Category: Seduction techniques

 

The date is a stage of seduction which consists of meeting up in a neutral place. Sure it’s better to know someone before taking him home, but hey, on the other hand, you are as likely to be attacked by someone you know than by someone who basically do not give a shit about you (statistics).

You can watch my video about how to get ready for a date here.

 

Installation

On your way to get to a date, try to think of something else to avoid stress. Once there, if you do not see the girl, call her. It is more suitable than texting in such moments!

When you say hello to her, put your hand on her shoulder, to make it a bit sensual. The gesture must be confident but not pressing or you take the risk of making yourself look like a weird guy. You can even try to guide her to go somewhere by putting your hand on her down back (not all the time but briefly).

I think it’s better to sit in front of each other than side by side: experience shows it works I better. Probably because it allows for a good eye contacts.

If there is a seat, be a gentleman and offer her to sit on. If you have a choice, you should prefer to be positioned against the wall. This will limit the her field at the rendezvous, and she will not be disturbed by by the comings and goings of other people behind you. It will help you to create “your bubble.”

Drink : order what you want. But even when I was still drinking alcohol, I did not get drunk during a date. In fact, this is not a good strategy to make her drink until she loses control nor to put some GHB in her drink.

If you make a date at home, ask if you need to bring something. If she comes, plan some wine or another thing like that to drink.

 

Getting along well

There are positions to be adopted to better succeed, I personally adopt a rather nonchalant body language but not slouching. Of course, do not stare at chicks’ ass all around you during a date.

Check the position of your friend and evaluate the signs of interest she gives. Make some mirroring sometimes if you remember. That is to say: create a subconscious connection by synchronizing your gestures asymmetrically.

Be the same than when you made her dream enough to accept the date. There is nothing worse than the loudmouth that become very shy when in front of a girl.

A date is not a job interview, do not prepare your discussion topics. This is not the time to cover her with compliments, that would make you lose value (needy mode).

It’s true that it’s better to avoid like plague some subjects, like : politics, religion or stances. Generally, I avoid too strong opinions, I do not make a speech in favour of a particular cause or at least I do not speak about it during the meeting, I wait to know her better, it avoids hitting her personal beliefs (and also that she hurts mine – it avoids headaches). About her ex? Sometimes it can be good to talk about him, one told me that he fucked her very badly and everything but it is generally recommended to avoid this subject sometimes too sensitive.

On the other hand, you must sexualize of course. It would be good to make a whole video about it and about how to avoid Friendzone (as well as body language)! Do not be afraid if she talks about sex, assume to get her comfortable with it. But do not talk only about sex either. The idea is just to put it in her mind, if she had not this idea already! You can tease her, about her nervousness due to having a date.

Making her talk about her is paramount. Although sometimes in the beginning you will have to launch her by making the most of the conversation. Knowing how to do that without giving her the impression of answering police questions is a major asset. Ask “and you? ” to turn her questions back to her is effective because chicks often ask about what they are interested in. Common interests are important for a girl.

If you talk to a girl you like about cinema, naturally propose to go watching a movie the next day, for example.

In any case, you must absolutely not let your hormones make you lose your mind and look like a douchebag. Each girl has her definition of a douchebag and her own criteria, that’s what’s hard! But hey, there’s universal things. For example, never say, “well, I’ll poop.”

Orient the conversation towards positive things, not too many factual, rather some emotional.

When you talk, make the distinction between bragging and marketing yourself. Telling your little piece of history or your stories without trying to brag, this is done subtly and not boastfully.

A little small talk, it’s also important to look normal. It’s sad but it’s like that… “But we do not care of what my father does for a living, will we fuck or not ?”

During the visit, it’s easy to make some kinos on her hands. That is to say, for example, asking to see more closely the ring or bracelet and taking this opportunity to fondle nonchalantly and sensually this sensitive area. It can even be a compliance test: will she play the game? How will she react? (For more informations, see my video about the cooperation test).

 

The end of the date

Should you pay the bill? Yes, why not, but tell her « you will pay next time. » Make it look like that’s not much. But if she insists, let her pay. Remember that in the savannah, the lioness goes hunting for the king of the jungle.

