, plated on my table. Her little pussy was tight. She gave the rhythm by moving her ass even if she was in a submissive position… it was she who was fucking me. I was very excited and she was screaming like crazy so I orgasmed in a few minutes.
During this respite, we went to bed, warmed up and she rode. Then I resumed doggy-style until her orgasm… and she asked me to stop because she was not wet anymore after coming. “It’s a shame, don’t you see this beautiful erection?” I told her… so she sucked me again until I came. She was very exciting, both in attitude and physically speaking.
Then we hugged a little, she got dressed and went back to her place. Now I want to bang a pro porn actress… but I do not know where to find her. It would also be an awesome field report…!
Dirty talk is a form of verbal communication used as a sexual stimulant during preliminaries or sexual intercourse. The dirty talk is a role-play in which your partner and you forget your prudishness and let express your sexual desire and your animal side.
Precautions
Many women like to hear diary talk in bed (some even love insults… but in this case, we get dangerously close to BDSM!)
Besides, in doing research to write this article, I noticed that many female sites describe dirty talk as a common female fantasy. Good news : it’s a practice that also excites me a lot because it places me a little in a position of dominance (I’m not saying that a man must subdue a woman because we are equal… but the fact is, in bed, many women enjoy being dominated and many men love to be in a position of dominance).
Many men who are educated by feminism and are full of limiting beliefs think that talking to a woman like a bitch is a lack of respect (and it is because, said this way, it can be like aggression). Except that if it excites your partner and makes her orgasm, isn’t it rather the fact of depriving her of what she likes that is a lack of respect?
A survey corroborates my point: it showed that while 36% of people have difficulty expressing their sexual desires, 44% say they like dirty talk in bed.
Moreover, the Marquis de Sade would also agree with me about the importance of the art of dirty talk to drive your partners crazy with desire since he wrote « une femme bande par l’oreille (a woman gets hard with her ear) ».
Whispering naughty things to your girlfriend is therefore fun, exciting and very effective.
How to start with dirty talk?
Above all, you have to build a climate of trust with the woman to whom you want to talk dirty. Indeed, some not really open-minded chicks could confuse you (you, the expert in dirty talk) with an asshole who does not know how to talk to women: fuck ! So you need to prepare the ground a little before warming her.
For the shy people, one of the best ways to introduce naughty exchanges is to start with texts, because a written message puts less pressure (on you and women)!
This will increase the sexual tension between the two of you. But do not try to precipitate things if you begin : start with light messages… try to go farther and farther … as far as possible!
Be careful, you are not the only one who can transgress the limits and speak crudely… if she likes it, let the girl take the initiative and answer her either by playing the shy guy or the big pervert (depends on your own style).
What’s a good dirty talk?
The first important thing is to make it simple! The two most common mistakes are wanting to do too much or not to assume and inhibit. No need to think too much: just express your desire with the words.
You will also need to vary your words: a minimum of creativity is always welcome.
Finally, when you make love, the ice breaks and it becomes more and more easy to let it go! It is, for example, effective to whisper naughty things to her in the ear while you take her in a position like missionary or doggystyle.
“I’ve been waiting for you all day”; “Do you feel it, right there, my dick?” “; “Put away those thighs that I devour you”; “I’ll make you enjoy it until you’re exhausted…”
What is interesting with this form of flirting is that you might be surprised by your partner’s reaction. The more you tease and more some women react in a hardcore way. Some said to me “I want you to fuck me RIGHT NOW”; “You gonna give me that big cock, yes?” “; “I must suck you like your bitch to thank you!” ”
What if she reacts badly?
Do not be sexist but know that some women like to hear “You’re a big slut, you” or even “You love my cock, eh, slut.” Do not forget that this is a role-playing game to spice up the sex and that not all women go to that point.
The pleasure comes from going beyond the limits by surprising and provoking (dirty talk is a fantasy, so there’s any other meaning to your words than the obvious one). But the girl must understand it and agree with. Moreover each person has his/her own limits …
Some are more tight-ass than others: you may come across a chick who will get shocked and ask you to speak to her “correctly” (it’s quite rare) just as you can fall on a chick who’ll love to challenge you and excite you by playing the hottie.
If the girl seems rather shy, if you’re not sure how she reacts, then do some testing. The main idea to remember is that these words have a strong and sexual emotional charge in the girl’s brain. The art is to pack them well and use them gradually to achieve the desired effect.
Do not be afraid to fail : start soberly, improvise, create your own phrases and have fun together!
Anyway, be gambler and provocative and prefer to go with your gut. We are sometimes too afraid to lose the girl by going too hard when it is often the best thing to do.