At the end of the date, propose to go home or try to kiss her (not in the bar but rather by leaving) even if you do not feel with this idea… 1% chance of success is better than 0 % and then… even if you never see her again after that, know that you would probably have not see her again anyway, so that’s something taken on life! And no regrets is my policy! And if she does not want, too bad for her! 😉

So it is better that the place of date allows her to come over fairly quickly, just so shet does not cool down on her way to seventh heaven.

You can use the excuse of showing her something you’ve talked about to take her home. Or assume and normally she will understand to what she is commited if she says yes. No smart girl would go alone in the room of a hetero-sexual guy if she wouldn’t want to fuck him.

If you did not fuck after the date, in this case, do not send the first message directly after the date. Wait she does first!

 

Some mistakes to avoid

Do not go on a date with a friend.

Do not join a girl who is with her friends.

Do not join her if she has something planned one hour later.

Do not wait if it is doing something before.

This is a very bad idea to wait, even if she looks very sure on the phone, very motivated and very excited to see you. If she is not completely available for you, it is better to postpone the date. This will prevent you from having date with the friends of the girl who will judge you, dates rushed because of a lack of time and it is not a good idea to wait because she has something planned before and desperately wait for her because she already has something planned, but does not know at what time it will end. Do not be a spare wheel on the condition that she has nothing better to do that day! Enjoy the time you have reached to see more available girls. Respect yourself !

If during the date, she says she has to leave because she has a headache. Or because one of her friends needs emergency assistance: it is an excuse, do not send texts to propose a second date after such an affront. Anyway, she will probably not answer. Time to go home, she will have already have deleted you on Facebook, Tinder and her repertoire! Women are usually not really honoest when they do not want to us (nor when they want us) it’s a shame but it can lead to humiliating misunderstandings! You have been warned!

If she is late, do not wait more than 20 minutes (unless she has a good excuse) and do not tolerate more than two bucks. Girls should respect you to desire you!

If an interested girl cancels a date, SHE must make a counter-proposal. You do not have to beg for the “privilege” of seeing her (it’s a bad frame). You can watch my video about frames too !

Do not spend 1 hour on the phone during a date while she is waiting for you. Do not answer the phone unless you have real emergency, it is not polite.

 

Today we will see how to effectively getting ready for a rendez-vous, without overdoing it! I’ll tell you how I do, because it works most of the time. There are three aspects to the preparation: physical, mental and material!

 

Physically

– Mowing the beard (or shave it). Seriously, it is useless to take care of your beard for an hour, especially if it’s in order to look like a guy who does not care for his beard.

– Then: mowing pubic hair if they are too long. A tip: do it above your toilets.

– Cut your nails and remove any black dirt encrusted below, it’s important if you want to finger her in an hygienic way. Seriously, otherwise, a shame and does not make women want to see the rest (your sausage).

– It’s time to take a shower especially if you have transpired during the day, before the date.

– Wash your hair if necessary, if they are oily. Wash your teeth so you won’t stink.

– Wear a classy shirt or t-shit/polo, it’s not worth suiting up. It can be a ground to reject you, not sticking to the image that was given to the girl: if one plays the cool guy, do not come dressed up like a penguin. You have to value yourself but remain comfortable in your clothes. Avoid clothes that have the scriptures or big logos, especially in your back. And dirty underwear.

– I prefer eans unless I come directly from work (case of emergency) and I am wearing a suit, but in this case, I explain…

– It’s not worth testing 4 outfits especially if it is to finally go back to the first. This is the stress that you would make you do that… but, stress is your enemy in seduction. Be careful in choosing shoes (check that they are in good condition and not grimey) and belt. Never wear white socks with dark shoes.

– Then your hair: Again, like with the beard, do not spend three hours in front of the glass like a narcissist.

– Sprinkle A LITTLE perfume.

– No need to spend an hour in front of the mirror waring makeup if you are not a chick. See if you have no boogers, hair protruding from the nose and ears or your fly open…

– No need to do pushups in order to look muscular.

– No need to prepare 2 hours before the date, even if she has to wait 5 minutes, it’s not a problem. It’s happened to me to get completely drunk to a date in my youth and I fucked the girl so since I relativize. The purpose of a first date is not to be perfect but to have a good attitude, to be relaxed and to communicate it.

 

Mentally

It is not worth repeating 150 times your openers in front of a mirror. It will not change your inner game, anyway. Do not internally replay the possible scenarios, especially if it is to imagine the worst!