Nevertheless, if a woman asks you to stop talking to her like a bitch, which rarely happens when it is well drafted, do not argue and stick to it.
I write this introduction for the guys who are in the following state of mind “fucking her well or badly it is the same thing for me, the important is just to fuck her”. I want to become again an alcoholic to forget when I read things like that. First of all because if you know that you are one of the best fucks in town you necessarily convey more confidence. Then, because they tell it to their friends and it is advertisement for you héhéhé. Finally, because it is because of shitty mentalities like that that it is more and more difficult to have sex in France: the girls think by default that the dude doesn’t know how to fuck, thus to enjoy her body he has to show the money or other. What I want to say, it is that if it was “guaranteed orgasms every time”, the women would less be prayed and our value of man would raise. Capisch ? It is the state of mind I have and I can tell you that it is more constructive than the egoism and in addition when a girl put me a rake, I say to myself “go and get fucked by a fellow who doesn’t know how to do it and who we will lie to your to unlock your legs (95 % of chances) if it is what you prefer, you don’t even know what you miss when you do the malicious like that and you think you are clever :)… then you will say than men are all the same IE useless assholes!”
The second thing to know it is that the girls love sex but do not want to be denigrated (thought of as whores). The chicks are naughty but thus often give you advices to be artless, kind and submitted in long-term relationships. They will only very rarely admit what really turn them on and never confess that the bedtime they will remember till the end of their days, they did probably not have them with a shy and awkward man.”I love you as we like certain dark things, in a secret way, between the shadow and the soul.” Pablo Neruda
1) General state of mind
Being a good fuck, it is above all not being a bad fuck : you will be a lover at the same time bravely taking initiatives, comfortable and very sensual. I was inspired without having copied it by Eve O who gives very good advices in her book 267 conseils pour devenir le meilleur coup de sa vie as well as Nina Hartley.
2) The caresses
You have to caress them and kiss them often… and not only during the sexual act.
You can caress them with lips : vary the pressure, the rhythm and the opening. Have a good breath, so wash your teeth or take small fresh things full of mint. Avoid: cafe, cigarette, etc.
To caress them with your hands, have soft hands and thus hydrated. Rough hands will not optimize pleasant caresses. Be soft and sensual, do fluid movements and slide tenderly on the surface of her skin. Place your hand on hers when she caresses you to guide her… and she can do the same for you.
If you decide to make her a massage, you are not obliged to mass her only with your hands. More your body will be in touch with hers and more she will be warmed. You can even do it completely naked. You can improve this idea by using oils but try them before to be sure that they do not burn. Mass the thighs inside, outside and pass near her sex innocently. Take care of her butts then return towards her sex, then leave : turn her on until she begs you to take her! When hormones get the upper hand over the logical part of her brain, it is an extraordinary let go!
Be always on the lookout for her reactions: every woman is relatively different and according to the type of caress you use, you will meet more or less of success. You cannot guess!
As regards the caress of her sex: Begin by caressing her through underwear, you touch her, you turn all around, you cross your fingers around the clitoris. A thing which I also like to do to make them go nuts it is to lick them through their underwear and then when they cannot handle it any more move it a little to attack their sex. The saliva will be an excellent lubricant for your fingers which must be clean. She is then going to beg you to undress her (or will do it herself if the panties are too wet) ! Also play with the lips of her vagina, not only the vagina itself or the clit: watch her muscles contracting, it is funny. Vary the angles of attack and the speed and watch for her reactions. You have to judge what she likes most: breath, contractions, shivers, sighs, shouts (why not)…
To finger her, do not go as a horse there, anyway 80 % of the women are clitoral but that pleases them all the same (especially the association of both). Let’s go there slowly. Increase the number of fingers but not too much all the same to don’t hurt them. Small precision : your finger is not a penis (there are nails and everything thus attention). When you finger her, also try to stimulate the clitoris (thumb of the same hand or index+major of the other hand), this is the way you will totally drive her crazy. Do not be a pneumatic drill, it is not like that that they feel penetrated like by a penis: on the contrary, press downward, make a semicircle below as a swing … alternate all these techniques and be attentive to her reactions. This is key!
To give her the impression of penetrating into her like with your sex but just with your fingers, fold up the last two phalanxes as if you said “hey you come here” in her vagina. You will feel (normally) a kind of rough cavity, it is the place of the G-spot. To stimulate effectively the clitoris, make movements (rather circulars with your fingers or then with your tongue and maybe also a coming and going) faster and faster. When you feel she will come, slow down.
3) The cunnilingus
It is again something very subjective even if appears guiding common main lines. NB : some girls do not like that but the largest part THINK that they do not like that because no guy was able to do it in a correct and they were bored or had to feign pleasure. It is because I won several times the prize of the king of the cunni in Aix that I allow myself to develop this part.
If you have a doubt on your performance, ask her for the rhythm, the pressure when you play with the clitoris… some girls are really sensitive and that can hurt them or fear them especially when you start or at the approach of the orgasm. Attention with teeth like, just like she has to do it when she performs blowjob : respect. And do not blow in her vagina it may be dangerous: respect.
To begin: kiss her breasts, come down by kissing her small stomach, her navel then continue to come down to attack the point which interests us. It has to don’t be too easy for her, the anticipation is going to make rise her desire as in seduction. At the beginning, use your tongue to make the zone wet. By putting a pillow under her buttocks, you give her an ideal position. Do not blow in the vagina, it is very unpleasant. Explore the hidden recesses of her vagina and her lips with your tongue in mode “hard tongue”. Travel her sex of various manners, lick, penetrate, turn, lap, suck…
In fact, put your mouth as in duckface (it helps a little) and position it on her clitoris. Normally, you feel it under your tongue, as a small hard button… It is very rare that I had to go there blind because it was very discreet but by following the plan you know in which zone it has to be and that is enough (btw always being just on it is not optimal). I think that licking it is good but sucking is excellent too : suck her as she would suck your sex which would not be hard yet. No, that does not make you a fag. Mass her so as to make the blood come on her sex. You can tap above delicately (attention slowly). So that she gives you her rhythm, position your mouth on the clitoris and do not move, let her indicate you the angle. Put your fingers in her vagina (in mode “hey come here”) and move her body also while you suck her.
Continue: pay attention on the nonverbal communication which she sends back to you to know if she likes that. Continue what works! Place your fingers on her sex by making a V with the bottom towards buttocks and top towards the stomach: it is the zone of the cunnilingus.
At the end: if she approaches the orgasm, she can ask you to stop by tightening legs. I do not advise you to obey: make her enjoy like in a dream. If she does not return it to you, give all the same, for the pleasure to give (God will reward you). Do cunnis because you must show that you love your partner’s body. If the smell bothers you then breathe through your mouth but put out your nose so as you don’t stifle. Be careful if she is on her period, do not make me say what I did not say. If you have hair in the mouth, remove them discreetly… If really too much hair, remember that you do not HAVE TO lick.
Let her the choose to kiss you or not directly after your cunni (dry yourselves discreetly). It is an act of dominion because it is you who master her pleasure. Hold her firmly if she moves too much the legs because of the pleasure. If she ejaculates in your face during the cunni it is only some water, for information, that never happened to me thus don’t be afraid. Be resilient and successful: if you are bored, draw the alphabet on her sex. I advise you to put the condom during the cunni, neither seen nor known then you fuck her directly… Go down on her while she sleeps : queen’s alarm clock…
4) The penetration
2/3 positions, it is a good average. Turn her on before penetrating into her with your penis. Begin in penetrating into her slowly then push your sex. Start slowly then accelerate: There is a gradation. Idea : To turn by making circles with your sex in her vagina, that gives her some pleasure and that allows you to recover. Talk to her : steer her, share your pleasure with her. Laugh at pussy farts or pretend not having heard anything. Lead her by the hips. Try to stimulate her clitoris at the same time you penetrate into her : a good position is you on her because the pubis rubs the clitoris. Otherwise in doggy style for example, you can use one of your hands to do the same thing. Let her lead the penetration at her rhythm by giving her the commands in certain positions like doggystyle or side-saddle (mode “man object”). Alternate sweetness and firmness. Kiss her: neck, shoulders… Then, intensify your movements to lead her to the orgasm. It is difficult to know if what we did was appreciated if we have no feedback : talk (even if it is better if she congratulates you by herself just after like “that never happened to me before that it was soooo good” and I can tell to you that when that it happens regularly to you that gives you a fucking good inner game)! If you feel that she is going to come and that you are a player, stop and start again because the final orgasm will be multiplied tenfold! Stop everything while she has an orgasm, because she will enjoy it more than if you continue.
For the sodomy, speak about it with her : doggystyle or side-saddle advised.
5) Delay the éjaculation
– Make a break in the comings and goings ;
– Pressure on the perineum (area around between anus and testicles) ;
– Change position for a less exciting position for you ;
– Think of hard things like for example that she can twist your sex ;
– Catch yourselves the thigh discreetly (or the ear) ;
– Say to her that you will “cum” ;
– Contract your perineum, technique close to the tantric ;
– If you come before her, make her enjoy otherwise (cunni), do not leave your partner dissatisfied except when she is really blocked for specific reasons to her ;
– After having finished, take her a little in your arms.