It is not worth preparing a list of conversation topics to get into. You can quickly check her interests on her Facebook profile if it reassures you but remember that the goal is to make her speak of her and of what she likes. So finally you’ll just have to get comfortable, to tease her a little and show your interest. But, if she notices that you have stalked her, it will not be good…

You must go for a result at least a kiss on the mouth, in the best case a fuck. This winner mindset will make you sexualizing a little bit the conversation instead of staying in your abstinent comfort zone. If you really think it would not work, do not attempt the kiss. But make sure it’s not an excuse that you imagined on the moment (and will regret later) to reassure you by saying that if you try to kiss her, you would frighten her and not see her again. Do not be silly, chicks know very well why they accept a date. Only stupids and hypocrites say otherwise. This requires that your friend understands that this is a date and not an appointment to become best friends… never agree to go into that kind of frame! The forced Friendzone does not exist for sexual men! Besides, a guy who does not dare to take initiatives rarely see chicks again!

 

Materially

If she comes to your place directly or if you plan to take her home:

– Remove the paper towel from beside the bed. Do you love masturbation so much ?

– Prepare the bed (at least pull the sheet)

– Remove the affairs of another girl that could still be in your bed

– Do not leave too icky stuff lying around, do not let a mountain of dishes (at worst even if she ultimately does not come, it will be done)

– Always have something to drink at home. And a card game or another trick to get comfortable, if necessary

– Take two or three condoms in the back pocket of your trousers or then place them under the bed but do not let them prominently on the bedside table, in mode “YOU SEE, I KNEW THAT I WAS GOING TO SCREW YOU AHAHAH”

– Do not bring a bouquet of flowers

– Have some cash, but do not pay for everything or then say “you will pay the next time/next glass”

– Regarding the choice of the place, if you go to a neutral place before going home: avoid the restaurant, cinema, and these clichés stuff. I know you read a lot on the Internet that it is better to go to a place where you know many people because of social proof… but I prefer avoiding it, to do not be constantly interrupted and to be able to focus on my target. When I have to date a girl outside, I often choose places I know with a friendly atmosphere, pretty quiet places.

Good luck !

The web is full of shit about text pick up. Full of idiots who say in a peremptory tone “you must send a text 48 hours after taking a number”, “you must call the girl on the phone,” “do not ask questions in your texts” . Like if, when done otherwise it would not work.

I’ll tell you now what is my field experience for texts. And these tips are helpful because when you take a number, you have to make it grow by texts. The various fields of pickup meet at the moment of the numclose! The only way to avoid this step would be to fuck the girl directly on the spot but this is often not possible because of schedules and fears of everyone.

 

1/ The first thing is that advice like “you have to wait 48 hours and be careful to don’t write on a Saturday night”: this is crap. A real man, he writes when he wants, whenever it suits him! And it is not because we have a social life that we have no time to send an SMS, seriously, writing takes 10 seconds!

2/ The second thing is that it is not an obligation to sign your first text “hi it’s jeremy”. It is better to use a private joke (reference to the initial interaction) or to describe yourelf in a humorous tone rather than to write down your name. Moreover, you should remember you are an alpha male now. Do not doubt it! In the worst case, you will still be able to refresh her memory. But do not play the insecure guy from the start…

“Hi, so you’re not drowned in the pool after I left?”

Otherwise, you can continue by text the conversation like if nothing happened when you left IRL: “So study in St Etienne and come back for the weekends in Lyon if I followed? I’m in my office now… I hope you enjoyed last night with your friends”.

 

3/ The third thing is that texts would be just an excuse for losers who do not dare to call and speak aloud. I do not agree. In seduction, we must certainly assume. But a text is altogether more convenient and less invasive than calls. So assume with the content of your messages but do not feel obliged to call! I do call only very rarely chicks I numclosed and that does not prevent me from making them directly to my place for sex.

4/ It is true however that we should not send too many messages. If she does not respond, wait for the next day before you panic. Send your text message and… relax! Harassing a girl makes you lose points. Set a rule : never send more than 3 unanswered messages. You can try using the challenge or provocation (taunt her) to make her answer if the easy way is not working. But in any cases, an interested girl will answer at least once a day… so if you need to always feed the conversation and everything… be ready to next her! Do not beg the girls “See you on Thursday? No, Friday then? Go for Saturday?” If they give you shitty excuses without making a counterproposal, you can next!