NB : To be very hard strained and be able to reload easily, a good hygiene of life helps.
If you do not have orgasm when you ejaculate too much early it can be due to a lack of experience or relaxation. Orgasm and éjaculation are not necessarily connected. Thus, put in perspective your situation, even think of something else, do not take all this too seriously and you will do better next time… If she impresses you too much, here is craftiness: imagine her doing number two (try not to go limp all the same lol).
How to know if she enjoyed ? If she enjoys, observe the cramps on her stomach, observe her mouth for the shouts or the groans if she interiorizes, otherwise at the level of her sex, it opens more, becomes wetter and contracts a little. She can also catch hold of you or sheets.
6) Talk
Ask her what she would like to do next time.
What are her fantasies?
Tell her what you appreciated or not really liked.
Tell her that you need a small time of rest before being able to do it again.
Stay class: do not become vulgar like in a porn… except if she likes that.
On the other hand, be open-minded.
7) Other ideas
Savage :
– Use your nails (backs, buttocks) flat or edge, but short and filed ;
– Nibble her ;
– Maintain her wrists ;
– Grasp her neck ;
– Grasp the buttocks ;
– Catch her hair ;
– Stick her head to the pillow;
– Your warm breath in her ear;
– Put her small pats on buttocks (if she protests say to her that it is stimulating).
Sensitive places :
– Feet ;
– Hair, mass her hair by making small circles on the skull ;
– Hair, play with your fingers ;
– Brush her then intensify your movements on her back and buttocks ;
– Lob ear ;
– Hollow of the neck ;
– Approach your sex of hers or her butts then go back up casually ;
– The neck ;
– The breast (lick her or brush them) slowly and next to the navel ;
– To touch her sex, be careful to be wet (saliva) ;
– The folds of knees, elbows, ankles ;
– Ears, nape of the neck ;
– Thighs ;
– Shoulders.
Sexual games :
– Cover her eyes ;
– Attach her hands with her bra ;
– Write imaginary words in her back with your fingers ;
– Suck one of her fingers while you fuck her or put her one of yours in the mouth ;
– Look at you in a mirror ;
– Role-play ;
– Make love in improper places ;
– Make love with people next to you ;
– Make love on the ground or on the balcony in front of the street, or standing love ;
– Do quickies when you are in a hurry ;
– Make love in (appropriate) music ;
– Eat on her body;
– Use objects, watch a porn together ;
– Seduce without looking like it : after the shower do not get dressed at once, or stay topless on the terrace.
Accessories :
– Privilege the blue or sieved light ;
– Clean and not pierced boxer shorts: black will always be an excellent choice ;
– No bed which creaks, it is weird ;
– Candles can give a cool atmosphere ;
– Take a bath together or a shower ;
– No phone or do not answer ;
– Do not always make love with clothes : sometimes, just go under her dress.
8) Wide-spread feminine fantasies
– Being taken by a beautiful stranger that they will never see again ;
– The rape: passivity = loss of control = justification (but do not rape her but be persevering) ;
– The flagrante delicto: public place (parking, toilet, cinema) ;
– The uniform: policeman, serviceman, fireman… ;
– A love triangle with another man or with another girl for the most curious.
All this is not exhaustive, but practice it and you will become a better fuck than 95 % of the men. And they will thanks you for that ! In brief, that you look for a mother, for a girl or for a woman, fuck her well and she will ask for more of it ! Maybe that one day, the man “good fuck” will become as valuable on the market as the “hot girl”.
II – How to give orgasms to a girl ?
This article aims to make everyone happier in bed. In other words, I will give you my secrets, as Cyprineman. Orgasms guaranteed!
To follow this tutorial, you need:
– fingers ;
– a tongue ;
– a cock;
– a woman.
1) The power of your fingers (G-spot and clitoris)
Before fingering her, you have to warm up. I had already made two articles-videos:
– How to kiss a girl;
– The erogenous zones.
Feel free to watch it (again) !
Now, let’s go in the thick of it.
First, take the entire genital area with your hand (everything is important) but go easy… because everything is sensitive. It is later that you will specifically attack Mr. Clitoris.
First, pat the area over her jeans to tame her. Then open her pants and do it over her string. Then, when she will start to get wet, go under the last underwear.
You will be in contact with her most intimate skin, it is necessary that your fingernails are short and clean (it’s called respect). The first touch may be accompanied by a SMALL cringe, it is instinctive and normal : you know the privacy and extreme sensitivity of the area. Warning, if she says “NO”, it is a NO and stop everything : do not take the risk of being labeled a rapist.
The move to caress there… it’s either rub up and down or in a circular manner. Or around the clitoris or REALLY ON THE SPOT : all depends on the sensitivity of the girl!
To help, here are two little diagram to help you find the clitoris and the G-spot:
Wikipedia
Once she is really wetted and open, you can finger her without hurting her. Do not hesitate to lubricate your fingers with your saliva a little more if necessary.
Start by using two fingers (index and middle). It’s most of the time enough. Some want 3 or 4 fingers but it is better to wait that women say they want more before trying it. When they guide us, that’s cool!
Do not completely take your fingers out of her vagina for up-and-coming but rather do a “hey come over here” type of movement. It’s a bit like scratching… To do well, always leaves at least two phalanges in the pussy and you can make back-out movements with the length of the third.
When fingering, we will try to tickle the G spot. If the girl is lying on the back, it is up, on the top of the vagina, a few centimeters away from the entrance only. You will recognize this area because the texture is different from the rest of the vagina, rougher. It is this stimulation that make some women ejaculate.
One can very well combine stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot: either by taking it with both hands or by using the thumb of the same hand. After a vaginal orgasm, a woman is often too sensitive to be touched up again, contrary to point G that can endure multiple consecutive orgasms. In fact, both orgasms give different sensations.
For details, watch the video demonstration:
2 / The power of your tongue (everything about cunnilingus)
Put one hand on her stomach with your thumb which pulls the skin up to release the clitoris (useful for girls who are not VERY sensitive). In addition, it will show you if the girl simulates because with one hand on her belly you will be able to feel her spasms during orgasm.
Lick, do like a cat drinking, with the tip of your tongue a bit hard.
We can also add fingers for the ultimate combo. This way, you will also see if her pussy tightens on your fingers (she contracts very strong at the moment of orgasm) and thus, again, we can find out if she really orgasmed or if she has simulated.
You can put a pillow under her buttocks for a more comfortable position.
Average time to come with something like this: 10 minutes.
Some women at the time of orgasm, have a kind of flight reaction, you will have the “force” them to enjoy, for their own good. It is the loss of control fear ! Themselves do not control this reaction…
After oral sex, you can wipe on her legs by kissing her, or on the sheets.
Ladies please do not hesitate to return the favor, especially if it’s just shyness that hold you back. There’s nothing worse than licking a selfish girl. Just as exciting is licking, sucking will make you really wet ! If you feel like it, of course…
Gentlemen if you think that licking is being subjected, it is a bad state of mind. To seduce: it’s better to love women, to love their bodies and want to give them orgasms. There’s no place for taboo : we do what makes us happy and pleases the others. The important thing is to give pleasure and take some!
Gender equality is that blowjob and cunnilingus, it’s equivalent. Too few women know that they can come with a cunnilingus. Too much believe that sex without love is zero. We need you to prove them wrong by being good lovers!
For details, see the demonstration video:
3 / The power of your cock (let’s fuck like a god)
Here we will see how to give orgasms with your cock. But it’s cool if she had some before you take her, with preliminary.
Some think 5 minutes of preliminary followed by a selfish penetration, it’s cool for a woman. Obviously not, you need to be a better lover than that! With you, women must have the chance to take off like crazy. It will give you a great value and you will really be confident…
Sex is not something men snapped to women who are nice enough to say yes. Good sex is a privilege that you accorde to some lucky girls : this is a good state of mind!
Some essential positions:
– The missionary with the lifted pelvis. She must take a position to make your dick slap her G spot.
– She on you, let her fuck you or fuck her. There’s the feeling of penetration and rubbing her clit.
– The doggystyle (with spanking if she likes it). She must arches her back, again to touch the right area.
You can stroke her clitoris and/or breasts while you take her. Buttocks too. You can also kiss the women. Women love the overall touch.
For details, see the demonstration video:
All my tips to make world a place of sexually fulfilled fuckers are grouped in The awesome lover’s manual ! Inside, I detail a lot more things, and there are several diagrams of the anatomy to better find your way. And numerous studies (including one on the real fantasies of women).
If it shocked you, too bad for you, but someone must do your sexual education and take your broom out of your ass. I’ve seen too many girls over 20 years who had never orgasmed… So gentlemen, it is your responsibility !!!
A major problem when we want to kiss a girl, but we don’t dare, is that we let our inner monologue govern us. Do not cut off from your feelings because of doubts and other questions. Our feeling should be our guide.