5/ Concerning the content of messages, you should not ask too many questions. Especially since most of the time, you don’t give a shit about the answers “hello how r u what r u doing what did you eat for lunch?” In case, use diverted affirmations “I wonder how you ended yesterday night”, “I wonder if it was the alcohol or if you’re always that cool.”

6/ Your messages should not be too long. Anyway, not much longer than hers. Extending messages communicate that you are a desperate guy who never takes a number that then feels compelled to do too much. We must adapt in each case to make the girl invest (it is not a good idea to excessively force an unilateral interaction – in this case it would be better to focus on other more receptive girls): smileys (especially hearts and kisses), long messages, etc. On average, three or four sentences, it will be fine! But certainly not too long shitty romantic tirades (do not over-invest when you do not even know if the girl is a good move). It is better to try to make her talk about herself and what she likes. Then when you feel it takes, feel the ground slightly by talking about sex to create attraction and test the waters (you have to see if she accepts the frame that you’ll fuck her like a god). Finally, propose a date (do not wait too long – a period of one week for a date after taking her number it’s good) “when are you available?”

 

7/ I advise you, and that’s what I do, to write your messages casualy. Above all, do not look for the perfect message for hours. If it was that hard to fuck a girl the human race would have died out long ago. Write some funny messages (tease her), light and in a little detached way. I mean that you should not write too meticulous messages (that’s gay: I have nothing against gays but they do not fuck with chicks). When she is too much a pain in the ass, feel free to reframe her!

8/ About the legendary power of the “…” to create ambiguity, the choice between 🙂 and;) : this is intellectual masturbation. Do not spend hours choosing emoticons… Mime smileys and punctuation she chooses if it reassures you (in fact it can be a very good idea to create a subconscious link like that). But do not overdo it!

9/ One very important thing to screw smart chicks is to don’t write like Karim Benzema (making spelling or tenses mistakes). Avoid texting language, of course. And generally anything that can make you look like a weirdo, a weird guy…

10/ Of course your texting communication should reflect what you have learned through the game. General rules: do not appear too needy, in demand. Do not show too much you want to be reassured about the fact that she likes you. Do not spend hours interpreting her answers rather get into the job. And above all, learn how to recognize when a girl is kicking the ball into touch or pretends to do not understand so you won’t lose your dignity begging her while she is not sincere. When she uses excuses to do not see you three times, next! When an improbable thing happens to her precisely the day when you had to meet up, do not be naive! When she never feed the conversation, if she does not ask you any questions, next too! When you see any irony in her messages, do not take anything she says at face value. Besides, if it sounds too easy with a girl, beware anyway. Show a little empathy and be somewhat flexible about the time and place of the dates but do not become a pigeon because chicks would eat you alive.

Realize that if the girl had a date with Ian Somerhalder, she would find a moment even if she had her exams in 2 weeks! In life, when we want, there is a solution!

 

Bonus/ I finish with a parenthesis. After a first date, do not write to the girl “so I hope you had a good time with me, me yes, I cannot wait to see you again.” Rather wait she sends a message first (at least 24 hours – then if you think that was fine though you can write). It would be a very good indicator of interest!

 

So, with that you will be able to close more easily! Feel free to read the article again because you will probably notice new things.

The “shit-test” another key concept of the game! I’ll explain what it is, why women are testing us in this way and how to react. I will even give concrete examples, yes yes!

What do we call “shit test”?

In fact, these are trick questions and disparaging thoughts that can sometimes destabilize if we are not prepared. Note that this process is also used during job interviews…

“You’re too short! “; “You’re too tall! “; “Why should I kiss you?”

Why do they do that?

Officially, it is a way for them to see if we have balls and to test the will of men. Unofficially, I put myself in their shoes and tell myself that it must be fun to feel in position of authority like that… when you think about it, it really looks like trolling.

These forms of test questions thus enable them to check our level of alphaness (the fact of being alpha) and the quality of our talk back… and, you know, a lot of women appreciate confident men! So the shit-tests are useful because God knows there are many men who play the “real guys” but who have nothing in the panties in fact. And God knows that men like to believe and tell that they are gods in bed while they are actually often not very good. So many that a lot of women assume that a man is a loser until proven otherwise.