Our emotions are indicators of what is happening inside of us BUT ALSO are the keys to understand the person in front of us. We must let ourselves go a minimum to feel a little desire (which is contagious). And to do not get eaten by the pressure that we often put on ourselves unnecessarily.
The challenge should not take precedence over the game … The light and playful aspect of seduction should not disappear. Never a romantic date should be as dull and tight-ass as a job interview (and a job interview is not a romantic date so there’s a different behavior to be adopted).
It is better to go there with a clear idea of what you expect from the interaction : a good time with one or more pretty chicks, and don’t forget to create conditions conducive to flirt intimacy. Everything else will flow from that.
FUNDAMENTAL POINT – Once isolated with a girl: did she made you want to kiss her? It matters, that, too. You’re not so desperate that kissing any girl is a goal in itself, right? Kissing, it’s nothing seriously. If you are still counting the number of chicks you have kissed, then you are far awayyyyyyyyyyyy in your game. (Desecrate the kissclose please). Seriously, it’s good to go on a date with the idea, the objective to make out with her, but if in the meantime she shows she doesn’t deserve you it’s better to abandon the mission (if you’re sure that you’re not inventing false excuses to duck). Just as one begins his day with what pisses him off the most, you end your date with what requires the greatest effort.
It is important to communicate with your target on an empathic mode too. Do not only communicate on the explicit mode (meaning of words) but also a lot on the implicit mode (gestures, cum facial expressions, posture, tone of voice). Why is it important too? Because you will unconsciously or consciously both send to each other nonverbal signs of invitation to carnal pleasure. I refer in particular to prolonged glances, delicious silences, touches, smiles … so focus your attention on those little things that tell so much…
Wonder for example :
– Are you both in a bubble off of the world? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
– Is the tone of her voice soft? Is it becoming even softer? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
– How does she react to innuendo? Compliments? => OK? KISSCLOSE.
Instead, does she try to avoid proximity and why? Does she seems distracted or elsewhere? => Warning! (but it costs nothing to try anyway, but perhaps it is better calibrate and wait until later). Do not confuse speed with haste.
If you miss scoring chances, do not cut your veins. We all miss some. We all had a chance to initiate a first kiss but yet we did not. With or without having invented false excuses, either. However, let’s not kill ourselves and do not spend our time regretting the past. Let’s rather and seize the next opportune moment. Unfortunately, we remember more the negative than the positive, but if she gives a sign of disinterest interest for 10 signs it’s good nonetheless. It’s worth a try!
Do your eyes fall on the contour of her lips? Do you perceive in her a palpable disorder. A heat wave travels you. Damn: what is stopping you from taking a step toward her, moving a hand behind her neck and approaching your own lips? You are not even really listening to her now. The seconds pass, as long centuries.
If you did not kiss, you can have fun and recreate that magical moment. Or at least, the same conditions. Like “do you remember, earlier? We talked about […] and I felt […] I stopped listening to you, I do not know if you felt the same. I couldn’t take my eyes off of your bright eyes, your pretty lips and I wanted to”………………………… kissclose. Or, “earlier you maybe felt I really wanted to do that” ………………………………. kissclose.
Speak slowly and maintain her eye contact while doing that. Normally, if she wanted you 5 minutes before, she still wants. I say NORMALLY because they are people who are blocked by those guys “who did not have the balls to try”. But hey, in Top Gun, Tom Cruise purposely gets close of his target without trying to kiss her just to bring up sexual tension, and it works well, but he did it with a a playful and confident face. So never let her think you’re not in control nor confident.
BUT IF she refuses my kiss? The fear of embarrassment that would follow a refusal petrifies most men. It is the phobia to end up helpless without knowing where to hide or what to do nor say to regain capacity and credibility that often prevents men from giving it a try. The guys start by thinking about consequences, fuck who saw us? And to who will she tell it, this whore? They will laugh at me (or other paranoid delusions).
Detach yourself from it, guys. It happens to everyone… at least to those who have the balls to take action. BE PROUD BECAUSE YOU’VE TRIED YOUR LUCK (AND HERS)! It’s really more exhilarating than having tried nothing and coming back home with regrets in the pockets!
Why not just smiling at rejection, after all? Why not asking her if it had already happened to her and why? Most girls would like to kiss the first one but are scared to get rejected. So: they say that it is the role of the man to do so. So why not challenging her, “Listen if you want later, it will be your turn to try to kiss me, and maybe you’ll see how you feel when you try to kiss someone who likes it… you feel like high ! It gives you a crazy energy! ”
(Take of course the ideas but change the words, I typed it as it came.)
The reaction to the rejection is paramount. Any PUA will tell you that. I speak well about it in The inconvenient truth about gender relations : for some women, rejecting you once is a test, and they will accept later if you do not get cold feet nor insult her, don’t call her “bitch”.
I think flirting is an act of cooperation. I do not like the girls who play the “man” and like confrontation. I prefer it to be played by the two of us and that we go together until the orgasm, each one making an effort. I understand the shit-tests and tolerate them if they are not excessive but after it pisses me off and I have the impression that the girl is trying to find excuses to avoid spending a good time. I think the bitches who are waiting for me to do all the work or play it like a princess while they are not Kate Middleton do not deserve me. I love the girls who have will and strength of character.
In a nutshell: let’s not forget to be present in the moment in order to pay attention to the little signs that reveal an invitation. Then, only remains to pick the ripe fruit (I speak of course of her apricot).
Let’s trust ourselves. Let’s abandon ourselves to our feelings rather than construct disaster-scenarios. I like kissing chicks anytime too, even when they expect it the least. I find it funny (game rather than issue). And there are people who cannot show their interest or are too shy/tight-ass to do so. I would say: the best time to kiss a girl is when you feel like it.
A good kiss with sexual tension can even make you hard. Especially if you fiddle her in the same time. If you’re hard, it’s okay, I think she will be flattered!
Go now, and do not forget to tease her: that tough love!
II – How to be a good kisser ?
Image : Spider man
A lot of my readers want to know how to kiss a girl; how to bring and make a success of the kissclose. Moreover, more than a PUA beginner finds himself blocked in the stage of the Kissclose (The best example is Style in his early stages for those who have read The Game).
Let’s do things in the order. Before seeing HOW kissing a girl, let’s see WHEN to kiss her. You know it, to seduce a girl, everything is question of timing. It is not for nothing that Mystery created a method of seduction divided in so many small stages. A girl can leave you a window of shooting (a chance), but if you do not seize it, not leaving you a second one. So, you can come before more beautiful and sexier guys if they are pussies who do not dare to stick her to a wall and to eat her lips. Because knowing and daring to act is an alpha behavior.
The stage of the kissclose does not escape this rule and is a part of the seduction. You should not wait too much at the risk of becoming a Nice guy in the eyes of the young lady whom you desire, nor rush to don’t scare her off. (n.b. : The situation is always nevertheless easier to catch up if you acted too early than if you acted too late).
It will belong to you to estimate the situation according to the personality of your target, her body language, and the environment (place, persons present, atmosphere). Sorry but I can’t be more precise than that because every interaction is unique. It’s up to you to calibrate. But never forget that a kiss close has to be the continuation of a sexual tension: do not try cold kissclose. Except if it’s just to have fun (But for that is needed a fucking pair of corones all the same thus we will speak about it another time because we make bases here). A trick which helped well me in my early stages: I gave myself a purpose: I said to myself that come what may at the end of the date I would kiss her.
You thus have to create enough comfort and attraction so that miss is ready (at least unconsciously) for a physical proximity with you. If you wish to accelerate things, bet on a good conversation and control your touches (kinos). Kinos are essential to kissclose because they allow to test the reaction of the young lady to your contact, and to create an intimacy. If she reacts well to your kinos, in theory, you will kiss close more easily.
Kiss-openers : When to kiss
The question that many men have in mind, is: how to kiss the girl during the phase of seduction. There are very numerous possibilities, to be adapted according to your personality.
*The kissclose like Beigbeder. You : « I bet you a glass of champagne that I can kiss you without touching your lips » after some negotiations, she should accept, tell her to close eyes and…. Kiss her passionately without waiting for her reaction.
* After a dinner / drink: You : « you have a lot of chocolat (café,…) on the chin ». Remove delicately the imaginary tracks with your fingers, shake them in grumbling and say: « fuck, they are not working » and go next to her to kiss her.
*You : « Listen, I saw well that you want to kiss me, but I think that it is a little bit too soon » Her : « Hein, what ?! not at all » You : « Really, well after all you are right, why waiting more ?! »
*You : « I spend a very good moment. I think that if you were a brunette/blonde (say the opposite of what she is) I would already have kissed you » Her : « ????? » You : « Yeah, unfortunately, the Brunettes/blonde women (what she is) are bad kissers » Her : « It’s not true » well, after that neg-hit, she will in theory be easier to kiss. Or then if she is not enough confident, she will be angry and you will lose everything. So pay attention on your calibration when you neg.
*The Mystery’s kissclose : You : « We are going to play a game about trust. You have to place your lips at 2 cms of mine, but, obviously do not try to kiss me ! ». Then kiss her.