Obviously, if a woman really likes you, one might think it would be stupid of her to test you… but they often do anyway! It seems that it’s second nature. One could say that often, to make out, the girl should like you a priori and then you must pass her tests. We’re not out of the woods ! Some girls really abuse and sometimes use a lot of tests that discourage even the guys who pass with flying colors. Besides perhaps is it a way of refusing their advances without assuming to directly say “no” while having fun. You should know that most of the time they already have their own ideas about the guy that approach them, that they have taken a negative decision in the first seconds of the interaction and that making them change their mind is very very difficult.

This feminine illogic leads to abuse: some paranoid see shit-tests everywhere. Then, know that sometimes the girl may just ask you a sincere question. Sometimes she can just ask you to pick her car because she really wants to go out with you… not in order to test your degree of submission.

The best advice I can give you to recognize such a test is to listen to your social intuition. Because, anyway, that’s not so important whether you are dealing with a shit-test or not if you always react more or less the same way (alpha way).

How to answer?

The best way to pass these tests is to respond with humor and detachment (but not too much ironically because it would be stupid to block a girl who liked you). Please do not get mad even if you have passed the age of examinations (and even if the girl who tests you is a stupid one that allows herself to judge), do not respond so too hard nor too aggressively. Please do not take all that literally and do not always try to really answer. Otherwise, there’s enough to go crazy!

This is your inner game of alpha male that must underlie all your answers: you have to impose your frame, your reality! You need to communicate that (in outline) as a man, you assume fully the fact that you like women, you have no apologies to make nor to justify yourself for your desire to meet and seduce. You must also communicate that you are not a manipulator, that you are sincere, and that indeed, you are a good lover.

So take advantage of shit-tests (since they are part of the game anyway) to show that you have nothing to hide, you are mature, credible and do not try to play the usual bullshit that women have heard 1000 times before you. Reassure by showing that you are someone she can go around with and not a crazy sex-starved opportunist pervert. Besides the more you will become an alpha, the more the correct answers will come to you naturally.

Note that sometimes it is useless to answer in a very crafted way. If a girl tells you eg “I have a boyfriend” or “I am a lesbian”, these are not really shit-tests! Indeed, an intelligent woman who would be interested would logically not tell you that, or at least not immediately. Or if it was, too bad for her, she needs to be less pervert in the future, it would have avoided her to miss a great guy. But since you never really know if it’s a shit-test or if the girl does not give a shit about you, it is important not to spend hours searching for a good answer!

In all cases, always leave the interaction with pride “too bad :)”. Because, in fact, it’s too bad for you who won’t fuck a beautiful girl (but apparently she did not deserve you.) But it is especially the girl who misses a good guy good in bed like you. Instead, she will get banged by selfish premature losers, and will have only what she deserves…

Concrete examples?

Be aware that women all like to think they are original but, in fact, you will still see some of the same tests. Here are some typical ones:

“Do you regularly approach girls like that?”
If you say yes, you’re dead because girls like to feel a little bit unique.
If you say no, you’re dead because the girl will take you for a smooth talker.
You can answer “only the girls I like.”

“That’s what you say to every women?”
You can say: “Yes, every single one, even my mom;).”
Or in less incestuous mode : “What’s the difference? The important thing is that I say it to you, right? “

“What do the girls you meet usually say when you tell them that?”
You can say: “Why, do you need the opinion of others before taking a decision?”

“Why should I give you my number?”
You can say: “There’s no obligation, do it only if you want to enjoy like crazy after a nice date.”

“You’re a little perverse. ”
You can say: “Thank you but I just assume unlike many”.

“You are small.”
You can say: “Horizontally, it is not important.”
Or: “It’s better than I was stupid and bad in bed.”

“I’m sure you’ve got no balls!”
You can answer with a kissclose. Sometimes arguing with words is useless.

Do not forget that we are testing women too when approaching them (oddly when they realize that we test them too a lot of them take it quite badly, like if it was an offense when we just do turn their guns against them)! Indeed, with the high number of bitches out there, we need stuff to see quickly if one is a bitch or a nice girl. So their reaction and attitude will be crucial. Personally, when I approach a woman, it is still far from won for her! We are often forced to take the first step but it does not mean that one must be ready to tolerate anything for ejaculating in a pussy, that would be a sex-starved reasoning.

If they are not invested enough or if they are a too annoying behavior (eg too much ridiculous shit-tests already heard 1000 times) then you are entitled to troll them before leaving, with pride.