Say it with a languishing body language (look at her straight in the eyes, half-smile), just what is needed to make miss wet. This game allows to invert the role and to be a little more the one who is desired (the “prize”). Make the first step, and get closer in 2cm to her. But let to the young lady the choice to finalize or not. We so learn more about miss (does she takes initiatives?)
*At the time of leaving: «We give each other a kiss on the cheek or we assume our attraction? ». « Cordial handshake or soft kiss? » (kiss opener you can try when you are really confident).
You : « So, what do you wanna do now? » Her : « IDK, and you? » (Here is a typical answer of women) You : « you’ll see » and kiss her.
They are only examples, but I think that they will give you an idea of the quantity of sentences and psychological approaches (playful, alpha, not interested,…) which can help to kiss close. There are ideas which suit to everybody !
Take the initiative to kiss her
Apparently, at the time of kissing your target, it’s up to you to make the first step. But at the crucial moment, it is easy to be invaded by the fear of the failure… In the point to be paralyzed and do nothing… What always leads to the fiasco: a woman often prefers to let you die on-the-spot fear rather than to make the first step if she is not sure that it is mutual. She will certainly be disappointed that you didn’t found the courage, but never at the point of taking the initiative herself. Why? Well, because if you are incapable to assume your desires, then you are not the kind of man she is looking for. Consequently, when comes the moment to act, take your courage in two hands and make “the first step” : She will be very grateful to you for it…
Having said that, I sometimes take initiatives with other things than my mouth (especially my hands/words) to the point that it is her who kisses me first because she cannot handle it any more. Besides, it is good because we give them some validation when we kiss them, that way we give them less, and it is still better to do it at home to be then able to sleep with her. It is not rare, especially in a club, that a girl can “content” with having been kissed by a guy and with not trying to go “more deeply” in the relation.
Pure technique
It is impossible to describe a perfect kiss, because it results more from an alchemy between both partners than from a particular technique. Do not think, and forget yourself. A very effective technique to kiss a girl consists in approaching her to kiss her… and to pause for a moment before touching her lips. Look at her in eyes with a little smile… And kiss her. This ultimate tension should break all her barriers and activate a tsunami of hormones in the panties of the young lady. Make her dream, or live kisses of cinema, etc.
Besides, at first, do not put your hands on her buttocks or other too intimate places. Walk them in the hollow of the back and on the nape of her neck, zones of the feminine body which are very sensitive while staying on the territory of the gentleman…. And do not kiss only with your mouth, also use your hands, and not always in the same way (more passionately, more slowly, nibble, lick, kiss, with or without the tongue, in the neck, etc.) Imagine your are a vampire.
Bottom line : bottom line, kissing can be perceived like “not a big deal” or like a commitment. Attention ! Btw, what does it mean for you ?
III – 5 things you should avoid when kissing a girl
First, we must know and admit that a good kiss is more dependent on the chemistry between the two partners who kiss than on a pure technique.
However, even if there is no real connection between you and the girl you kiss, which can happen from time to time, it does not matter. You can still make this moment a pleasant one.
For this, what you’ll do is you’ll lead. You will impose your way of kissing enough time to better know each other. Then the two of you will be adapt a little bit to the other.
Moreover, at first do not put your hands on her buttocks or boobs (that’s boorish). Stroll in the small of her back, her hips, her neck, take her face in your hands… These are territories that remain the domain of the gentleman but that still are very erotic and erogenous.
Do not use your hands and do not always kiss the same way. You can kiss her more or less passionately, with or without tongue, more or less tighten your grip while you kiss, nibble his lips or her ear lobe, you can lick her neck… so many ways to make your kiss a preliminary!
A good kiss, in general, it’s one lip over the other. It’s not like that (we are not in a comic):
(Image : Disney)
Once you’ve kissed a bit like that, you can open a little bit more your mouth to see if the girl will follow you. And once the mouth is a little more open, you can try to go and play with her tongue. Do not put directly it in the back of her throat, you will see gradually if she follows. It is useless to turn your tongue during 107 years, it is better to give several short kisses.
Top 5 of things you should avoid when you kiss :
– The knock of teeth in a hurry (that’s often front teeth that hit);
– The soup of tongue (oral rape) : washing machine 1200 rpm (not including spin) + drooling;
– Blowing while you are kissing (true story);
– Eating her lower lip like a wild sometimes up to leave scars there (they are people who love but that well);
– The kiss of the two who keep their eyes open and who look at each other in the eyes with the eyes of a Tarsier.
What you should talk about to a girl…
March 31th 2016,
Here, in picture, the 10 best positions of the kamasutra (in my opinion).
I – How to make love to a woman ?
